Is the inverse of Externally Influenced Ed known as the Onoes?
Thats a good thing
The Article is saying DON'T be like Externally Influenced Ed. If I'm the inverse, I'm doing it exactly right.
As far as whats going on with all of you....
Tarrant, you're doing the right thing, as you know, as everyone agree's. As far as your son, I really, really think he's at the right age (assuming you can make things as amicable as possible) for this to impact him in the least amount. When I divorced my kids were 3 and 5, and they are both doing awesome. The trick for me, was just not really letting them know too much. Kids just want to be safe and loved and made happy, and at that age, they can't really wrap their heads around anything too complicated. If your son see's you worked up, crying, ect. it's going to freak him out. If instead he see's you going along like everything is happening totally normally "Check it out dude, we get to have another house! Isn't that awesome? We'll bring half your toys and stuff here and you can have TWO rooms, one in moms house and one here at dads house. Isn't that awesome? Then mom and dad can just take turns on where you are, because we both love you so much, so that's fair, right?" That kind of thing. My kids ate it up, and if anything, they should remember the divorce (if at all) as a super fun exciting thing. They are about to hit 5 and 7, and they've never even asked what happened, or anything, to them, it's normal.
I'm sure it helps a ton that I'm on crazy good terms with their mom, but yeah, it can work out totally fine for the kid, it's doable, just keep him as far away from bad shit as possible, like you do every day, easy peasy.
As for Khane's thing. I get why you were annoyed with it, but I guess I'm in the minority that think you may have over-reacted. Me personally, I would have told her that testing me like that is not cool, and that I'm not interested in playing games, but I would have given her the opportunity to apologize and move on. I get the impression that you two weren't really right for each other anyway though, so ultimately no big deal, I just don't know why you would date someone for 6 weeks knowing that it's not going to go anywhere? Again though, its just different attitudes I guess. I think what you call dating, I would just call casual sex? I call something dating when I think there is potential for a long term relationship, which I never really got the impression you thought this girl could be. Either way /meh, sounds like you guys weren't compatible and you broke up.
