Khane
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You keep saying I don't trust women. It has nothing to do with trust and everything to do with being steadfast.
Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Phazael
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Actually mostly agree with a_skeleton_03 on this, though the wife and I have separate accounts and one shared savings we dump excess money into to take care of bills and so on. Without trust, there is no point of any relationship, let alone a marriage.
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Khane
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Tarrant, as someone who has been divorced and is considering it again. Did you have joint accounts in your first relationship? Did you wish you didn't? Do you have joint accounts now?about not trusting them?
sorry, couldn't help myself.
And not at all as a slight but an honest question.
Pre-nups and separation of finances seem logical to me. This isn't about trust but about being reasonable about my future and all its possibilities. I refuse to be forced into what I feel is foolishness by the blindness that tends to accompany love.
Khane
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Eh, it's certainly possible. But I think it has more to do with not having met a woman who really lights my fire than actually sabotaging a good thing because I can't handle "forever". I've got no regrets.
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My wife and I have a joint account, but we also maintain separate accounts for our own spending. I'm not really in a rush to change that, but I wouldn't mind if we just had one account either. It would definitely make financial planning much easier. Both have pros and cons Khane but it's stupid to say with certainty that there are no benefits to joining together. That's just dishonest.
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You guys are nuts. Me and the wife did it because it was a common decision that worked for us. Some people don't want to do that. No skin off my sack.
Oh please it has very little to do with love. You wouldn't run a two man business with someone without joint control of the accounts.
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I've had joint accounts with both....however for the last year or so I wish I hadn't with the current. She bitches for every nickle spent but is fine with herself doing whatever she wants. It's just be easier I feel with the type of person she is to have our own money.
I don't feel it's a trust issue at all to have separate accounts and should I ever be in a live together relationship again where she wants joint accounts...I'll probably agree to one we both pool into, but I'm defiantly keeping an account separate.
I live with my girlfriend, we've dated for years and both make well into six figures (though hers is 90% salary/10% bonus and mine is about 50% salary/50% bonus). Separate accounts all the way. We split all the household bills and rent 50/50, along with shared groceries, dinners, etc. If one of us pays a little more during the month for incidental expenses, that person pays less rent to true everything up each month. I can't imagine having a joint account, ever.
Khane
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A business would have a corporate account that wasn't tied to my personal financial future. The business liability would also be removed from both of us personally. You make the worst analogies out of probably anyone on this forum.
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Khane
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Is an Individual Bank Account Considered Joint Property in a Divorce? | LegalZoom: Legal Info
Specifically in regards to the Commingling portion. But most of it has to do with time. The longer you're married the less it matters. And if it's a long marriage well I guess you had it good and did it right for a while so why bicker now. But a lot of marriages don't last long enough for assets to become indistinguishable and I'd like to protect myself.
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If you're going to do it that way, keep your pre-martial money separate from the post-marital money. Any income you make after marriage is 1/2 hers. Assuming that goes in your "separate" bank account, thats commingling marital and separate assets.
Khane
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I guess maybe I wasn't clear on what I meant? That's the entire point of not having joint accounts. The second you remove your assets from your separate accounts and commingle with your joint accounts it doesn't matter when it was earned.
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Whether you have a joint account or not you need to keep post marriage and pre marriage money separate from each other because 1/2 your earnings are hers post-marriage (barring a prenup) so if you just keep one separate account, your commingling. Get it?