Sex, Masturbation, and burnt holes in yo dick Thread

Basically what tarrant said. Also made sure to express the "you can always come to me with questions" and told him I would buy him condoms if he needed them, both of which I knew he'd never follow up on. Also made sure to try and impress as much as possible how much a pregnancy will derail your life. To which he said "don't worry, I want to go to college and get a good job", which was cool I guess. I waited until I knew he'd had some anatomy sort of learnin in that there school buildin from the librals too.

Will the girls be mom's job? That's one of the many nightmarish things I can't imagine about having daughters. Ugh.

One of the big things is to normalise sex and sexuality. Make it not a taboo subject, something that doesn't draw any kind of consistent negative response. We're pretty open about sex in our house and I'm pretty pleased with the way my 15 year old twin daughters think and talk about sex.

lurkingdirk_sl said:

We're pretty open about sex in our house and I'm pretty pleased with the way my 15 year old twin daughters think and talk about sex.

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This just doesn't sound right at all...

All you shitlords indoctrinating your kids with traditional gender roles. WHAT IF ONE OF THEM WANTS TO BE A POTATO?

Famm_sl said:

This just doesn't sound right at all...

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Could probably have been worded better, but it is true.

I was never given "the talk." (Did my own research via Google in sixth grade.) Sex is an extremely taboo subject in the household. I think my parents are a bit more relaxed now than they were when I was in middle school, but I doubt it will ever come up in coversation.

See, and that's not cool. Don't make it a taboo or dirty subject. Make sex a natural, normal part of life that can come up at any time.

Wait until they move out.

lurkingdirk_sl said:

See, and that's not cool. Don't make it a taboo or dirty subject. Make sex a natural, normal part of life that can come up at any time.

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I'm just curious since I grew up in exactly the opposite style household (yay Puritans), do you worry about or do the kids end up saying dumb things at school and getting in trouble because of it?

Palum_sl said:

I'm just curious since I grew up in exactly the opposite style household (yay Puritans), do you worry about or do the kids end up saying dumb things at school and getting in trouble because of it?

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No, actually. If they say anything someone has a problem with, I welcome the discussion. I am entirely appropriate with my children, if they have appropriate conversations, which I trust them to do, bring on whatever discussion that brings up.

Palum_sl said:

I'm just curious since I grew up in exactly the opposite style household (yay Puritans), do you worry about or do the kids end up saying dumb things at school and getting in trouble because of it?

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That sounds as silly to me as saying talking to them about it will make them promiscuous or something.

Famm_sl said:

That sounds as silly to me as saying talking to them about it will make them promiscuous or something.

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Nah I just liken it to 'being honest' about swear words and then you find out they've been swearing to everyone at school to show off how much they know about secret adult stuff. I mean, it happened to a friend, yea...

False equivalence? Certain kids are going to show off their "knowledge" of sex topics regardless. I think a well educated kid will be better than a kid who parrots some wrong bullshit heard somewhere else. If you raised the kids in a way, or their personality is such that they are attention seeking troublemakers then that's probably the bigger issue than having been told things in a responsible manner at home.

I was never given the talk, but by that age I had already seen full porn vhs tapes at my buddies house. I was a bit confused at age 13 because the dude came on the chicks bush (1970s movie) and I thought foolishly that he was fertilizing her. Got that straightened out later.

Turned out alright in the long run, but I'm not from the ghetto or Africa where it's common for people just to fuck and bear children all day.

Big Phoenix_sl said:

Is this even required in the age of the internet? Also why are parents so scared about talking about sex? Did you guy curl up in horror when it came time to teach your kids how to use a toilet?

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Yeah, it's required. The "sex talk" isn't mechanics. They know to insert tab a into slot b. It's a lot more about respecting yourself, figuring out what sex looks like in a healthy relationship, when it is appropriate, and how to not let others pressure you in to making decisions you regret later.

Is just giving your son the link to xvideos and saying have at it a bad thing?

Woah. We just had a conversation at work about this Friday.

My son sent a "sexy" pic to some chick. (It really wasn't bad). He's 14 now. She is 17. The girl sent him titties. I nipped that in the bud fast.

That night I straight up told him. No sex. No sex/kids until you graduate college as far as I am concerned. I was extremely stern. I actually grabbed his arm. I made sure he understood why. His mother thought I handled it all wrong. She thought I should talk about the birds and the bees, and not explain to him why these little thots would want to get with him at age 14.

Did I overreact? Probably, but I REALLY want to make sure he understands how serious his life and future is to me, and should be for himself.

People at work heard the convo of me and his mother disagreeing. They thought I should be buying him condoms, not scaring him into thinking all girls are evil. I personally think me buying him condoms condones sex btw.

Thoughts?