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sleevedraw

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If genders were flipped would y'all be cheering me on for finding a sugar daddy? 🤔

No, and I still wouldn't be cheering you on if your gender wasn't flipped and you found yourself a sugar daddy.
 
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moonarchia

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If genders were switched we'd tell you to stop being an emotional bitch and realize Chad is just going to pump and dump you. Once a cheater always a cheater. If you just want to get your dick wet for a while, go for it, but limit the level of destruction she can wreak upon your life when she ditches you for the next guy.
 
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Mudcrush Durtfeet

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I mean, I've seen similar things happen to a couple of friends of mine. The woman strings them along for however long, then makes up with the husband or something. Sometimes the woman is just trying to get the husband jealous or whatever.

But anywho, you're an adult and can make your own decisions. Perhaps you'll prove us all wrong.

Sure.
 
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Ossoi

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She has not pressed the sex, surprisingly. Lots of snuggling tho.

If you haven't fucked her yet then this is already over.

If you haven't fucked her yet but already have feelings then this is already over.

If you haven't fucked her yet but thought a forum full of washed up EQ boomers who call anything that isn't heterosexual vanilla missionary with their human wife "degeneracy" could give you relevant advice then this is already over.
 
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TJT

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Hit it and quit it, don't get too attached.

If you're not capable of this, stay away.
 

Mahes

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Ill bite,

As others have said, this feels like a "Have some fun and move on" kind of scenario.

She is using the 3 year old as an excuse. I know for a fact(Read personal experience) that a 3 year old would not remember all that much if a divorce took place. Of course the longer that goes, the more likely the kid will remember. You say she has her life in order but then she is having fun with you. That is not order. That is chaos. I have a feeling that she is having fun but in no way will she actually leave her husband.

Actions mean a lot more than words. Always assume, in serious situations, that a person is lying until their actions prove otherwise. Some questions not answered...

Has she expressed her feelings about you? Are you fine with taking the responsibility of a 3 year old?

It sounds like you have more feelings for her than she has for you. Sex does not equal love. Love enhances sex but in no way does love have to be involved to enjoy sex. If you really want to know how she feels for you...

Ghost her.

If she starts trying to contact you, then at least something might be there. Realize of course that the something might be equivalent to "Friends with benefits", and not a real relationship. If this is the case, then for your sake, I would move on, if a relationship is what you are looking for. It will only hurt you, as she has a buffer with her marriage. Just tell her that she can always call you back when she gets the divorce.
 
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pharmakos

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Has she expressed her feelings about you? Are you fine with taking the responsibility of a 3 year old?
I have ALWAYS wanted to be a father but am sterile since chemotherapy. The idea of adopting a child actually sounds wonderful to me. If things do work out long term I would like to adopt not just her daughter but another needy child or two. Especially with someone who can afford to give them such a nice life like she can.

She has expressed her feelings. Actually in a way I feel like she has more feelings for me than I do for her -- there was another woman (closer to my age) I was crazy about before I met this new woman, and the transition away from that has been slow if I'm honest. I don't think things were ever going to work out with the younger one tho, way too many issues and hold-ups. Gorgeous woman that's been single for four years and seems.literallt afraid of love. Finding someone not afraid to go for it right after that has been refreshing I suppose.
 

pharmakos

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Ghost her.

If she starts trying to contact you, then at least something might be there.
And I could never play games like that with someone to test and manipulate them. Worst advice in this thread. The Golden Rule applies to dating.
 

TJT

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Fine dude. If you must go this route keep your expectations low until she actually divorces or moves out of the house she shares with the husband. If neither of these things even get started in the next 90 days she is fucking with you and has no intentions of either anytime soon.
 
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Borzak

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I still date. Mostly I date woman I met and knew from way before the world went to shit. All not married of course. My current girlfriend is a widow. From what you describe I wouldn't even finish the email/tinder or whatever it came from. Sounds like a good way to end up a statistic, and not in a good way.

You know how people say socialism will work th is time because it's not really been tried the right way....Sounds like this will work out great for the first time ever because it's gonna be done the right way. Yeah that's the ticket.
 
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Zzen

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I still date. Mostly I date woman I met and knew from way before the world went to shit. All not married of course. My current girlfriend is a widow. From what you describe I wouldn't even finish the email/tinder or whatever it came from. Sounds like a good way to end up a statistic, and not in a good way.

You know how people say socialism will work th is time because it's not really been tried the right way....Sounds like this will work out great for the first time ever because it's gonna be done the right way. Yeah that's the ticket.

Pretty much this meme irl

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pharmakos

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Fine dude. If you must go this route keep your expectations low until she actually divorces or moves out of the house she shares with the husband. If neither of these things even get started in the next 90 days she is fucking with you and has no intentions of either anytime soon.
This is about where I stood before I started the thread and yeah. I appreciate everyone's advice tho (genuinely wasn't looking for the forum to cheer me on despite gavinmad's bitching). Definitely wait and see phase. All the words of warning definitely will help me maintain cautiousness thanks guys.
 
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Chukzombi

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OMG Chuk liked my post. Your approval fills me with shame.
its the holidays, even an inferior race shaman like you deserves some love this time of year. plus i have been in a relationship since the end of November, i'm still in the happy stage of it. although i see warning signs my chick is starting to go psycho. she wants me to delete all the photos on my facebook of other women that arent her. i'm like, "NO. those pictures remain." she didnt like that. i'm not going to disrespect my other girls just to please this one.
 
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Borzak

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A hard dick has no morals. Or so I've been told. Pretty sure they dont think clearly either.
 
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pharmakos

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I never bothered to Google her name before. Just did and found her LinkedIn and Twitter. She's definitely not lying about being a high ranking executive or about her former involvement in South American politics. Huge web presence!
 

pharmakos

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its the holidays, even an inferior race shaman like you deserves some love this time of year. plus i have been in a relationship since the end of November, i'm still in the happy stage of it. although i see warning signs my chick is starting to go psycho. she wants me to delete all the photos on my facebook of other women that arent her. i'm like, "NO. those pictures remain." she didnt like that. i'm not going to disrespect my other girls just to please this one.
I probably am not one to talk but she does not sound like a keeper. I was the big man on campus back in my college days and dated a LOT of jealous and possessive women like that. That's a huge red flag. If she's like my exes, soon you'll come home to find she logged on your Facebook without your permission and deleted them all herself

On the desktop version of Facebook buried in the options is a feature that lets you download your entire profile. Every picture every post everything ever on your FB profile. You might want to do that.
 
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Chukzombi

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I probably am not one to talk but she does not sound like a keeper. I was the big man on campus back in my college days and dated a LOT of jealous and possessive women like that. That's a huge red flag. If she's like my exes, soon you'll come home to find she logged on your Facebook without your permission and deleted them all herself

On the desktop version of Facebook buried in the options is a feature that lets you download your entire profile. Every picture every post everything ever on your FB profile. You might want to do that.
oh, i know she isnt a keeper already. but for now its fun to do couple things and pillow talk. no way that chick is ever getting my passwords to anything. i'm not worried, been dealing with crazy my whole life. this aint my first rodeo. still waiting on my highschool sweetheart to come around. she's a born again christian and thats a whole nother ball of crazy to look forward to dealing with. my dad was born again so i know what to expect at least. she wants us to sell everything and start over again in Hawaii. she was stationed at the USS Arizona as an honor guard when she was in the navy and she loves that place. if i'm fucknuts crazy enough to do that, i'm gonna hit up Zapatta Zapatta for help. :p
 
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Onoes

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I mean... exactly what everyone else is saying. I would tell her that you aren't looking to get involved with a married woman, and while you hope this might lead to something, until that divorce paperwork is turned in nothing between you two can happen.

And yeah, when your kid is super young like that is the best time to get a divorce, so her argument there is dumb.
 
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