The new mirrorless cameras can produce on par if not better than just about any non full frame camera. IMO if you're going to go DSLR, go big or go home. Otherwise spend $500 and get a NEX-5R with a fast lens and a wide lens and call it a day (or a cheaper route with the $650 kit, but you're not getting a sexy fast lens). That camera will out perform most low-mid range DSLR's in IQ, FPS, focusing, and it's easy to carry. You can also control all your major settings in manual mode just like with a DSLR, or go completely auto.
Sony NEX-5R 16.1 MP Compact Interchangeable Lens Digital Camera with 18-55mm Lenses
Sony NEX-5R 16.1 MP Compact Interchangeable Lens Digital Camera with 18-55mm Lenses