Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Brad2770

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Phazael said:
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Most likely, but I really wanted to chat with her one last time with a new frame of mind. Before it was optimism and considering things might actually happen. Going back with my hopes lowered, I might have picked up on things that I didn’t notice before.

I didn’t go.
 
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I think my record when I was younger was about 12 times in one day...

Even with a partner I used to have a huge sex drive, record with my girlfriend my sophomore year of college was 9 times in one day for me, and she lost count.

Now between cancer and the morphine I take for pain from the cancer, my current girlfriend and I have sex between 1-4 times a month.

She gets kind of insane if we go too long between, so I try to force myself to do it here and there...
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Is it weird that my numbers are all the same as yours?...okay its definitely weird.
 
Noodleface

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25 and 41, yikes man.

You guys are likely in different stages of your life. At 25, and a single mother, she's probably looking for a new dad for her kid. If you started dating this woman, 100% she'd be moving in with her kid and then letting loose. She'll get bored because you go to bed at 8:30PM after watching the history channel and she'll cheat on you.

I can understand that you may have common interests like video games, but you need to think about all the differences between you. There's a healthy amount of differences, and then there's a gaping hole of differences. I just can't imagine, even at only 34, to have much in common with a 25 year old.

At 41 you might need to come to terms that a lot of the women seeking a relationship may have kids. We aren't spring chickens anymore.
 
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Phazael

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Noodle hit it out of the park with that one. This is a classic case of go rub a couple out and then see if you feel the same way. She might be a good woman who made a mistake, but odds are heavily in favor of what Noodle described. She is probably not even worth getting your dick wet over, because there are easier targets with less weird drama for that purpose out there even at our age. If you are that desperate, ok I guess? But holy hell that is not just red flags, that's the warehouse of the factory that makes red flags. If she is 25 and as good looking as you say, there is more reasons than being a single mom that she is on the market.
 
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Zaara

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Phone situation sounds like bullshit, or actual worse-case scenario. If she's twenties+ and having her fucking phone meted out to her by her parents still, you're not getting into a relationship for two. The moment she starts gunning for commitment the parents would be so far up your ass you might as well be dating them too.
 
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pharmakos

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Brad2770 Brad2770 I don't think you should call it off completely. Proceed with caution I think, maybe even be bluntly honest with why you've backed off a bit, but I still get a good feeling that this could end up alright for you.

Just be cautious and I think it'll be alright. She might be into you for some of the wrong reasons, but it sounds like she's also legitimately into you for some of the RIGHT reasons too.

I'm not saying I'm completely sure it's a good idea, definitely be ready to abort, but I don't see that there's enough red flags to not at least look into things a bit further.
 
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Zaara said:
Phone situation sounds like bullshit, or actual worse-case scenario. If she's twenties+ and having her fucking phone meted out to her by her parents still, you're not getting into a relationship for two. The moment she starts gunning for commitment the parents would be so far up your ass you might as well be dating them too.
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My brother married a woman that was controlled by her parents.. to the tune of she was forced to put all wages into a savings account she couldn't touch and given allowance (at 25+). Even she had her own cell phone.
 
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I've reported you all to Amod for discussing my family's genitals.
 
Brad2770

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Brad2770 Brad2770 I don't think you should call it off completely. Proceed with caution I think, maybe even be bluntly honest with why you've backed off a bit, but I still get a good feeling that this could end up alright for you.

Just be cautious and I think it'll be alright. She might be into you for some of the wrong reasons, but it sounds like she's also legitimately into you for some of the RIGHT reasons too.

I'm not saying I'm completely sure it's a good idea, definitely be ready to abort, but I don't see that there's enough red flags to not at least look into things a bit further.
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She sent a text this morning basically saying she hadn’t dated in awhile and what few guys she considered dating were unsavory. She liked how polite I was and the thought of dating an older guy was nice, but after talking to her mom and really thinking about what she wanted, I wasn’t it.

I thanked her for her honesty and case closed.
 
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You dodged a bullet there sir.

Plus what were you really going to talk to her about. What toy she got in her Happy Meal?
 
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Phazael

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I know your dick is really angry with you right now Brad, but its the smart move and good end to this. At your age do you really want to date a woman who has to ask her parents permission first? Go rub one out and have a couple beers. Tomorrow is another day.
 
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Yeah, that sounded like a disaster. What worthwhile 25 yr old still needs permission for anything today? She obviously didn't need for the kid-making and lack of condom use. Brad, you may have to start looking for women outside of the local Mennonite watering hole....

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Brad2770

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It’s all good. She did have a sweet booty on her. But I’m not upset. I could tell she would have been a distraction and I have made a lot of progress towards purchasing a house. I don’t want to mess that up.
 
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pharmakos

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Brad2770 said:
She sent a text this morning basically saying she hadn’t dated in awhile and what few guys she considered dating were unsavory. She liked how polite I was and the thought of dating an older guy was nice, but after talking to her mom and really thinking about what she wanted, I wasn’t it.

I thanked her for her honesty and case closed.
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Well, I'm glad it ended amicably. It's rare for a girl her age to be that honest. That does again make me think she is a better person than the other people in this thread are saying, but perhaps ultimately for the best that neither of you got in too deep.
 
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