Why don't you guys just pay someone to clean your house once a month...?
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Why don't you guys just pay someone to clean your house once a month...?
Yeah you know what my house aint that bad
She used a cheat code to get out of personal responsibility. Nothing has changed.I had a similar conversation with my wife. We had an "airing of grievances" last week that actually went a lot better than I expected. One of her complaints is that I get angry too easily/often. I pulled up my literal list of grievances(that we'd already been over) and made hand gestures. She backed down but still asked if it was something I could work on. It was nice to find a compromise for once that was based on some logical middle ground.
How's that?She used a cheat code to get out of personal responsibility. Nothing has changed.
Once a month? I got kids, the place is destroyed 3 minutes after cleaningWhy don't you guys just pay someone to clean your house once a month...?
Asshole gets around because apparently hes fucking mine too!Damn Crone
ARE YOU FUCKING MY WIFE
This is exactly it for me. Not only do I not want to do anything around the house, but I also don't want to do any part of the cleaning either. The wife blames the kids, just like mentioned above, and it's true. Within a day of making the house spotless, the kids will have destroyed the whole thing. That's extremely frustrating, but can be overcome by taking a few minutes at the end of every day. Comes down to pure laziness. Wife will say that she knows she has to clean, and needs to clean, but the kids go down at night and she's so drained that she doesn't want to do a single thing except veg and watch TV. So hence it doesn't get done and the cycle repeats the next day.For me, I never had the desire to improve anything or make the house nice in any way. Why bother? The rest of it is a complete shithole anyway.
^^Once a month? I got kids, the place is destroyed 3 minutes after cleaning
What did she actually commit to changing?How's that?
How's that?
Well, maybe I said it with that purpose then. I'm tired of working 45-50 hours a week and then getting nagged for not spending enough time with my kid. I'm tired of putting up with my shitty, uninteresting, but well-paying job only to see my money all gone. I'm tired of facing the prospect of the next 20-30 years having sex once a week at best. I'm tired of having to maintain a house and 2 acres by myself. I'm tired of having a housewife but I still frequently have to help her with cleaning the kitchen or folding laundry. I'm tired of having a wife that doesn't realize the ideals she half-ass supports incidentally puts her at odds with my gender.
I know these are a list of one-sided gripes, I'm sure she has her own valid ones. Like putting up with a husband that's miserable 24/7. To that point and my overall point, you need something to look forward to. Even if it's only subconscious, you need something to anticipate to make the bullshit tenable. I don't have that right now. There's nothing at the end of the day that makes the above worthwhile.
Maybe you're right, it wasn't right to say that, and I was just lashing out.
I apologize for the blog-like posts. In these type of matters, I prefer the honesty of strangers over friends and family(yes, which I realize supports going to a counselor). And I somewhat suspect the aforementioned like her more than me.
We grew up with one too, and I really hope I can do it for my daughter before she gets too old. We have a community pool at my townhouse, but nothing beats having your own private one.I had a pool growing up and it was awesome. Huge ass inground pool. Like 18x30. Loved that shit as a kid. My house was always popular due to both that and having miles of woods directly behind the house. Like mkopec said, it mostly became less used as we got older (except for get togethers in high school when the parents were out of town), but I have very fond memories of that pool. My dad took exceptional care of it. Always sparkling and clear.
Aren't you at the latitude where pools are pretty much required?We grew up with one too, and I really hope I can do it for my daughter before she gets too old. We have a community pool at my townhouse, but nothing beats having your own private one.
I had a girlfriend with a pool in high school.
Supervise your teenagers. Just sayin'.
Think of how many bodies you could put in that thing. Pool looks huge CutleryI'd almost say you could turn it into a giant fire pit.
How many dumptrucks is it going to take to fill that thing in? More than 1.
Fuck it make it a giant coy pond. Make all your Asian neighbors jealous as fuck you got more 50x more coy than them.Probably not. But it is summer home to a fuckload of turtles.
I dunno where this prehistoric shit came from, but thankfully he meandered off.View attachment 219682
I never wanted the pool to begin with, but she "couldn't live without it." We had the house 9 years. It was open one summer.
Honestly, I'm just sad I didn't wake the fuck up sooner. I wasted a lot of my life on someone who was never a partner and never gonna appreciate anything I did.
Here's how it starts - the house is a shithole, you get annoyed and ask her to clean. She fucks off and ignores you. Then you get pissed and tell her to clean up her shit, and then she tells you that you have an anger problem and she doesn't deserve to be yelled at. Rinse and repeat for a few years until you actually start to believe that shit. Then she starts calling you abusive because you came home and "got pissed for like, no reason."
And then people start believing her because she starts the story right there and no one is ever allowed over at the house so no one sees. But once you show the whole story, who's abusing who becomes extremely apparent.
How ya gonna watch 5 kids when you only have 2 eyes?!?
There's that ole Picasso that's been gone all these years. Keep it up amigo.It takes a lot of shit to elicit sympathy for a snapping turtle but look at that poor bastard trying to learn how to climb steps so he can escape the starvation pit. Probably just had to eat his own family because the frog rations ran out.