Arbitrary
Tranny Chaser
I also have wondered what percent of people that don't like the movie are without kids. The emotional impact of the movie, specifically the entire leaving his daughter sequence, and then when she pops up as an adult on the recorded message screen, and then when she sends the message accusing him of leaivng her on earth to die (something that affects him so much he is willing to risk ending the human race to go comfort her) destroy me.
If Tom just didn't exist than sure but that character disappearing from the film completely undermines the themes of parenthood and family both in the film itself and in the meta-narrative. He wasn't just forgotten about by his father - he was forgotten about by his very creators. "Let's tell this story about a father and his daughter and how their love transcends space and time oops forgot about the son/brother" hurts it's so fucking meta. It's why I can't give it a pass. "The filmmakers forgot about him too" makes it more fucked up not less.
Some members of that audience watch that film and see themselves in the boy no one remembered. The dynamic of everyone in the family going out of their way for one child while another always has to be the one to just suck it up isn't uncommon. Tom has dreams when we see him at 15. Naw kid, you're going to a farmer. He's tough! He doesn't need all that extra attention. He doesn't need his feelings looked after. You're going to do the necessary farm work for the human race to survive until it grinds you and your own family down to dust. You will be forgotten. There's no stasis chamber waiting for you and when your father does the impossible and somehow makes it back he won't even ask your sister what happened to you before running off to find his girlfriend. Thanks for that corn you grew until you died though.
I still like the movie but it's got this dark undercurrent in it.