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Ha, that's the thing. It's a her. This is what she wants to do, so here we are.
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Ha, that's the thing. It's a her. This is what she wants to do, so here we are.
Xarpolis
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So little Tyler is being a bit difficult, compounded by my wife. He's the type of kid that likes to sleep ALL DAY LONG, but then stay awake from 11pm until 7am. Maybe quiet down for a few minutes between those hours, but he has to remain active. Must be held and constantly moving around, otherwise he screams. I've told my wife we should keep him awake more during the day so that he'll sleep at night, but stupid maternal instinct says let a sleeping kid stay asleep. Fuck what all those pediatric sleep specialists say. They're all wrong.
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Honestly our kid was like that and we let him sleep when he wanted to sleep. It fucking sucked but it gave us SOME peace. I won't tell you when it normalized
ToeMissile
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How old is he now? We've been pretty lucky, E has always slept well during the evening. She isn't much for naps though, usually just 2. Around 10am for 1.5 hrs, then once in the afternoon at 2 or 3 for 30 min to an hour.
She went through a 'I want to be held all the time' the last month or so, it's starting to taper off.
Crone
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Yea, he has his nights and days mixed up. It happens with a baby when they don't really do much to distinguish between the two. You are right, you need to keep him up during the day, and he'll pass out like the baby he is at night.
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I'd scale that back if you want to keep your sanity. They may want to do it, they may want a lot of things but that level of investment and attention probably isn't appropriate for that age of child. Boy or girl.
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I found out today that the wife is pregnant with our first child. We planned to start trying next year so this is a bit of a shock albeit a good one. I tried to sit down tonight to watch MNF and ended up wandering the house looking at all the outlets and knee high sharp corners lurking everywhere. I'm fucking terrified. Started to browse the thread randomly and immediately begin reading about demon spawns and crocodile shitting so that was comforting.
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ToeMissile
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meStevo
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So we're working through the likely possibility that we're going to become guardians of my sister's kids. They're 4 and 7, our kids are 3 and 6. 2 girls (the younger of the 4) and 2 boys.
Sister is a junkie who can't even provide for herself that we're trying to help salvage her life, their father couch surfs between a friend's and parent's house.
It's still hard to even comprehend living with this many children, let alone the daycare costs, car seat logistics (now shopping for a van/crossover w/ captain chairs and a 3rd row, seems to be the best option for easiest in/out w/ 4 car seats?) and a myriad of other things.
Complicating things they're probably both drug babies, 4 year old is probably autistic and her brother is very aggressive and has a lot of issues at school / day care.
Toss in dad being diagnosed w/ cancer (they aren't sure where it begins or ends yet) and an ER trip for me last week (just a kidney stone, but had never been to ER for myself before...) and life is just awesome.
Anyone here have this many kids? We just got Kura beds from Ikea with this possibility in mind, they are being used as bunk beds and are working through everything else as best we can.
As for custody and all that jazz, starting lawyer stuff in a couple weeks.
Sister is a junkie who can't even provide for herself that we're trying to help salvage her life, their father couch surfs between a friend's and parent's house.
It's still hard to even comprehend living with this many children, let alone the daycare costs, car seat logistics (now shopping for a van/crossover w/ captain chairs and a 3rd row, seems to be the best option for easiest in/out w/ 4 car seats?) and a myriad of other things.
Complicating things they're probably both drug babies, 4 year old is probably autistic and her brother is very aggressive and has a lot of issues at school / day care.
Toss in dad being diagnosed w/ cancer (they aren't sure where it begins or ends yet) and an ER trip for me last week (just a kidney stone, but had never been to ER for myself before...) and life is just awesome.
Anyone here have this many kids? We just got Kura beds from Ikea with this possibility in mind, they are being used as bunk beds and are working through everything else as best we can.
As for custody and all that jazz, starting lawyer stuff in a couple weeks.
As an adopted kid I tip my hat to you. You will hopefully turn those kid's lives around, I was a tiny bit younger so I didn't remember my life before much but I am quite grateful that I didn't end up with my biological parents.
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So a couple of reactions. In no particular order.
Don't worry about the number of kids. Yes, that's a lot. You can do it. While I can't speak to costs for day care, I can speak to having a gaggle of kids and dealing with what that means in real time. I don't know what you can afford, but aside from that I guarantee you can do this. You can make a home for every one of these kids without compromising your relationship with your own kids.
You can't fix your sister or her husband. If you take custody of her kids, you need a serious break from her, and so do her kids. Keep her out of the picture for at least a couple months. Don't make her nonexistent in her kids lives, but establish that you are now the guardian. Authority is likely an important boundary to make healthy in this situation.
Finally, my hat off to you. This is not a trivial commitment, and you're stepping up. You're a fucking hero.
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Crone
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In a hotel in the Boston area, and from the room next to mine I hear a kid just start screaming after a door closed. At first I thought it was yelling Stop It, which alarmed me immediately, but it changed to just "Mommy!" and complete break down tantrum screams. I go outside into the hall and the kid is banging on the hotel door. Whether it was actual Mom or not, whoever was with the child left the kid in the room alone and went and did something else. I waited in the hall for a little while and then went back in my room and called the front desk. Of course, right as I was on the phone with them whoever is in the room came back and the child is quiet again.
Having been away from my own children for over a week, I was ready to go full on Papa Bear to save this child. Everyone may have a different opinion on this, but you don't leave your fucking kid alone in the hotel room for even just 5 minutes. Fuck that, it's not ok. Wanted to post here because I'm still all fired up, and fellow parents would probably understand.
Having been away from my own children for over a week, I was ready to go full on Papa Bear to save this child. Everyone may have a different opinion on this, but you don't leave your fucking kid alone in the hotel room for even just 5 minutes. Fuck that, it's not ok. Wanted to post here because I'm still all fired up, and fellow parents would probably understand.
Woefully Inept
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Oh boy so the wife is 2 days late so far. It's usually like clockwork for her. We were told my sperm had super low motility it shouldn't have been able to make it up that far damn it!
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ToeMissile
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Definitely understand and agree with your thoughts, but how old is the kid? How long was the adult gone? Positive no other adult was in the room?
Crone
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Having 3 of my own, I'd guess 2-3 years old. Parents were gone 10 minutes.
In the grand scheme of things, I suppose not a huge deal. In the moment, I was triggered as fuck. Mainly because I had no idea how long the guardian was going to be gone. My first thought was the scumbags left the kid in the room and they went to party.
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My wife is 3 months pregnant with our 2nd. We had a miscarriage last summer at 5 weeks and got the first positive pregnancy test for this one a year to the day of the miscarriage. Had a minor scare at the first ultrasound at 8 weeks, when they found cysts on the umbilical cord but they were gone when we went back at week 12.
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