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My son (7, with autism) went to the sweetheart dance with my wife and said "no one is going to dance with me, I don't have a single friend."

That one was like a bullet through my heart.
 
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Noodleface said:
My son (7, with autism) went to the sweetheart dance with my wife and said "no one is going to dance with me, I don't have a single friend."

That one was like a bullet through my heart.
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Ask his teacher.

My buddy has a 15yo, she says the same thing. Since my buddies daughter is plenty good looking and really smart i have a feeling her parent isn't getting the full story. Maybe she isn't friends with the kids she wants to be friends with. My 4yo grandson says the same thing about preschool. This confused me a bit, so i asked his teacher. She sent about 20 pictures of him playing with other kids the next day. Maybe no one will dance because most kids are awkward and shy about stuff they aren't good at .
 
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Thanks for the response. We have a daily dialogue with the teacher because of his issues. He did have a best friend, but she moved on and he's never really recovered. Can't blame her but she was his only friend and the world to him really. It's a lot to put on a 6 year old

Edit: trying everything we can too, don't want to seem like we're sitting idly by.

He goes to every birthday party for his class. I've definitely seen kids avoiding him. He's very quirky and probably a bit more immature for his age.

We do a weekly social skills group where he plays with other neurodivergent kids. This is the highlight of his week, but still he mostly sticks to solo play.

He's in gnome surf in the summers. Basically weekly surf lessons for kids with mental disabilities. Helps with all of his motor skills and confidence.

He's in ABA which I'll be honest I'm not a fan of, but over the years we've had at least one person that was great with him.


Sorry, guess I ranted a bit there. It's definitely tough being the parent of a kid with Autism
He has bi-monthly therapy as well.
 
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Noodleface said:
Thanks for the response. We have a daily dialogue with the teacher because of his issues. He did have a best friend, but she moved on and he's never really recovered. Can't blame her but she was his only friend and the world to him really. It's a lot to put on a 6 year old

Edit: trying everything we can too, don't want to seem like we're sitting idly by.

He goes to every birthday party for his class. I've definitely seen kids avoiding him. He's very quirky and probably a bit more immature for his age.

We do a weekly social skills group where he plays with other neurodivergent kids. This is the highlight of his week, but still he mostly sticks to solo play.

He's in gnome surf in the summers. Basically weekly surf lessons for kids with mental disabilities. Helps with all of his motor skills and confidence.

He's in ABA which I'll be honest I'm not a fan of, but over the years we've had at least one person that was great with him.


Sorry, guess I ranted a bit there. It's definitely tough being the parent of a kid with Autism
He has bi-monthly therapy as well.
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Is he antisocial, asocial, or just socially awkward? That will help determine the difficulty level he is playing on. As someone on the spectrum who had to figure that shit out in order to become moderate to high functioning, I would suggest just getting him into group settings based around whatever hobbies he enjoys.
 
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moonarchia said:
Is he antisocial, asocial, or just socially awkward? That will help determine the difficulty level he is playing on. As someone on the spectrum who had to figure that shit out in order to become moderate to high functioning, I would suggest just getting him into group settings based around whatever hobbies he enjoys.
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Mostly socially awkward. He wants to play with other kids but a lot ignore him. Sometimes he just is in his own world and prefers to play by himself. It's not really antisocial, just moreso he is doing some crazy ass shit that only he knows about.

We do have him in some groups, and the good news is my oldest son's friends always include him which I love. At one of their birthdays my friends son said "hey want to come ride bikes with us?" My son got so excited he choked on his food and puked lol.
 
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Anyone have current suggestions for phones/plans for kids that would enable voice, texting, and GPS tracking without full app/internet capabilities? My son is 13 and rides his bike to and from school. I'd like him to be able to call if there's a schedule change or he gets a flat, but I'd like to avoid handing him TikTok.
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My son turned 12 month and we got him the Gabb Phone as an upgrade from the Gizmo watch. It has calling, texting, music, and some select apps that parents can approve. It doesn't have internet browsers or any social media.
 
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Noodleface said:
It's definitely tough being the parent of a kid with Autism
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I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

Sounds like his mental faculties are intact? With age will come some degree of being able to put on a normal facade which will cause its own issues but at least takes the edge off of the soul-crushing loneliness.
 
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Daughter turned 18 and on track to finish high school in a few months and has plans for careers/college. Some rough years in her early teens but she is a good kid. With help from the wife:
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Noodleface said:
My son (7, with autism) went to the sweetheart dance with my wife and said "no one is going to dance with me, I don't have a single friend."

That one was like a bullet through my heart.
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I feel you - my 5 year old daughter is autistic as well. She more or less is in her own world and plays similarly to how you describe your son.

I don't really have anything to add other than I get what you are feeling. Things like that can be heartbreaking.
 
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