Just an FYI, when I asked my friend "what can I do?", I was told the family wants to get the word out about the story. Since I have a close connection to the family (not directly, but through my close friend who I care a lot for and has been a friend of mine for a very long time), I wanted to do that. I often frequent those unsolved subs on reddit and other places, I kinda got more involved in this case from the "what if" perspective as I would any other case, but since this one hits home harder than others, it's probably inappropriate for me to do that and I didn't really think about it when I was. So I reverted the things just to ensure my involvement of the story as reported by the media or mentioned by the police gets out and not personal speculation so as not to confuse or conflict what the police have said. Not everything I removed was speculation, but I did cross check the media/police story just to make sure I didn't mention anything that wasn't mentioned there.