Why did you use a male character as your example of how to write a good female character?that is a completely shitty and weak ass excuse. You can totally make a female antagonist who is awesome and the viewers sympathize with, but the lazy way is to make her a stupid cunt who makes completely idiotic decisions with no consistency. Look at Mickey for example, he is a complete asshole but everyone loves him because he is insane and does funny shit.
Honestly, go look in any TV thread and you'll find people bitching about the wifes - Cat Stark, Skylar, Halt and Catch Fire just three examples that instantly spring to mind.
As for your atrocious plot suggestions - just lol.