Looking for suggestions for a wifi 6e mesh system.
Previously I was using a TP-Link AX3000 Wifi6 router with their RE700X mesh range extender. When I upgraded to gigabit service I discovered there's something wrong with the router and no matter what I do I can't get more than ~375Mbps out of the wired ports (and even less on wifi). After replacing cables, getting Spectrum tech to come to the house and replace the coax, etc. we narrowed it down to being the router. So I went and got a Spectrum "advanced wifi" kit and have been using that ever since. It works fine for the most part; like 925Mbps wired to my main PC, 600Mbps on the wifi5 and 6 connections, and about 1.3Gbps on my phone using 6e. I have one of their mesh pod things which is connected via ethernet (a big downside I discovered with the RE700X is that you can only use the ethernet backhaul in AP mode, which disables mesh roaming so it's useless to me). Mesh with ability to connect the second node via ethernet is required as I have a ~4000 sq. ft. house that has a brick wall separating the two sides, and wifi doesn't go through that worth a damn.
I could stick with this setup and pay the $8 a month, but I really don't like having a router I have no control over, no ability to effectively setup VLANs, etc. If I could put the base unit into AP mode and connect it to a pfSense box it would be perfect, but of course Spectrum doesn't allow that. Really don't want to spend more than about $120 (Black Friday pricing) per node if I can help it, which has me looking at TP-Link Deco XE75 or XE75 Pro, eero 6e Pro, and Google Nest Wifi Pro. Everything else I see is either too expensive or a brand I never heard of. I guess Ubiquiti is no longer allowed to be sold on Amazon so I ruled that out for now too. I really don't want to mess with PoE either; whenever I replace my current managed switches it'll be with 2.5Gbps ones, and the combo of managed+PoE is ridiculously overpriced.
Anyone have experience with the ones I listed, or a good alternative?