We wouldn't see radio signals, inverse square law would make them nothing by the time they reached us. And, as we are seeing given our own advances, societies probably wouldn't have relied on them for very long anyway.
But you're right, intelligent life is probably very rare--because intelligent life isn't the "apex" of evolution (I mean, it is, but it isn't.)...Evolution doesn't have an inevitable path--it just fills in the gaps left by the weaknesses of others. As we can see with the Dinosaurs, there are tons of other "apexes" that can happen. And, when we look at humanity, from what we know, the conditions that produced us were very, very weird (Though on the scale of the galaxy, I'm sure you'd find a few cases). But in our case, from what I've read, our intelligence only really prospered as a trait because (Ironically) climate change altered the weather quickly, but not in an ultra-violent manner. Kind of like a Goldilocks zone of environmental effects; just strong enough so that species which physically adapted died off during the shift but not so violent that our tools couldn't overcome it. Had it been anymore extreme and we would have died, any less extreme and we would have been out competed the moment another species fully adapted to it (And died.)
In those terms; it might just be that intelligence is super rare--and most planets are full of dinosaurs and shit instead. Who knows.