The Karve has 4 slots (so 120 ore), the Longship basically has infinite slots.
First 10 iron should go into a longship unless you relocate your entire base to the swamp you're going to mine.
Longship has 18 slots. Not really infinite, unless dumping ore on the longship deck works, haven't tried that.
Let's start with the key information here.
Divorced
two kids
still interested?
No loan for a car?
Mortgage on the house?
Marriage trauma?
Hidden detrimental surprises?
Sounds like you're running an entrapment.
Post a picture of her PC desktop and we'll talk further.