That's not the case as far as I can find. The ISPs are standing by their right to charge for bandwidth. While they
wouldlove the opportunity to charge for specific content transmission, I still don't see that as the case even since the 2010 FCC regs were shut down in court. That doesn't mean they aren't extorting companies, though.
Verizon's summation is fairly accurate of the technical position and their business interests. Of course you need a grain of salt due to the fact that they stand to make money form it:
Why is Netflix Buffering? Dispelling the Congestion Myth | Verizon Public Policy
However, the focal point is that all of these ISPs want Netflix to make arrangements with every ISP between them and the customer commensurate with the data they use and the infrastructure costs so that it
doesn'toverload the network. Let's not forget Netflix stands to gain financially for this as well, though. What Netflix wants is to pay their ISPs a flat rate without any care for infrastructure concerns to the end-user. They want to be subsidized by the end-user. If you have a very granite heavy geographical location with extreme installation costs or perhaps Alaska, low population and higher rates, that should be subsidized by the rest of the ISPs to provide Netflix usable bandwidth for one low cost without the need to 'negotiate' to increase bandwidth to be acceptable for Netflix services.
Netflix is not innocent in all of this, they want to make their bucks too and damn the consequences.