the reason gender matters is sometimes manginas do creepy things like invent stories and use terms like 'my bf' and other shit, and I feel that by participating in a rapport with such an individual I am becoming part of their disturbing fantasy and am de-legitamizing my own posts.
example) mangina A starts an advice post asking for help with x boyfriend because she tried to break up, but he won't leave her alone, calls her at night, she's worried for her safety but not sure what to do and now he's started hiding in the woods behind her house and leaving pieces of his body. Whiteknights 1-10 immediately chime in and provide their 2cents of advice. Suppose you're one of these whiteknights - maybe you are genuinely trying to help, and not trying to get a tit pic or online ass, but instead youre helpful post is being used as jack-off fodder by the weird ass who's reading the responses to his imagined fantasy.
Remember evelys's rape post? It probably triggered genuine emotions from people - you should feel used and upset if you are being manipulated by this.
Mangina is fine - only if they just act like any other normal poster. The moment the whole 'girl's perspective' bullshit starts coming through in their posts, they either provide proof or stop shitting up normal human discussions with their vicarious lives