Butthurt white guys, an Asian virgin and an angry lesbian walk into a bar...

If you are a man, you are part of rape culture. I know . that sounds rough. You're not a rapist, necessarily. But you do perpetuate the attitudes and behaviors commonly referred to as rape culture.

When I cross a parking lot at night and see a woman ahead of me, I do whatever I feel is appropriate to make her aware of me so that a) I don't startle her b) she has time to make herself feel safe/comfortable and c) if it's possible, I can approach in a way that's clearly friendly, in order to let her know I'm not a threat. I do this because I'm a man.

Basically, I acknowledge every woman I meet on the street, or in an elevator, or in a stairway, or wherever, in a way that indicates she's safe. I want her to feel just as comfortable as if I weren't there. I accept that any woman I encounter in public doesn't know me, and thus, all she sees is a man?-?one who is suddenly near her. I have to keep in mind her sense of space and that my presence might make her feel vulnerable. That's the key factor?-?vulnerability.

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That's why I go out of my way to use clear body language and act in a way that helps minimize a woman's fear and any related feelings. I recommend you do the same. It's seriously, like, the least any man can do in public to make women feel more comfortable in the world we share. Just be considerate of her and her space.

You may think it's unfair that we have to counteract and adjust ourselves for the ill behavior of other men. You know what? You're right. It is unfair. Is that the fault of women? Or is it the fault of the men who act abysmally and make the rest of us look bad? If issues of fairness bother you, get mad at the men who make you and your actions appear questionable.

Because when it comes to assessing a man, whatever one man is capable of, a woman must presume you are capable of. Unfortunately, that means all men must be judged by our worst example. If you think that sort of stereotyping is bullshit, how do you treat a snake you come across in the wild?
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The completely reasonable and understandable fear of men is your responsibility. You didn't create it. But you also didn't build the freeways either. Some of the things you inherit from society are cool and some of them are rape culture.


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Rape prevention is about the fact that a man must understand that saying "no" doesn't mean "yes," that when a woman is too drunk/drugged to respond that doesn't mean "yes," that being in a relationship doesn't mean "yes." Rather than focus on how women can avoid rape, or how rape culture makes an innocent man feel suspect, our focus should be: how do we, as men, stop rapes from occurring, and how do we dismantle the structures that dismiss it and change the attitudes that tolerate it?

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Don't limit yourself to being a man. Be amensch. Be a human being.

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Araysar_sl said:

Apparently this is where Tanoomba gets his talking points from:Beyond A Reasonable Doubt: Applying The Wrong Legal Standard To Establishing Consent in Rape Case

tl;dr Rape cases are now guilty before proven innocent.

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Araysar_sl said:

What is up with this coordinated onslaught on fit white males lately? Everything from femnists claiming that 1 in 4 women are raped (hahaha) to thin privilege bullshit, to checking white privilege.


What's up with all this nonsense?

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Araysar_sl said:

What is up with this coordinated onslaught on fit white males lately? Everything from femnists claiming that 1 in 4 women are raped (hahaha) to thin privilege bullshit, to checking white privilege.


What's up with all this nonsense?

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