Yeah my wife is sort of the same way. She got all pissy that I was raiding once a week at night with the guild. The thing is if she asked me to do that I wouldn't care at all, but she would much rather we spend all night watching TV together or something. I hate watching TV too, I have like one show I watch.
I'm going to compromise and raid Friday nights + Saturday morning.
That said, anyone can start their own raids. I mean that's what I did. I didn't know I'd get 20 people each week that really enjoyed it but it looks like I keep getting more people every week. I know a lot of the people coming can't raid at night consistently so I think I found the gap I needed for a successful raid.