Just a FYI.. if I make a joke about slacking in a normal mode raid, it's a joke and nothing to get panties twisted about. Most of the time, I make fun of myself. I misjudged how personal and super srs people were taking it. I was in a goof around mood - and I assume everyone else is as well, at least until the wipes start. As far as I'm concerned normal mode is for experimenting with shit, not blowing potions and getting hung up on meters. I couldn't give less of a shit, but I made a joke that I guess suggested otherwise. Being hyper-critical in an easy mode raid where everything is being one shot is supposed to be an obvious joke. It took me a bit to realize that you weren't joking back - I thought it was all part of the fun. See, I spent a long time in a guild environment where being snippy and shitty to one another was the norm and I grew incredibly fucking tired of it. Towards the end I just started putting everyone on ignore. a_skeleton_03 sure as hell knows what I mean. But I'm not trying to be like that at all. I'm not one of those assholes, I only joke to be friendly. Hell, will all the pugging I've done over the last several months I've grown used to endless wipes where the only entertainment comes from being silly.
That said, it isn't all laughs - I have NEVER handled missing out on a raid well. And frankly I don't see why I should. I was hanging around that day specifically so I wouldn't miss any heroic raids because of the holiday. I made my gripe and then, since there was nothing I could do about it and I had nothing else to do, I continued to joke about it. It probably got old fast but fuck it, I was bored and annoyed at being left out. And there were comments that may or may not have been true that certain people didn't want me there because I had hurt their feelings earlier. Which is petty and stupid and probably not true but whatever.
Also, it didn't help that I had just wasted a few hours in a pug that broke up as soon as it finished vetting all the shitty players and started killing things. God dammit I hate that. So yeah, I was already salty at that point.
tl;dr: I'm trying to be goofy and fun, not critical or hurtful. But I spent a LONG time in a guild where the latter was just fucking constant. So, old habits etc. And I really hate missing out on shit.