Dads Thread

Blazin said:

That's like a judge telling you your prison term has started over half way through, how old are you? and congratulations!

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Lol my thoughts exactly good sir!

Vandyn said:

Mine is 9 and I hear you. With all the social media and everything else going on, it's going to be a tricky balance to let her have freedom while at the same time threatening potential boyfriends with death if they treat her bad.

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I've been the good uncle. Got my neices hooked on video games. Neither of them give a shit about social media. They want nothing to do with facebook, twitter, etc... But they both have twitch accounts and watch tons of ARK streamers so I'm not sure how much better that is.

Hardest part was vetting twitch streamers. Really wish there was a 'kid friendly' flag.

Today my kid was officially diagnosed with Autism, it doesn't shock me considering my brother I grew up with who is 1 year younger has high-functioning Autism so I knew it was in the family.

Just kinda hoped my daughter dodged considering it is fairly rare in females.

Life is such bleh.

Whoever mentioned their son was having a speech delay, it may seem like a strange question but is there a history of bipolar in your family?

Swagdaddy said:

Today my kid was officially diagnosed with Autism, it doesn't shock me considering my brother I grew up with who is 1 year younger has high-functioning Autism so I knew it was in the family.

Just kinda hoped my daughter dodged considering it is fairly rare in females.

Life is such bleh.

Whoever mentioned their son was having a speech delay, it may seem like a strange question but is there a history of bipolar in your family?

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No bipolar or autism in our family (that I know of)

That's good news, my daughter spoke late and the number one indicator of the kind of problem she eventually was diagnosed with is a family history of Bipolar.

I wish you the best of luck and hope he catches up on all his timings.

5 year old and 11 month old, both boys. My 5 year old unfortunately got my athletic abilities - clumsy as fuck. Doesn't stop him from trying though which is awesome (and often hilarious assuming he doesn't hurt himself too bad). If he has to be indoors though, he's a raging screenaholic who would play video games all day if allowed.

The 11 month old has been crawling since about 5 months and will probably walk soon. I have the opposite problem with talking, neither of my kids will shut up. They both learned to say "mama" at just a few months old and "dada" around 9 months old. The youngest can now say "up" and "eat" so I pretty much hear "mama up!" or "dada eat!" like all day long.

Being a dad is awesome and watching a childs mind develop is really pretty damn amazing. Plus I get a good laugh out of kid logic

- story time - so as you all know, kids start doing strange things when they get tired (the last of which is usually wanting to go to bed). My older son is in bed by 8:30 about 90% of the time but about a month ago he was up until close to 11 for some reason I don't remember so he's getting what I like to call "drunk tired" because everything is either hilarious or upsetting to him with no in between. I finally corral him into his bed, tuck him in, do the goodnight hugs, etc. and he just bursts into full on tears right as I'm walking out. For a solid minute he's inconsolable but finally calms down and tells me that he is sad because he does not want to ever move out of our house. Let's back up to a week ago, we had some conversation I barely recall about how when kids grow up they move out into their own houses. This was just like a brief topic in the giant spider web of conversation that one has with a five year old and I don't recall him thinking anything of it at the time. Well, apparently he had been stressing about that for a week or so and now in his moment of tired weakness, he just couldn't handle it any more. So now I've promised that he never has to move out... I hope he doesn't hold me to that.

alavaz you know what's funny is I still remember certain things my dad would say to me when I was 5 or 6 and I held onto them for whatever reason. Just dumb stuff, like he once told me dogs couldn't look up and for a long time I just accepted it as fact and was sad that my dog could never see above eye level

Blazin said:

That's like a judge telling you your prison term has started over half way through, how old are you? and congratulations!

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Thanks! That's one way to see it I guess I'm 43 in a couple of weeks, only had the 14 year old since she was 9 so I missed all of the stuff I get now with the baby. He's amazing, but Jesus I'm tired.

alavaz said:

- story time - so as you all know, kids start doing strange things when they get tired (the last of which is usually wanting to go to bed). My older son is in bed by 8:30 about 90% of the time but about a month ago he was up until close to 11 for some reason I don't remember so he's getting what I like to call "drunk tired" because everything is either hilarious or upsetting to him with no in between. I finally corral him into his bed, tuck him in, do the goodnight hugs, etc. and he just bursts into full on tears right as I'm walking out. For a solid minute he's inconsolable but finally calms down and tells me that he is sad because he does not want to ever move out of our house. Let's back up to a week ago, we had some conversation I barely recall about how when kids grow up they move out into their own houses. This was just like a brief topic in the giant spider web of conversation that one has with a five year old and I don't recall him thinking anything of it at the time. Well, apparently he had been stressing about that for a week or so and now in his moment of tired weakness, he just couldn't handle it any more. So now I've promised that he never has to move out... I hope he doesn't hold me to that.

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My oldest girl has an insane memory, she is 5 - and she remembers everything - and not just stuff you casually mention but stuff from before her logic and stuff started to sprout - if something, anything triggers an old memory of hers she will reprocess it and bring it up. like something the wife and I discussed when she was like 1 or 2 if it triggers her little quest brackets [Old Baby Doll] - boom a full out recollection and more advanced child logic process of the entire happening will happen.

She even remembers responses we would give to her "silly baby questions" and re ask them and call us out on new responses due to her age- this kid is going to be brilliantly maddening intelligent... takes after her darn mother >_<... Asians...sheesh....I just hope I can keep her able to interact with normal humans - I got a super plus ultra high A type on my hands.

ToeMissile said:

First child, daughter, due right at the end of January. Equal parts excited and concerned I guess.

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Congratulations! We just found out my wife is pregnant. She should be due end of March. It was not planned but we were going to start trying next year. I am quite excited but nervous at the same time.

Congratulations.
I have 3 boys. 13, 4 , and 7 months.
I love them all. For the most part I am emotionless as fuck, but the thought of anything bad happening to them, gets me right in the feeling.
They're fun and awesome. My 4 year old and much 13 year old, both think they are comedians.
Enjoy it man. Nothing better than watching them grow, learn, and develop personalities.

Ghetto216 said:

Congratulations.
I have 3 boys. 13, 4 , and 7 months.
I love them all. For the most part I am emotionless as fuck, but the thought of anything bad happening to them, gets me right in the feeling.
They're fun and awesome. My 4 year old and much 13 year old, both think they are comedians.
Enjoy it man. Nothing better than watching them grow, learn, and develop personalities.

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Yeah man I agree with the first part. I'm a pretty stone faced dude and honestly the last time I cried was when I put down my dog like 8 years ago. When I think about anything happening to my little man or my wife or I (that would affect him) I do get a little choked up for a minute.

The worst was I watched dear Zachary when he was just born and I felt the feels hard that day.

Noodleface said:

Yeah man I agree with the first part. I'm a pretty stone faced dude and honestly the last time I cried was when I put down my dog like 8 years ago. When I think about anything happening to my little man or my wife or I (that would affect him) I do get a little choked up for a minute.

The worst was I watched dear Zachary when he was just born and I felt the feels hard that day.

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I watched all my boys being delivered, and each time I caught a case of the feels. Or I guess more I swelled with pride each time. Like a king adding to his lineage. Boys to become men, who would start their own small kingdoms in this turd of a world.

Noodleface said:

Yeah man I agree with the first part. I'm a pretty stone faced dude and honestly the last time I cried was when I put down my dog like 8 years ago. When I think about anything happening to my little man or my wife or I (that would affect him) I do get a little choked up for a minute.

The worst was I watched dear Zachary when he was just born and I felt the feels hard that day.

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Don't bring up Dear Zachery in the dad thread! Jesus....just thinking about that documentary and I am hit in the feels!

Myst said:

Congratulations! We just found out my wife is pregnant. She should be due end of March. It was not planned but we were going to start trying next year. I am quite excited but nervous at the same time.

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Totally normal to be nervous and excited. You are going to have a blast. You learn what true love is when you raise kids. You will move heaven and earth for them.

ToeMissile said:

First child, daughter, due right at the end of January. Equal parts excited and concerned I guess.

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Myst said:

Congratulations! We just found out my wife is pregnant. She should be due end of March. It was not planned but we were going to start trying next year. I am quite excited but nervous at the same time.

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Congrats both.

My mother was a woman of the sixties and believed in non authoritarian parenting. I was a wild kid and would have needed some boundaries, but my parents didn't give me any and I payed dearly for it in school, and somehow, still do today, because I have problems with authority.

Anyhow, when my whife became pregnat, we discussed parenting theory a lot and came to some ground rules.

One thing I hated as a kid was being lied to, and my parents did that all the time, even when it was totally unnessecary. So I vowed to never lie to my daiughter and never did, until today. So, when she asked questions as a 4 year old kid ("Where do babies come from?") we answered truthfully ("From a woman's tomb") but when she asked further, we told her she was to young for that and we would answer her when she was older. She started keeping a journal and listed everything we didn't answer and kept on asking years later, and we would tell her the truth when she was ready for it. Ir worked for us, she trusts us until today and we avoided a lot of bullshit that way.

Daughter is 17 now, and overall we are happy the way she developed.I also vowed to never hit my kid and never did. That was important to me, because my step granddad hit me badly as a kid and really hate violence. Maybe with a son this would be different, but with my daughter it worked out well.

So, this is my experience. The truth may work, and violence is not necessary. I still believe that kids have different personalities and different kids may need different pareting, who knows.