Girls who broke your heart thread

aychamo_aycono said:

If you"re talking about me having sex with girls while I was courting the girl this emo-thread is about, we talked about it a page or two back, saying that the sex with other girls was before I was sexually active with this girl. In the dating environment, it"s completely normal.

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Don"t dispute that. At all.

Don"t think having sex on the internet for people while girls are not informed they are being blasted on the interwebz is normal. as someone else said, its criminal.

I think that you see your friends having deep connections with people and you want to mimic that intimacy to "fit in" when youre with them. The way you"ve treated and spoken about women recently suggests you absolutely dont feel that way any other time (that you want to settle down).

Look you might not like the term sociopath. It DOES have a negative stigma attached to it. As sharmai correctly pointed out, it might just be who you are. It might not be. I don"t know you. But I typically am able to get pretty good reads on people, and when I read this, that"s what popped into my head.

You"re free to reject it or consider it. In the end its your life. I just think that you"d probably really benefit from some counseling.

Don"t bother, Etoille. He likes the attention, just let him masturbate to his own self-image while he continues to wallow in "pity" and has unstable relationships that end in him posting pictures on the internet and whining for a few weeks.

You"re completely unqualified to make any diagnosis, you have no patient history, and sociopath isn"t even a medical diagonsis.

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Masking yourself in semantics is a healthy sign that you"re not all there, chief. Have some of this, you only have to meet 3 of the following to be a sociopath (antisocial personality disorder) straight from the DSM 4:

• Failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest;
• Deceitfulness, as indicated by repeatedly lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure;
• Impulsivity or failure to plan ahead;
• Irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults;
• Reckless disregard for safety of self or others;
• Consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations;
• Lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another.

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2 of the 3 needed, and that"s just from what"s been posted here, Doc.

Seek therapy, or end yourself. Either one.

aychamo_aycono said:

Ok how the fuck do you know that LOL?

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I shall never reveal it!

Modern. Fucking. Therapy.

-Failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest;

Ever been young and dumb? Did something stupid? Reguaraly? Then this applies to you!! This just covered about 80% of highschool - college kids out there. Guess we are about to have an epidemic.

-Deceitfulness, as indicated by repeatedly lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure;

Ever lied? More the once? Oh fuck the world is about to end this just covered everyone out there.

-Impulsivity or failure to plan ahead;
See above.

-Irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults;
Finally on that is at least a little specific. It indicates the need for repeated offenses. Might be on to something here! Doesn"t apply to aychamo though I don"t think. Or most of us....

-Reckless disregard for safety of self or others;
Drive above speed limit? yep this is you. Jay walk? This is you. Carry a pair of siccors in a public place with the sharp end up? This is you.. Oh fuck let me guess this needs to be taken intocontextright?

-Consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations;
See current housing crisis. We have a LOT of sociopaths out there. Epidemic here we come!

-Lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another.
Hmm man rapes child. Another man cuts off rapists dick. This man does not remorse his action. This man is a sociopath by definition.



Modern. Damn. Fucking. Therapy.
It all needs massive amounts of context and interpretation to even start being useful and even then it often fails. If a man is a sociopath for going through a breakup then someone needs to have their head checked. If a man is a sociopath because he likes having multiple partners then someone needs their head checked and a history lesson. If a man is a sociopath because hes venting about a failed relationship on the interweb then someone needs more interweb experience.


AND their head checked.

I think Grobbe was being sarcastic.. I hope....

What a tangent-full thread. I"ll bite.

Was in a serious relationship for almost 2 years, knew at the beginning that she"d have to leave the state we were in eventually before I could graduate so she could go to chiropractic school... Got bored with her and stopped paying attention to her, moved away for 4 months for a school thing and we broke up while I was gone.

I"d been thinking for a while about breaking up with her but she was a really unique, intelligent, loving girl so I decided I"d finish up school and move down with her when I graduated... But by the time I"d made up my mind it was too late. We got into a fight the weekend I was going to tell her and broke up.

I wouldn"t say I"m absolutely heartbroken, since I"d had my doubts about where we were heading for some time and I had definitely become bored (we hardly ever did it towards the end of the relationship), but I still have feelings for her. The heartbreak of the situation stems from the feeling of missed opportunities and regret over past mistakes on my part. The whole "too little too late" notion was definitely a mindfuck for me, because the situation was completely turned on me. In the end, though, I think it hurt more just because she broke up with me rather me dump her after I"d reconsidered our relationship and decided to give it my best again.

I think I have Eomer"s disease, frankly, because this happens with any girl I date for more than 5-7 months. It starts out great, nothing major wrong with the girl, and I get bored and/or complacent with the relationship and end up fucking it up. I rarely ever break up with girls, though. I usually date them for big chunks of time then ignore them until they get fed up and call it quits. I"m on good terms with all of them, too.

Curiously, how did this turn from a thread about people writing their breakup stories to trying to judge me in relationships? Interesting turn of events.

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Because you are a drama queen!

Etoille,

Will you drop the fucking sociopath talk already? Do you even understand what a personality disorder is? Jesus christ, grow the fuck up. Aych likes to fuck girls, join the club of 50% of every god damn dude on earth. Jesus. This does not make him unnormal. It makes him unwilling to settle down at the moment. Stop blowing everything out of fucking proportion.

A personality disorder (such as sociopathy) is pervading into all aspects of life. Despite what you might see in some fucking movie, sociopaths are so rarely successful in life, its not even funny. Aych is in medical school, and from what I have read and can tell an all around successful and smart guy. Whats your qualifications for diagnosing people with DSM personality disorders? I doubt you have any. Take your 3 paragraphs about fucking sociopathy from wiki and stfu. Unless you have the appropriate qualifications to throw words like that shit around, just don"t. You have no fucking clue what your talking about, and you insult people who might.

Aych,

I feel for ya man. Sadly, I am pretty much the same way. I was hoping I will grow out of it, but since you are a little older then me.. You might blow my hope out of the water, lol. My whole group of friends are like this. We just are not ready to settle down yet. If we have a girlfriend or not, it doesn"t matter.. We view sex pretty much the same way you do, and find it hard to find the right girl. Instead, its usually crazies. Likewise, we have all had our hearts intensely broken one time. I won"t post my story or anything here, because mine was entirely my fault, and I completely realize that. It was a long time ago, though. I certainly have for the most part gotten over it, but I still think about her sometimes.

I am younger and probably less qualfied to give advice then some people around here, but my two cents is this: Don"t worry about it. Don"t sweat it. It will work out with her later, or it won"t and you will find someone else good for you. You gotta remember man, and as someone else pretty much said earlier.. There are lots of girls out there. Over 3 billion girls. You will find another bro, if it doesn"t work out with her.

...../lurks back into the shadows...

The Lonely Hearts Club. Awww! KEEP YOUR CHIN UP KIDDO.

this just in: doctors never have mental disorders or cover up any aspect of their personal lives which may be termed as failures and are highly likely to disclose such failures on internet message boards, and one person on an internet message board is much more qualified to speak about someone he doesn"t know than someone else who doesn"t know that person either.

also: men willing to fuck women on camera without telling them/getting their permission are obviously mentally stable.

youre right, my bad.

Its quite obvious the way you talk about mental disorders that you have no fucking clue what your talking about, Etoille. It"s not hard to spot a wiki user when you have multiple degrees in the subject, trust me. I would just stop there, if I were you.

Failures? lol. Failures do not quite do justice to a sociopath. Listen dipshit, he is in medical school, that"s for sure. How many graduate and/or medical school background checks have you passed? They don"t fuck around. If there is any type of negative history associated with you, your fucked. Sociopaths get in deep shit/go to jail. Alot. Also, most the time they abuse at least one kind of drug. All this added up does not bode well for someone getting into med school, no matter where it is.

Even if he was hiding shit from the internet, which I doubt he is seeing that he is more then willing to open up about his girl troubles and then be called a pussy and a sociopaths by retards like you, I highly doubt it would be that he is a sociopath.

You are just like those fuck ups who give kids who can"t sit down and pay attention all day ADD medicine. Just because Aych fucks some girls and shows people for + internets, that does not mean he needs a fuckin socio tag and subsequent hardcore drugs to accompany that tag.

Overall I agree with you, except for the whole "sociopaths are all fuckups" claims you"ve made. That"s completely untrue, and in fact there"s plenty of evidence that sociopathic tendencies can be VERY advantageous for some individuals in big business and finance.

Etoille said:

also: men willing to fuck women on camera without telling them/getting their permission are obviously mentally stable.

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There is so much FAIL in this statment my temple pulsates just thinking about it.

Is it the assumption that there are men who want to film their sex with women or that they want to do so without permission? Because in either case there are a LOT OF MEN who like to do just that.

Are is it the implied idea that filming someone without their permission is = to instability?


Look I got it you don"t like being filmed without your permission. got it. Lots of people don"t like that. But does it make him unstable? no. A sociopath? hell no. An inconsiderate bastard? Depends on whose asked but abnormal? Hell no.