Girls who broke your heart thread

ham said:

For clarification: she didn"t do more than kiss. It"s been the way she"s handled the aftermath.

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Right... and I"ve only had sex with 19 women... according to the lie I told my old lady when we started dating.

Look, its pretty clear this girl (she"s 22, so she"s still a fucking mentally handicapped child) has love in her heart for you. Legitimately, and thats a beautiful thing. But that means absolutely nothing at that age. She"s young, nubile and looking to explore her surroundings and the feelings she occasionally gets betwixt her legs. There is absolutely nothing wrong about that. Her approach was childish and idiotic, but she is 22 - the smartest 22 year old woman is about as intelligent as the dumbest 30 year old guy you know... the one who still pisses into gatorade bottles because he"s too lazy to take a piss while playing Madden for 14 hours straight? Ya, that guy.

Be a man. I have several friends who are habitual cheatees (is that a fucking word, because it should be) - and I have the same advice for them, always. Know your place. You are a fucking man! You are genetically superior to women in literally every meaningful way. Are you Brad Pitt? Probably not. I"m not either (though close enough). Are you fucking Jonah Hill? It literally doesn"t matter what you look like, what your job is, how much you weigh, etc - women will ALWAYS have a sense of men being men and respect that shit. If your bitch doen"t get nervous EVERY SINGLE TIME you leave the house without them, for fear of being replaced by a newer/shinier model you"re doing something wrong. Bottom line Ham - my bitch would have never gone on that trip to begin with - NOT because I wouldn"t let her, or I"d give HER shit about it... she can do what the fuck she wants.... but because she"d be terrified that I am left home alone, in a city with friends who are single and terrible with women. Thats the way it has to be. If you get jealous (and I"ve read your posts, this doesn"t seem to apply here) and give her ANY inclination that you are slobbering over her - you"ve lost. Never been cheated on in my life, because the rules are set day one. In life as in most relationships (whether they be long term, committed relationships or casual movie date-at-home fuck-fests) assholes/dickhead/jerkoff/obnoxious pricks ALWAYS finish first. EVEN if you get the hot bitch you"ve been pining after for months/years - know that some asshole like me has fucked her sixteen ways from Sunday FIRST, and WON that battle because he didn"t give a fuck about her enough to stay with her.

Enjoy being single. As a man in your late twenties, this is the time to shoot for the fucking stars! Hit triple digits, or die trying. You will NEVER regret balling too many bitches. No man in history ever sat around in the twilight of his life and said "hey Jimmy, I wish I"d fucked less!".

Now you can do it guilt free - congratulations, you have everything every married man on these forums wishes he did.... a free pass to be an obnoxious womanizer!

What the hell is the fascination or the allure of sleeping around with tons of women? Pussy is all pink on the inside and as long as you are with a women who isnt a total cunt who uses sex as a tool and is slightly open minded, what the hell are you missing out on?

Im about to be 25 and ive been with a grand total of 4 women in my life and I could give fuck all if I end up marrying her down the road and that number stays at 4.

The Ancient said:

Big P spittin truth bullets, what"s up with that? Is this a new, mellower jug?

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That was supposed to be 4 women total including my current g/f.

I just dont get the whole I wish I could sleep with a million women thing. I mean if youre in a good relationship the amount of sex you have and what youre doing it bed shouldnt leave you unsatisfied or questioning what if(Grobbees need not apply) she would do this or that.

Of course at the same time I just dont get people in general and why they do the things they do or act they way they do, men and women included.

The guy she did this with is a good enough looking guy, he"s very nice to people, and he"s a foreigner (accent). It"s why i compared it to real world earlier, a lot of people, especially that age, live too much for what they want right then and there. I wouldn"t describe her as that type of person but I would describe the situations as similar. 5 feet from this guy for 2 weeks straight. Seeing sunrises at the grand canyon, going to the golden gate bridge, etc -- Cheaters justify their actions. I know this. She didn"t justify anything. I"ve done that for her for whatever reason because I can see friends of mine or friends of friends making the same mistake. Had their been real remorse and effort to fix it when she came home, I would"ve forgiven her.

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All that ignores the fact that if she would of eventually did it at a later time if your relationship had continued on. And again cheating on someone isnt a mistake, its a shitbag despicable move that is unjustifiable or accidental in the slightest.

Its not about it being with that specific guy, its about any guy that could of been around in the future.

ham said:

A lot of your post rings true, but here"s what doesn"t. I"m not the jealous type and wasn"t giving any inclination I was slobbering over her at all prior to this. I think this actually stemmed a lot from her not feeling appreciated anymore and a lot of the "stop trying" aspect that comes with the comfort in the relationship.

Obviously lost a lot of man points at the way I"ve dealt with things since then, but I was following this code of yours (outside of making her fearful of infidelity everytime I left the house, though she was very jealous of my gfs) and it"s actually how I ended up here I think.

Even though most everyone was right and my faith in humanity takes another blow, I still somehow understand her mistake. The guy she did this with is a good enough looking guy, he"s very nice to people, and he"s a foreigner (accent). It"s why i compared it to real world earlier, a lot of people, especially that age, live too much for what they want right then and there. I wouldn"t describe her as that type of person but I would describe the situations as similar. 5 feet from this guy for 2 weeks straight. Seeing sunrises at the grand canyon, going to the golden gate bridge, etc -- Cheaters justify their actions. I know this. She didn"t justify anything. I"ve done that for her for whatever reason because I can see friends of mine or friends of friends making the same mistake. Had their been real remorse and effort to fix it when she came home, I would"ve forgiven her.

And I know everyone is going to laugh at the "sure they just kissed thing". They shared a car and rooms with 3 other people for the trip. If they did more, it would"ve been extremely difficult and in a really trashy way for nobody to know anything else went on.

For what it"s worth, I was only my girlfriends second lover and the guy before me was a boy (he"s 21 or 22 now). I know there was a lot of curiosity and "trapped" feeling there too about experiencing new things. Hell, I"ve done that

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I get it, I really do - but who/what/how that "other guy" is/does/acted/looked like didn"t matter really. She was a curious young lady, and he was convenient... if it wasn"t him, it would have been someone else I imagine. Maybe not now, but soon. For your sake, I wish she had the fucking stones to break things off with you first - but this is a 22 year old girl we"re talking about. Honesty isn"t really their thing!

@Chaotic - thats why you have to wrap that pickle up erry time! Or at the very least keep alka seltzer tabs by your bed!

@BigP - I get that line of thinking, as that is how I spent most of my college life. I was an extroverted, handsome (relatively!), athletic dude in college... but for whatever reason I was scared(? maybe not scared.. but mystified or some shit) by pretty girls. Until 24 I"d only fucked maybe 6 girls, almost all girlfriends.... After college though, something happens (always). The hot girls in college that I was too afraid to try and make a move on? Well, they are single, begin to wonder what the fuck is wrong with them for not having a boyfriend - start to realize that not only are their best days behind them (physically, which lets be honest is the 1 thing a woman can bring to a relationship that has significant value), and start to actually devalue themselves. Upon realizing this fact (for most girls, not all), the flood gates opened and I started having fun with girls. Interestingly enough, it seemed that the more chicks I started to bang led to MORE chicks being interested in me. It doesn"t make a huge heap of sense, but it is what it is.

Maybe you"ll always be cool with that number - which is cool. Who really gives a fuck anyways - I"m just relating my experience with the fairer sex to you bro"s!