I hate to say it, but I"d encourage this over the former (which if read wrong, could peg you as being controlling). I"d be more responsive to this line, but I have a pretty vulgar sense of humor.Voyce said:
You guys already know you"re over-thinkers. The main problem you have is being extremists with things. You get the advice, and take it to the extreme. Whether it"s being romantic (the box), or being a dick (punching her in the cunt). There has to be a fine line between both, and it depends on the female when it comes to which side you need to lean towards. This may blow your mind, but we are all not created equal.
A few things on her would have worked on me, or at the very least gotten my left tit out of my shirt. Some of the other things? I"d have rejected the dude as loudly as possible just to spite him for using a fucking book tip on me. Like that Mystery dude, if he walked up to me in a bar, I"d have introduced him to my gay friend...because he looks gay. I don"t even wear that much eyeliner. I don"t care how fucking slick you are, don"t be (or look like) a douche.
We see you before you get the balls to open your mouth. That"s where you need to start, find something that looks good on you. Don"t have your hair in a side-part gelled down to your melon. It doesn"t make the female shallow to look at what you"re wearing first, but what it does do is make us note that you give a shit about yourself/your appearance, and may be less prone to look likesheknockedyouup in 3-5 years. It"s also going to boost your confidence, which when you are, you really don"t need to do much; it"s obvious when a man is confident. It"s even more obvious when you"re insecure, and that is very unattractive.
Don"t be too dickish and wash away all of the bitches who have FZ"d you. Keep the one you"d like to nail/marry/whatever. Use her to bounce things off of. This is beneficial for a few reasons. The first reason is so that you have someone with a vagina on-call to get advice from, the second reason is because new girls will naturally see her as competition (we"re all bitches at the end of the day), the last reason is just in case she is the jealous type, you may have a teeny tiny chance at making the FZ chick want to jump back in the competition (don"t count on it, though - you have a better chance of making a grilled cheesus, but it isn"t unheard of).
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This is oftentimes so bizarre to read (as a female), it"s like a morbid peek into the male mind and has honest to God, took a giant shit on everything I ever thought of men. Some of the posts contain the worst advice I"ve ever seen, others have things that would likely get at least one of you in my pants (well, one has been, so let"s say two), and a few are simply endearing and make me want to hug (and immediately friend zone) the OP"s.
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Salshun,
What you posted is pretty messed up. Why did you put up with that, man? That seriously made me sad to read. I"ve been in my fair share of "abusive" relationships, but I would never put up with that. I have only been in a slightly similar position, where despite asking countless times, I never got to go out anywhere. I haven"t had the friends of my SO ever treat me like shit. Family? Oh hells yes! But never friends. Most of (all of) my exes friends end up trying to get it in after we split, since they all value the bro-code so much, anyway. But I guess that"s much different for men and women. You have portrayed yourself as a pretty confident dude, so I can"t fathom why or HOW you were able to tolerate that. What she did to you was beyond being a cunt, that was cruel. That"s coming from a full-blown r-tard who puts up with a LOT of stupid shit, too.
I"m sorry, broseph.
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I"m might make another post. I was thinking about finding a way to post some of the messages from my dating profile thingy. I just can"t find the time to do it. It may be fun (or at least entertaining) to have you guys decode them. I also have a few dates lined up over the next two weeks, should be weird since I"m no longer in California. My dad of all people, called me last night to ask if I would mind if he introduced me to someone. That"s really weird, and he must be a really amazing dude to get his approval. I"m his baby, and I"ve had to beg him to not go shoot someone before (I"m from the Midwest, after all, heh). My dad still adores one of my exes, and totally sided with him once during a fight (which was rare, and the first time I ever went to my dad for advice since I suspected I was overreacting). I"d never agree to anyone my mom picked. She once set me up with a vegetarian who only ate vegetables from a can. I"m a "meat & taters" type of girl. I"d rather die than eliminate steak from my diet, and I"d also rather buy fresh vegetables than get them from a can. Plus, this dude was so abnormally thin I"d end up having to protect him if we were ever put in that position. :O
