Here"s a new story for you all...
Last summer I met this girl. Didn?t think much of her really. She was just a good friend, someone cool to hang out with.
October comes around. I?m interested in this other girl, but she give me the boot. Not because of me she was just going through some stuff at the time, and really didn?t want to jump into a relationship at the moment. I was pretty bummed at the time (though now I?m glad that didn?t work out). My friend, the one that I met back in the summer was a great encouragement to me. We got to hang out a lot, got to know each other pretty well, and we had a lot of things in common, similar goals and such.
December comes around, and I?m thinking on asking this girl out on a more serious way, you know, making that step from friends to a relationship. The day that I was going to do it, she came to me with a problem on how one of her best friends basically called her a whore because according to him, she would lead guys on, and then nothing. I knew both of them pretty well, I knew that he was wrong, but rather he was just jealous of her hanging out with other guys. He?s had a crush on her for a long time, but she has always said no to him. Through this, I also find out about a lot of guys having a crush on her, but she always said no. She was very sad of loosing close friends. So I decided to wait a little bit on what I was about to ask her, and I was just there for her as a friend.
During one of these days I meet with my best friend . I told him all about this girl and how I was trying to start a formal relationship with her, but that it had proved to be more difficult than what I expected.
2 weeks later, when she is less emotional about the whole situation I finally tell her how I feel about her. She says that she feels the same way, but she tells me she need a bit of time to just think things through and dealing with some personal issues. Christmas break was about to begin, so I told her that I respected that and that I would be either waiting for her, or bringing it up again after the break.
During the break, she was in California, and I was in texas, but we talked almost every day for long periods of time, and when we weren?t talking we would text each other. Basically we were already in a relationship, but it wasn?t ?official? Something that was weird, but I didn?t pay much attention at the time is that whenever I said how nice and great of a friend she was, she would usually say that she wasn?t? and if I ever asked her about her past, she would tell me that she didn?t want to talk about it at the time. That was a bit of a red flag for me, but again I decided to respect her and not push her to tell me about it.
Like I said.. we talked every day (except for 2 days), and I though it was great. I came back from the break, and talking with her, I tried to talk to her about my past, just to see if she would be encouraged about talking about hers. She didn?t. And she was still getting a hard time from the friend that had a crush on her.
I asked her again to be my girlfriend. She asked me why was I interested in a girl like her, since according to her I was too nice, and she wasn?t. I asked her why would she think that, she gave me a hint that it had to do with her past, but again, she was hesitant to talk about it. She told me to give her a week. (that would be around the first days of February)
To not make the story too long, through a series of events during that week, I found out that during those 2 days that we didn?t talk during the break, it was because she was having sex with my best friend. I had to confront both of them (because they were going to meet to do it again). And well, it really sucked. At that point I was sure she wasn?t for me. But the fool guy in me didn?t want to loose his friends.
Basically I forgave both of them. The both felt pretty guilty, especially her. And she even felt guiltier because I didn?t hate her, but in fact was still being nice to her.
Now, I?m still really good friends with the guy? though her.. she has just been weird to me since then. She doesn?t talk to me unless she has to or a initiate it. Basically its just a one sided friendship now. With no explanation. Everytime we talk she just talks as if nothing was wrong but also as if we had just met? as if we had never been close at all.
On thursday I"m gonna meet with her to just ask her.... "what the heck?".. Since even when I was nice to her she has treated me like garbage
