Yea, so how about I just don"t give her my balls on a silver platter and we see how things go from there. Thanks for the advice on what not to do.Tenks said:Here is how your relationship will go. Since she is 20 and has no direction in her life I can guarantee it.
1) You will both really be into each other for a while
2) She will become more into you than you are her
3) You will counteract that by giving her your balls on a silver platter
4) She will appreciate the gesture for a while
5) She will want a "change" in her life
6) This change will eventually become you
7) She will leave you
This will occur over about 3 months. Enjoy!
Ok. I guess I just didnt go into enough. I"m not the guy that just kinda hangs out with everyone. I pretty much have a circle of friends I hang out with. She kinda fell into that circle, but we never really talked much until I moved in with them. So, its not like I didnt know her, I just had never really talked to her that much before hand. They had been together for almost 2 years at this point, but they kinda are only together because they have a kid together. Both of them openly admit that they would not be together if it wasnt for her.Eomer said:heh, I had skipped that post until Alcestis pointed it out. I went back and read it now. In response to the very end question about why does dude always end up with chicks in relationship, I offer the following: because you"re the shithead "friend" who lurks in the background around his group of buddies, waiting until their backs are turned or they"re otherwise not paying attention, and then pounces on their girlfriend.
Maybe you don"t see it that way, and obviously it doesn"t just happen all at once in one incident. But we all have that friend who we find out has exchanged numbers with our girlfriend without our knowledge, and either seeds or feeds her concerns about us or listens to her (real or imagined) concerns and plays the nice guy.
Let me put it this way: it is almost NEVER appropriate to spend time alone with your bud"s girlfriend unless you were friends with each other BEFORE the relationship, or the relationship is very long term (2-3+ years) and over time she"s been absorbed in to the group. Otherwise, whether it"s motivated or started by the guy or the girl, it"s not fucking appropriate to hang out alone with one of your friend"s women.
All of the above is moot if the woman is in a relationship with someone you don"t know. That shit is for her to worry about, and you to consider in terms of her intentions/worth.
I dunno, I read that story and thought of one of my "friends" that"s messed around with a couple of current or ex girlfriends amongst the group of guys we hang out with. I used to be good buds with him, played hockey together etc but in highschool we had a general falling out (the specific thing was he backed in to my awesome "93 Sunbird and pushed the bumper in while drunk, and then was surprised when I expected him to pay me the $75 it cost in labor to re-adjust it, I"m cheap like that). But all through junior high and high school he was the guy who was calling your girlfriend without you knowing, or offering her a ride home, or giving her a shoulder to cry on, or a back massage/rub, or when you were out of town or doing something else making dinner plans, or whatever else. He"d always deny he was up to anything, and maybe he even genuinely believed himself. But every one of his friends knew what he was like, and kept their women as far away from him as possible.
You"re that guy.
You should shoot yourself and then ask the doctor why you bleed. Dipshit~XtitanX~ said:What the fuck am I delusional about?
You act like I dont know that its fucked up, but thats just how the shit has played out. I mean, if I didnt know what I was doing was fucked up, I probably wouldnt have asked why the fuck it happens?
Fuck sake, he gets laid once by the Hound of the Baskervilles and suddenly he is King Pimp ?Antarius said:Yea, so how about I just don"t give her my balls on a silver platter and we see how things go from there. Thanks for the advice on what not to do.
In the meantime I"ll keep having sex with a hot 20 year old until she grows tired of me, which it sounds like it"ll happen before her medical problems become an issue Whether "she" wants action or a relationship honestly isn"t even my concern at this point, but I suppose I should ask her eventually.
I have always just been living in the moment with her, which doesn"t leave time to bring up stuff that I would describe as "stupid bullshit to bring up when talking to a girl" like the fact that she"s 7 years younger than me, I mean there is absolutely zero outcome that I can envision where things would be "better" if I brought that up.
lost I think you"re right about the pity party, which maybe why it"s been so successful for me that I haven"t given her any pity to her, and even tease her a little about it. But no, I"m not anywhere near Tampa.
Re: the paladin issue, things started to improve in my favor with women right around the time that I started main tanking for my guild, coincidence? I think not!
Actually, try reading what I wrote. I said you were masking your own insecurities (over being inexperienced at nearly 30) by going for women who will settle for "less". You even admitted as much yourself in your first post about the WoWbeast. I said nothing directly about this new girl.Antarius said:All I"m saying is that I"m going to take the advice given, not treat the relationship too seriously, and hopefully won"t be too heartbroken in 3 or 4 months or whenever this new girl gets bored of me.
How the fuck does that make me "king pimp"
You"re arguing 2 different things, either
A) girl is vulnerable, and therefore I"m "preying on her vulnerabilities" (ie:taking advantage of her, which I assure you I"m not)
or B) she knows exactly what she wants "right now" and doesn"t mind the fact that I"m "insecure" because the rest of my life is in good order.
A and B are not compatible, but yet somehow you"re trying to argue that both are true.
Yea, this girl isn"t "perfect" but neither am I, I don"t see what"s the problem.
So wait, I say "we"ll see what happens" and it"s "pretty insane", and down below you tell me "fuck your intentions, leave it at "I"m gonna go out with her, and I"ll tell you what happens.""Dabamf said:Now granted, Eomer talking about a 19 year old hehasn"t gone out with or even talked to in personand using words like "we"ll see what happens" is pretty insane. I know a lot about that...my roommate used to always say it. "We"ll see what happens." It just means "whatever the girl wants, I will follow."
Christ, my only fault was responding to people posting in the thread! I thought this was a discussion board?Fuck I posted that little chart half in jest but also serious, Eomer you agreed you should take the advice, then you turn around and write some monster multi-quote post in reference to her. Yea you were responding to people criticizing you, but the subject was about her. Fuck your intentions, leave it at "I"m gonna go out with her, and I"ll tell you what happens." Then, when you"re right, you can give everyone the finger for doubting you. It"s much better than "no seriously guys believe me!"
Hahahahahhahahahahahahhaha WHAT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?!Eomer said:Christ,you guysread in to shit way too much.
Do you think she"s going to contact you because she wasn"t prepared for your move? (and what kind of a move did you make, the train-watching gallery has to know) Otherwise, why not put her completely out of your mind and concentrate on your remaining options?Mission accomplished, made the move.
Objective failed, things got awkward and she left.
I didn"t try to call after she left, gonna let her get a hold of me on her own which I"m sure she will eventually.
I think she was fine with it, it"s just I think she misunderstood the reasoning for it maybe? I dunno, she"s again, pretty hard to get a firm grasp of for reading. I think she had a thing for me while I was with my recent ex, she mentioned something about it while drunk one night, but I took it as she was drunk. (mind you i was in my relationship still at the time) and when things split with my ex and I I think she was a bit scorned I didn"t head over to her.Again this is a guess, I"m not trying to analyze it to much, no real sense in doing that.Seethe said:Tarrant220 wrote:
Do you think she"s going to contact you because she wasn"t prepared for your move? (and what kind of a move did you make, the train-watching gallery has to know) Otherwise, why not put her completely out of your mind and concentrate on your remaining options?
You aresofucked and you don"t even realize it. Having once been in a position similar to yours, let me give you some advice - move the fuck out as soon as possible and stop fucking the girl. Shit will still probably hit the fan eventually but it won"t be the F5 Shitstorm that you"re currently heading towards.What the fuck am I delusional about?
You act like I dont know that its fucked up, but thats just how the shit has played out. I mean, if I didnt know what I was doing was fucked up, I probably wouldnt have asked why the fuck it happens?