But all that happened at the end of High School right? Eomer"s had a ton of posts in this thread so it"s possible I missed more then a few but even so if he had managed to bang her for a couple of weeks several years after (even if more then a dozen years) after high school, it wouldn"t be uncommon. More then a few people do that and it"s usually a nostalgia fuck but that"s it.
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Look let me try and put this another way because I can just see some of you reading Eomers story and feeling some kinship to it which will lead you into several years of unnecessary pain as you chase the impossible.
When going after a women it shouldn"t take more then 3-4 months to be officially dating. It is possible it could take up to a year or two to start dating but that"s usually due to extraneous circumstances (like you met her when she was with a man who she is soon to break up with). If you meet a single emotionally stable women whose interested in you then3-4 months is more then plenty of time.
Now how much time has Eomer put into this girl? (high school + years later a couple of weeks + uncountable years offriendzoneship?)Shudder
The way a normal relationship starts off is usually the whirlwind kind.. You meet her...everything starts to click... she laughs at your jokes, corny 1-liners, ridiculousness bad stories.... she flirts...blushes...takes irrational risks for/with you and so on. Next thing you know you arekissing, always holding hands, always hanging out and having intense passionate.... well you get the idea. Then BAM you are dating.
If this has ever happened to you then you have thought you had found some secret to being really cool and attracted this women which would be totally false. When a women is interested in you, you could call her your happy little goat cheese face and she would think it was your cute nick name for her.
What this all translates into for you (meaning anyone who is in this situation and Eomer) is that if you have put 1-2+ years into courting a women and this hasn"t whirlwind happened then you need to cut your losses and move on.
Just remember that every minute, hour, day, week, month and year you spend on these lost causes is time you could have spent running the numbers. That if you went up to every cute women (whether they looked single or not) and asked them out there is a solid chance you would hit gold several times every week.
