Girls who broke your heart thread

Tuco

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Soygen said:
Sadly, it just proves you never really know what is going on in another person"s head.
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That"s what I was thinking too.

Cam, I can"t imagine what that"s like. I"ve been married for about 10 months now and to think about that happening to me is unimaginable.

All you can do is enjoy the experience that is life and know that you"ll get over it enough emotionally where it won"t be a big deal. Small consolation but that"s all you can really hold on to.

The obvious stuff is obvious: hang out with friends, go to the gym, take up a new hobby, don"t do anything crazy.
 
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Camerous said:
MOTHER FUCKER

They have been talking for a while now. He has sent her pictures of himself and apparently she has him too but her"s have been deleted from the messages.

OMG I am so fucking pissed off... MOTHER FUCKING COCK SUCKER

HE HAS NO FUCKING JOB!! He"s a fucking stay at home dad who is living off his wife.
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My first breakup sounds so similar to this. I truly hope you feel better soon sir. Please try not to let it consume you. I too worked with the girl that I thought was perfect at the time, and after losing that job (thank you lord, because I certainly wasn"t going to quit!) I got a job that pays me twice as much with tons of benefits. Not to mention the fact that I went from dating a girl with two kids and no future to a girl with no kids, a house, a car, cooking skills, and ten times more intelligence and kindness!

There is always light at the end of the tunnel dude. You just need to stay strong and try to right the wrongs in your own life instead of holding onto the wrongs that have been done to you. Focus on self improvement and blessings will come. I know most of FOH is anti-religion or whatever, but if you can find a good church it is a great place to go for both self reflection/growth, and meeting new people.
 
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Damn man. That sounds so rough. The "you shoulda seen it comin" crew has already arrived so I just want to offer my sympathy and give one little observation.

The reason rushing into a relationship is bad isn"t because you don"t really know the person. It is because you CAN"T really know the person, no matter what. The thing is, EVERYONE is certain they know the other person deeply enough for the marriage to be safe even if it is "early." Otherwise they wouldn"t get married.

Only time (earth time, not together time) can possibly give you enough information about someone. How are they handling a bad time of the year, or go through a down phase for a few months, or adjust to a major change? So many things can only be discovered by time. So if you take anything away from this, make it that. Because the worst thing you could do is repeat the mistake, and the 2nd worst thing you can do is let it ruin your view of relationships as unpredictable and your view of women as completely untrustworthy. Time is your solution.
 
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Whoa whoa WHOA there! That"s the kind of thing that divorce lawyers love to see when salivating over your assets.
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Well actually, if he can gather information from it and show she"s been potentially seeing someone else while still in the marriage, he could well use it against her. Not the other way around.

Sucks Cam, I can"t imagine how hard it is to go through your daily routine right now.
 
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Well actually, if he can gather information from it and show she"s been potentially seeing someone else while still in the marriage, he could well use it against her. Not the other way around.

Sucks Cam, I can"t imagine how hard it is to go through your daily routine right now.
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I almost couldn"t do it this morning. I came in and I just couldn"t even fucking breath. I see her every where here and even as I sit here I can see her and I together laughing and talking. I have cried more of this woman than I have every thing that has ever happened to me in my entire life.

She sends me messages saying she still cares about me and doesn"t want to hurt me then an hour later she is telling em I am nothing to her and never have been and she never wants to talk to me again.

I am so fucking confused, hurt, broken, and alone. I sit here and I understand that by saying that I am giving in to the depression which has settled over me but because I do know I am depressed I am fighting it. I will be damned if I give her the satisfaction and destroying me.

I really appreciate all the kind words every one has said to me. Over the past years we all know what a bastard I can be but that is mostly all just show. As most any one who has played with me in a game I am not the same person. But to have people I know I have been a complete dick to come and try to say something to help me... it floors me and I am humbled by it. I thank you all.

I will survive.
 
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Stop talking to her, block her number.

Do it for a few weeks until you have control of your own life back. She crushed you, stop letting her open the wound whenever she feels like it.

Once you have a few weeks then unblock her, sort out the practical stuff and re-block her.

Only way to go man.
 
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Definitely try to get an annulment if you can, divorces are really quite horrible to go through even when everything goes smoothly. You two weren"t together long enough to have finances too mixed up with each other. She has her house and you have your business.
 
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It may not feel like it, but you should honestly be dancing in the streets. You"ve got less than a year invested in this faux relationship. Be happy for the quick and clean end.
 
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Well actually, if he can gather information from it and show she"s been potentially seeing someone else while still in the marriage, he could well use it against her. Not the other way around.

Sucks Cam, I can"t imagine how hard it is to go through your daily routine right now.
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Michigan man jailed for hacking into wife"s email; says he was doing it for welfare of her child - New York Daily News
Michigan man jailed for hacking into wife"s email; says he was doing it for welfare of her child
BY NINA MANDELL
DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITER
Sunday, December 26, 2010
Jan 03 2011, New York ? A Michigan man faces prison time for logging into a laptop at the couple"s home and reading her email.

Thirty-three-year-old Leon Walker was charged with a felony after he accessed his wife Clara Walker"s account and learned she was having an affair, the Detroit Free Press reported.

When he saw that his wife was communicating with her second husband who had previously been arrested for beating her in front of her son, Leon Walker turned the emails over to Clara Walker"s first husband and the child"s father.

That"s when Leon Walker was charged with hacking - a statute normally used to break into highly sensitized government or business computers or systems, the newspaper reported.

"I have to ask," Walker"s attorney Leon Weiss told the paper, "Don"t the prosecutors have more important things to do with their time?"

Apparently not.

Oakland County prosecutor Jessica Cooper told the paper Walker was nothing but a "hacker" who used his skills as a computer technician to break into his soon-to-be ex"s email.

Walker told the paper he was just looking out for the child.

"I was doing what I had to do," he said. "We"re talking about putting a child in danger."

Legal experts think the case could have reverberating effects for divorce cases, 45 percent of which use some sort of snooping of private accounts, the paper said.

"It"s going to be interesting because there are no clear legal answers here," one lawyer said.

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Lithose

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The only thing I found odd about your post, Cam, was that you said you didn"t fight. Most "healthy" relationships I have been in have had fights by 6 months. They may be minor, but they were there. I have only been in 1 relationship that we didn"t fight at all for like a year and it actually ended the same way yours did. (Except I was kind of relieved when it was over, too.)

Do you think she might have been using you to stabilize herself financially? Maybe she felt like if she didn"t agree to marriage, she would be fired? (I know that is a shitty thing to mention, and it"s probably not that way at all...But man, the situation is so fucked that I"m honestly confused.)



Camerous said:
She sends me messages saying she still cares about me and doesn"t want to hurt me then an hour later she is telling em I am nothing to her and never have been and she never wants to talk to me again.
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See, this is fucked up. Most black widows (My nick name for chicks who use and dump) wouldn"t do this flipping shit. They would leave and break all communication the second they got what they needed (As in financial stability for 10 months.)

She sounds like she is a real sociopath if her moods can change that quickly. I mean, I know we all joke about how unstable women are..But this is a fucking stretch for even the crazy sex.
 
Camerous

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She was 3 house payments behind when I got involved with her. She had a broken down PoS truck and couldn"t even afford to keep food and internet.

Now we are 4 payments ahead, she has a new car, and all the bills are taken from the bank account so they are paid for for a while also.

So yeah maybe that was it. Now that we have a 4g nest egg built up she doesn"t need me any more?
 
Camerous

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But here is the thing with that.. she is messing with a guy who has nothing and is nothing. Why would you throw away my income potential for that?
 
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Camerous said:
I almost couldn"t do it this morning. I came in and I just couldn"t even fucking breath. I see her every where here and even as I sit here I can see her and I together laughing and talking. I have cried more of this woman than I have every thing that has ever happened to me in my entire life.
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Go to your friends and family, surround yourself - don"t just go home t be alone and feel depressed. Go to dinner, let your people know what happened, get some hugs and support. Depending on your guy friends, possibly go out.

Camerous said:
She sends me messages saying she still cares about me and doesn"t want to hurt me then an hour later she is telling em I am nothing to her and never have been and she never wants to talk to me again.
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Cut her off. Don"t read her messages,ESPECIALLYif you two share mutual friends - let them be the go between and filter her bullshit for you. Her telling you on one hand that she cares for you but on the other hand that you are nothing to her IMHO is fucked up and manipulative, and you are better off not even reading her texts whatsoever. In a sense, be a man. Leave no doubt as to your response (don"t answer her calls, block her out, she"s dead to you) otherwise you"ll empower her with the ability to manipulate you further while kicking you when you"re down. In all likelihood she"s more afraid of her image being bad and how people see her (not wanting people to think she"s a cold hearted cunt so she tells you she cares) than she is concerned with your feelings and well being (otherwise she might have sat down with you and talked it out). I could be wrong but that"s my gut feeling here.

Camerous said:
I am so fucking confused, hurt, broken, and alone. I sit here and I understand that by saying that I am giving in to the depression which has settled over me but because I do know I am depressed I am fighting it. I will be damned if I give her the satisfaction and destroying me.
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Seriously, get out. Go hang with family and friends. Don"t be the guy that sits at home depressed waiting for the next Mrs. Camerous to walk through the door uninvited.

Camerous said:
I really appreciate all the kind words every one has said to me. Over the past years we all know what a bastard I can be but that is mostly all just show. As most any one who has played with me in a game I am not the same person. But to have people I know I have been a complete dick to come and try to say something to help me... it floors me and I am humbled by it. I thank you all.
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I"m pretty sure few of us are how we play out on FOH, and the few that are...well, we can probably guess who they are in any event.
 
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Camerous said:
She was 3 house payments behind when I got involved with her. She had a broken down PoS truck and couldn"t even afford to keep food and internet.

Now we are 4 payments ahead, she has a new car, and all the bills are taken from the bank account so they are paid for for a while also.

So yeah maybe that was it. Now that we have a 4g nest egg built up she doesn"t need me any more?
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This might be it. She was desperate for some stability, clung on to you--then she felt like she needed to stay longer, so she agreed to elevate the relationship. She didn"t do anything that would have spoiled things (Like argue) because she needed you for fiances. Once she was far enough ahead, she could leave. It sounds cold, but I have met a few chicks that do this fucking habitually. The only thing that doesn"t make sense is how long her last marriage lasted.

Let me ask. In her last marriage, did she have to work? Or was she allowed to stay at home?







Camerous said:
But here is the thing with that.. she is messing with a guy who has nothing and is nothing. Why would you throw away my income potential for that?
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Ever see Casino? I know it"s dumb to bring a movie into relationship advice...But there are tons of chicks out there like that. Who will throw away a kind, attentive and financial stable man for a fuckinghugeloser. And there is nothing anyone can do about it.
 
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