Girls who broke your heart thread

Ortega_foh

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Women can be major bitches, but you just need to rational about the situation from the get go, and you can generally avoid these terrible situations. Not once have I ever heard a story like Cam"s or my own where there wasn"t glaring warning signs. If people would just listen to their gut instead of thinking "this is the one", and being high on lust they would be much better off.

This is also a perfect example as well because Cam obviously has tons of signs pointing to this relationship being a total burden in every aspect of life (financially, mentally, and physically) and yet he will ignore all the advice here. Ignore his own conscience telling him he"s heading down the road of more pain, agony, and deceit only because he think he"s in love and being with someone that he thinks is perfect in this moment is hard to let go of. I hate to sound like a party pooper, but Cam you have less than a 1% chance of things working out. I encourage you to take the pain now instead of delaying the inevitable. Not only will you be saving yourself time, but you won"t have to suffer through the extra agony of going "Fuck, I knew this bitch was CRAZY!! How could I be so stupid, and give her another chance!!" when the next issue arises and you end up separating anyways.
 

Saidin_foh

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Just never end up like the guy I heard on the radio last night. He called in a song request because he "heard her listening to the station as he drove by her car" or some shit. He said on the radio "I just want to wish the woman I loved and dated for 6 months a Happy Birthday and I want her to know I still miss her." They broke up two years ago and he stalks her.
 

Erronius

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Camerous said:
Well even more shit has come to light and really explains every thing.

She was addicted to pain meds when she was with her husband. when she got with me I helped her get off them and she had been clean for 8 months. She went 2 weeks ago and got a perc prescription filled behind my back. She took 80 of the 90 in 2 weeks.

I talked to her mom and sister and sure enough 2 weeks ago she stopped talking to them, wouldn"t answer their phone calls any more, and stopped having any thing to do with them. She is strung out atm and is coming off them so she is all fucked in the head. If any of you have been around an addict that was in DTs they do some of the dumbest shit ever.

So now the question becomes do I just wait a few weeks till she gets off them again and try to pick up our lives? Cause I love her more than anything else in my entire life.

Fuck me. Now I don"t know wtf to do.
Cam, remember some of those stories you"ve told us here in the past about some of the women you"ve met? Off the top of my head I remember some redhead in KC and the chick in the trailer. Now, I"m really not trying to be insulting here when I say this, but if half the stories you"ve told us are true you have a habit of making questionable decisions when it comes to women. You need to ask yourself...Is this going to end up being another horror story I tell people?The likelihood of this having a fairy tale ending is minuscule at best. Don"t delude yourself, be honest here...prepare yourself for the most likely outcome (not getting back together) and move on. If on the off chance she DOES come back and seeks out treatment, I"d cross that bridge when you come to it. Otherwise you focusing on it ad nauseum in the meantime will just make you fucking miserable.

I have some good memories, and I"ve been in love to the point where I endured some pretty callous and ridiculous shit. Looking back though, I can see that I let myself be blinded and it was never worth it...but it took me a while to realize that.
 

Camerous

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Again guys thanks for all the advise and I do take and think about each one of them and how it relates to my situation and I have come to a conclusion:

I am moving on.

I have been sitting here most of the day trying to fucking do my job, talk to customers, and think about wtf is going on and I can"t do it any more. I am sick and tired of crying all the time, not being able to sleep, nor being able to eat.

If she wants to come back around it? Too damn bad. YOU fucked up not me. I did every thing, and I do mean EVERY thing, I could to make this work. If I am not worth more than a pill fuck her addict ass.

And, unfortunately, all those stories I have told here are completely true, Erronius. I just fucking fail when it comes to choosing a woman that will be with me for anything besides money or sex.

I am just so tired of it all.

FUCK WOMEN. ACQUIRE WEALTH! That"s my new motto.
 

Manseed_foh

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Camerous said:
If she wants to come back around it? Too damn bad. YOU fucked up not me. I did every thing, and I do mean EVERY thing, I could to make this work. If I am not worth more than a pill fuck her addict ass.
Remember that when she actually does try to come back. So easy to say now, but it will be even easier to make an exception and get back with her when she says she"s changed.

In my experience, people can change until they"re past their early 20s. After that, they are who they are and probably will be forever unless they get serious help. Plenty of chicks were crazy when they were 18-23, but figured it out and are normal people now. But, once you get around 25+, there is almost no chance that they will recover from whatever insanity they suffer from.
 

Cad

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Once an addict, always an addict, Cam. If she doesn"t slip back this year, it"ll be next year, or the next year. Those types of personalities are basically unstable, and you can"t rely on them with your life.

Basically, if someone will treat you this way once, they"ll treat you this way again. Cut your losses. Find someone who cares about you enough not to do that to you.
 

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Get yourself a damn good lawyer and protect your assets. Close any joint accounts the two of you have before she drains them.
 

Big Phoenix

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You helped her once and she fucked you, so fuck her.
Get yourself a damn good lawyer and protect your assets. Close any joint accounts the two of you have before she drains them.
CREDIT CARDS, Id just cancel any you have in your names and same for any debit cards.
 

brekk

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I know someone has already referenced it, but seriously Cam, go watch Casino.
 

Varadox_foh

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Camerous said:
And, unfortunately, all those stories I have told here are completely true, Erronius. I just fucking fail when it comes to choosing a woman that will be with me for anything besides money or sex.
I would suggest that once this whole debacle ends, you spend some time figuring out *why* you are constantly choosing shitty women. It could be due to something that you"re not even aware of (or so pop psychology would have us believe). Counseling should not be out of the question either (please don"t take this as a knock of any kind. It really could help!)
 

Camerous

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I never opened any accounts with her. No credit cards. Only thing we did is I got her a car loan from a friend of mine. So rest easy my friends the only thing she got is the money we had saved in her account, and all the money I spent on house payments, clothes, jewelery, ect.
 
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I know someone already said it, but at times like these, you really need to pay attention to the silver linings. Be thankful that it happened now, before you were even more invested in her - financially and...temporally?
 

OhSeven

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I must say Cam, that"s a shitty deal. A lot of guys have been through shit like that and you"re doing the right thing in moving on. Thing is you really HAVE to move on, you need to get back out there and drown your sorrow in a one night stand with a hot chick. Major confidence boost comes when a man lands a woman who was hotter than his last chick. Yea, it sounds shallow to come out and say it, but nothing helps you get over a chick than a hotter chick, least that"s how it works with me.

Also, Give these a little read, even if you don"t follow it to the letter, you should at least give some of these some consideration.

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Spoiler Alert, click show to read:The Sixteen Commandments Of Poon
by Roissy

I. Never say ?I Love You? first

Women want to feel like they have to overcome obstacles to win a man?s heart. They crave the challenge of capturing the interest of a man who has other women competing for his attention, and eventually prevailing over his grudging reluctance to award his committed exclusivity. The man who gives his emotional world away too easily robs women of the satisfaction of earning his love. Though you may be in love with her, don?t say it before she has said it. Show compassionate restraint for her need to struggle toward yin fulfillment. Inspire her to take the leap for you, and she?ll return the favor a thousandfold.

II. Make her jealous

Flirt with other women in front of her. Do not dissuade other women from flirting with you. Women will never admit this but jealousy excites them. The thought of you turning on another woman will arouse her sexually. No girl wants a man that no other woman wants. The partner who harnesses the gale storm of jealousy controls the direction of the relationship.

III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority

Forget all those romantic cliches of the leading man proclaiming his undying love for the woman who completes him. Despite whatever protestations to the contrary, women do not want to be ?The One? or the center of a man?s existence. They in fact want to subordinate themselves to a worthy man?s life purpose, to help him achieve that purpose with their feminine support, and to follow the path he lays out. You must respect a woman?s integrity and not lie to her that she is ?your everything?. She is not your everything, and if she is, she will soon not be anymore.

IV. Don?t play by her rules

If you allow a woman to make the rules she will resent you with a seething contempt even a rapist cannot inspire. The strongest woman and the most strident feminist wants to be led by, and to submit to, a more powerful man. Polarity is the core of a healthy loving relationship. She does not want the prerogative to walk all over you with her capricious demands and mercurial moods. Her emotions are a hurricane, her soul a saboteur. Think of yourself as a bulwark against her tempest. When she grasps for a pillar to steady herself against the whipping winds or yearns for an authority figure to foil her worst instincts, it is you who has to be there? strong, solid, unshakeable and immovable.

V. Adhere to the golden ratio

Give your woman 2/3 of everything she gives you. For every three calls or texts, give her two back. Three declarations of love earn two in return. Three gifts; two nights out. Give her two displays of affection and stop until she has answered with three more. When she speaks, you reply with fewer words. When she emotes, you emote less. The idea behind the golden ratio is twofold ? it establishes your greater value by making her chase you, and it demonstrates that you have the self-restraint to avoid getting swept up in her personal dramas. Refraining from reciprocating everything she does for you in equal measure instills in her the proper attitude of belief in your higher status. In her deepest loins it is what she truly wants.

VI. Keep her guessing

True to their inscrutable natures, women ask questions they don?t really want direct answers to. Woe be the man who plays it straight ? his fate is the suffering of the beta. Evade, tease, obfuscate. She thrives when she has to imagine what you?re thinking about her, and withers when she knows exactly how you feel. A woman may want financial and family security, but she does not want passion security. In the same manner, when she has displeased you, punish swiftly, but when she has done you right, reward slowly. Reward her good behavior intermittently and unpredictably and she will never tire of working hard to please you.

VII. Always keep two in the kitty

Never allow yourself to be a ?kept man?. A man with options is a man without need. It builds confidence and encourages boldness with women if there is another woman, a safety net, to catch you in case you slip and risk a breakup, divorce, or a lost prospect, leading to loneliness and a grinding dry spell. A woman knows once she has slept with a man she has abdicated a measure of her power; when she has fallen in love with him she has surrendered nearly all of it. But love is ephemeral and with time she may rediscover her power and threaten to leave you. It is her final trump card. Withdrawing all her love and all her body in an instant will rend your soul if you are faced with contemplating the empty abyss alone. Knowing there is another you can turn to for affection will fortify your will and satisfy your manhood.

VIII. Say you?re sorry only when absolutely necessary

Do not say you?re sorry for every wrong thing you do. It is a posture of submission that no man should reflexively adopt, no matter how alpha he is. Apologizing increases the demand for more apologies. She will come to expect your contrition, like a cat expects its meal at a set time each day. And then your value will lower in her eyes. Instead, if you have done something wrong, you should acknowledge your guilt in a glancing way without resorting to the actual words ?I?m sorry.? Pull the Bill Clinton maneuver and say ?Mistakes were made? or tell her you ?feel bad? about what you did. You are granted two freebie ?I?m sorry?s for the life of your relationship; use them wisely.

IX. Connect with her emotions

Set yourself apart from other men and connect with a woman?s emotional landscape. Her mind is an alien world that requires deft navigation to reach your rendevous. Frolic in the surf of emotions rather than the arid desert of logic. Be playful. Employ all your senses. Describe in lush detail scenarios to set her heart afire. Give your feelings freedom to roam. ROAM. Yes, that is a good word. You?re not on a linear path with her. You are ROAMING all over, taking her on an adventure. In this world, there is no need to finish thoughts or draw conclusions. There is only need to EXPERIENCE. You?re grabbing her hand and running with her down an infinite, labyrinthine alleyway with no end, laughing and letting your fingers glide on the cobblestone walls along the way.

X. Ignore her beauty

The man who trains his mind to subdue the reward centers of his brain when reflecting upon a beautiful female face will magically transform his interactions with women. His apprehension and self-consciousness will melt away, paving the path for more honest and self-possessed interactions with the objects of his desire. This is one reason why the greatest lotharios drown in more love than they can handle ? through positive experiences with so many beautiful women they lose their awe of beauty and, in turn, their powerlessness under its spell. It will help you acquire the right frame of mind to stop using the words hot, cute, gorgeous, or beautiful to describe girls who turn you on. Instead, say to yourself ?she?s interesting? or ?she might be worth getting to know?. Never compliment a girl on her looks, especially not a girl you aren?t fucking. Turn off that part of your brain that wants to put them on pedestals. Further advanced training to reach this state of unawed Zen transcendence is to sleep with many MANY attractive women (try to avoid sleeping with a lot of ugly women if you don?t want to regress). Soon, a Jedi lover you will be.

XI. Be irrationally self-confident

No matter what your station in life, stride through the world without apology or excuse. It does not matter if objectively you are not the best man a woman can get; what matters is that you think and act like you are. Women have a dog?s instinct for uncovering weakness in men; don?t make it easy for them. Self-confidence, warranted or not, triggers submissive emotional responses in women. Irrational self-confidence will get you more pussy than rational defeatism.

XII. Maximize your strengths, minimize your weaknesses

In the betterment of ourselves as men we attract women into our orbit. To accomplish this gravitational pull as painlessly and efficiently as possible, you must identify your natural talents and shortcomings and parcel your efforts accordingly. If you are a gifted jokester, don?t waste time and energy trying to raise your status in philosophical debate. If you write well but dance poorly, don?t kill yourself trying to expand your manly influence on the dancefloor. Your goal should be to attract women effortlessly, so play to your strengths no matter what they are; there is a groupie for every male endeavor. Except World of Warcraft.

XIII. Err on the side of too much boldness, rather than too little

Touching a woman inappropriately on the first date will get you further with her than not touching her at all. Don?t let a woman?s faux indignation at your boldness sway you; they secretly love it when a man aggressively pursues what he wants and makes his sexual intentions known. You don?t have to be an asshole, but if you have no choice, being an inconsiderate asshole beats being a polite beta, every time.

XIV. Fuck her good

Fuck her like it?s your last fuck. And hers. Fuck her so good, so hard, so wantonly, so profligately that she is left a quivering, sparking mass of shaking flesh and sex fluids. Drain her of everything, then drain her some more. Kiss her all over, make love to her all night, and hold her close in the morning. Own her body, own her gratitude, own her love. If you don?t know how, learn to give her squirting orgasms.

XV. Maintain your state control

You are an oak tree. You will not be manipulated by crying, yelling, lying, head games, sexual withdrawal, jealousy ploys, pity plays, shit tests, hot/cold/hot/cold, disappearing acts, or guilt trips. She will rain and thunder all around you and you will shelter her until her storm passes. She will not drag you into her chaos or uproot you. When you have mastery over yourself, you will have mastery over her.

XVI. Never be afraid to lose her

You must not fear. Fear is the love-killer. Fear is the ego-triumph that brings abject loneliness. You will face your fear. You will permit it to pass over and through you. And when your ego-fear is gone you will turn and face your lover, and only your heart will remain. You will walk away from her when she has violated your integrity, and you will let her walk when her heart is closed to you. She who can destroy you, controls you. Don?t give her that power over yourself. Love yourself before you love her.
 

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I don"t necessarily disagree with anything in that spoilered list, but I think we can all agree that the way it was written is the height of gayness.
 

Cad

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To paraphrase that entire list: "find someone who likes you more than you like them, and then you can treat them like shit and avoid commitment and run the relationship the way you want."

Which is fine, but it"s absurd advice because it can"t possibly work for more than half the population, and likely much less than that, because most reasonable people won"t stand for being treated that way. But hey if you enjoy having a low self esteem needy person following you around like a lapdog, follow that list.
 

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brekk said:
I know someone has already referenced it, but seriously Cam, go watch Casino.
Yeah, the cornfield scene seems a good reference for this situation.

What?
 

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Wow if you follow the rules on that list you"ll never have a relationship past 6 months until she gets fed up with your shit