Just a random thing that"s been on my mind that I thought I"d bring up here.
So I met this one girl a couple times at parties, never thought much about her other than she was pretty and she was kinda with one of my friends. We got talking on Facebook and decided to meet up after her job and go get drinks. We end up sitting at the park for a couple hours polishing off two bottles of wine and just talking about all kinds of things (mostly about how she"s down because she doesn"t think my friend is into her anymore). At this point I was getting drunk and falling a bit for her. We go out on the town, have a blast, end up making out and I take her home because she was becoming quickly intoxicated.
The next day I feel pretty bad about things on reflection, so I talk to my friend and tell him what happened. His response was that he didn"t care and I could "go for it."
The night this girl and I hung out she said I should come over to her house the next night. So I confirm that that"s still cool and stop by. After being there for maybe 5 minutes she says she"s uncomfortable about things and she"s going to bed, so I leave.
I attempt twice to ask her to hang out, the last response was "I don"t think that"s such a good idea."
And that"s the last communication I"ve had with her. Normally I"d just be like "whatever, not worth it" but it"s hard for me to get her off my mind.
So I"m considering messaging her and asking if that night was just a random drunken thing (I mean, nothing even happened) or if she had any feelings for me. And I feel like I look like a terrible friend, but I can"t just come out and tell her that I talked to my friend and he told me he didn"t give a shit about her.
So FoH, would it be inappropriate to ask her what was going on in her head, or should I just let it be? I know I personally want more information, but I"m not sure if it"s me being selfish and bringing it up would make her uncomfortable. Part of me wants to just be like, "Hey, when you"re over [my friend], I"m here." but that seems kinda... scummy. I don"t know. Weird situation.