Do you love her back? If you don"t, then avoid telling her you love her just to make her feel better/because she said it too. That"s a pretty big step down a path of dishonesty just for the sake of pleasing someone, and it can lead you to bad places. Had a chick do that to me once I"d been dating for like 2 months, just wasn"t that into her and she knew I was moving states in a few weeks. Sorry, but no deal. Whether she really meant it or it was some ploy to get me to take her with me (she moved to the same state, albeit a different city, shortly thereafter... coincidence?).Phoenix said:
Women crying, pouting, bitching, or upset isn"t fun and they have this neat trick they do of making you feel like an asshole/guilty/anxious when you shouldn"t or haven"t even done anything wrong. Women can be very manipulative, and can be very good at masking the fact that they"re being manipulative.
You don"t have to be a total dick or completely act like you don"t give a shit, but don"t fall into the trap of being the bad guy just because she said something surprising at a time when you were completely unsuspecting. It might suck for her, and it"s possible she was convinced you felt the same way, but just because you didn"t respond exactly the way she may have wanted doesn"t mean you"ve done something wrong. Perhaps she"s not the type of woman to do this, but if you let her put you on the defensive or make you the guilty party when you haven"t done anything wrong, she can do it in the future and it"s not a good foundation for a long-term relationship.
If the girl really loves you, she"s probably going to stick around despite a temporary case of butthurt. You don"t have to be a dick about it, and there"s nothing wrong with talking about it or pretending to care, but don"t start apologizing for something you didn"t do. An apology implies a wrong; you"ve done nothing wrong. Don"t get in the habit now of apologizing for things you haven"t done, or things you have done that aren"t wrong... It"s a tough habit to break and some women absolutely will take advantage of it, even if they don"t know they are.
Good example of something that happened to me recently, different circumstances: I"ve been dating a chick for a few months... mostly just looking for company and quality banging on weekends or breaks. She"s a nice girl and an awesome bang, but we really have nothing in common, I"m not looking for a serious relationship as I"m about to move states, and I"m not really trying to bring some girl with me that I just met 4 months ago. I"ve had a nasty history of long relationships that turn out awful, and I won"t have it on my conscience that I had some poor girl leave her family and friends because she wants to keep it going.
2-3 weeks ago she asks me, "so we"re boyfriend/girlfriend right?"
"No, we"re just dating and hanging out, having a good time with each other."
"BAWWWWWWW!!! WAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!" *waterworks*
"Hey I told you I wasn"t sure I wanted a serious relationship, not trying to hurt your feelings but I"m leaving soon. We can still hang out and it"s not like I"m not going to be nice to you."
"bawwwwwww?"
"You want to go get some sushi and see a movie? How about some awesome cheesecake? We can even watch that gay romantic comedy you"ve been talking about. Well let me know if you do, offer"s always open and I"m not seeing anyone else right now."
"wwahhh- wait... THE VOW AND CHEESECAKE/SUSHI OMG" *instant nudity*
