I appreciate all the feedback. I've been stacking those types of costs in my head to help me make a better informed decision on what I can afford.
I just got off the phone with a realtor a bit ago so we're gonna start shopping...
My credit score is over 800, been that way for years and I only owe about $15k in student loans, $200/month since about 07.
I told her I'm down with fixing up a place if that gets me a significantly better deal. I actually really enjoy fixing things up, building stuff, whatever. 4 years helicopter mechanic in the Marine Corps, grew up working with my dad roofing and I've done various contruction type jobs before I went to college. I loved fixing up my exwife's house when we were married, lol she got all the benefit out of that deal...
I'm a federal employee, super stable career. Even if work did move me they'd have to pay PCS (permanent change of station) costs to sell my house.
I'm sure I'll have more questions, thanks again for the advice.