yes and no....without her feeling somewhat responsible, my marriage would be over, i think she put herself in that mindset, to allow herself to forgive me
honestly, she is enjoying herself so much now, being more sexual, giving that extra effort, and likewise i am more attentive, i go to bed the same time as her (something i never did before)
we have lunch together every day, i am doing more around the house, because i want to make her happy, we joke and laugh more, she plays the "i need to earn the envelope money game"
we are back to where we were in the beginning 27 years ago
