So something came between the two of you and caused a bit of a climactic glitch in your relationship, but you don"t feel it has to be anything more than a glitch. However, your ex does not currently feel the same
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way. What should you do?
Well the last thing you want to do is press the issue if he/she already has some negative feelings. Pressure can make things turn a lot more sour. Wanting to be friends again first is a better approach. The best thing you can do for a person is be a friend no matter what, and that kind of selflessness and patience is important in any more serious relationship. If he (or she) is good for you, he"ll forgive you/soften sooner or later. It may take time, unfortunately, and that"s the most maddening thing of all, but make it known that you want to make things right either way, and then give him space if he still requires it. It"s really hard to do, because it can feel like the world is ending, but things can change at any time, in the blink of an eye. Remember that these things are normal, no matter how hard, and sometimes it takes a struggle and being apart for someone to get their priorities straight, but it"s very important to get them straight. You want to really know what you"re worth to each other, right?
It may not be the case with everyone, but it seems the best way to soften grudges is to be humble and accept them, and accept that he has the right to be angry with you (at least for a time) just because it"s easy for people to get hurt and overwhelmed and even traumatized, and he is a tender human being who feels like a victim here, so be sympathetic regardless of who may be at fault. He/she"s precious to you, so let him be angry. It may sound funny, but emotions do need time to run their course, and pressuring otherwise can backfire in that it sometimes registers as you trying to change a person, or wanting them to change.
Go about things in an honest but noble fashion, be willing to suffer a bit and compromise by giving him space or enduring whatever arrangement he might be most comfortable with for the time being - after all, he"s worth it.