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Camerous

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he hated himself and didn"t think he was worth any thing so he got with the worst person possible as a reflection of how he felt about himself.
 
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Camerous has it right. What I"d add on that aspect is that while we can (and often times involuntarily or absently do) detach from people, what wedofeel seems to be felt more acutely than what neurotypical people feel. It"s an irreconcilable world experience in that we are so absorbed by our interests that we distance ourselves from others, but when we feel the normal sense of loneliness, it can be crippling.

That"s the tip of the iceberg, but it seems to be the part that we all share. For me, there"s more. For example, staring at visually complex scenes while my other senses are being stimulated takes a lot of concentration. A colorful store shelf with music playing can lead me to just zone out and detach completely from what is around me -- best example I can think of.

Also, there"s synethesia, which can at times be interesting and other times painful. Synethesia is the crossing of senses such as seeing sound or hearing touch. For me, I tend to feel other senses at times; sense-of-touch-feel (tactile, somatic), not emotion-feel. Orange scent feels awesome, btw, and I wish I could describe it better. Refreshing, clean, almost electric... Anyhow... We all differ when it comes to the range of symptoms, with the exceptions that define our end of the autism scale.

Regarding seeing beauty in others whom many do not see it: As a person with social difficulties, it is all-too-easy to develop an aversion to doing to another what has hurt me in the past. For this reason, I believe everyone deserves a fair chance with people and everyone needs the opportunity for redemption in almost every circumstance. But that is something I will be more careful with.

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When you look at it honestly, do you think this was denial? (ie, denying to yourself that Shelly is a retard, so you could justify the relationship with her.)
When I try not to be biased, her keen ability to persuade others verbally (not in written language albeit) seems to involve too much higher thought for her to be literally retarded. Actually, her biggest flaws that make people wonder about that are that she has suffered intense loneliness, so she can make poor choices where people are concerned (something I can relate to). The other is her writing. She graduated high school without special ed, so unless the system herded her through, she could use proper grammar if she tried. She also has trouble typing due to the way her fingers curl, so that probably impacts her writing style more than one may expect. Her handwriting is very different.

It is easy to sell her short (no pun intended) and she has her flaws as I have mine. Speaking strictly of personality, I think that (just as with me) her decisions and the way she presents herself regarding the more difficult events in her life color peoples" opinion both for the better and worse (and drastically). This is something else I can relate to.

I bear her no ill will. I don"t hate her. I think where she and her child are concerned, what I feel most now is a sense of numbness and a bit of uncertainty. She is right that I was very upset with some events, but that has passed. Nonetheless, she (or whomever was helping her type) is correct: time for emotions to balance and biases to be countered with logic is the best thing here.

I"m not sticking up for her nor putting her down. Just trying to state my observations without bias or malicious intent. I think the suggestion that she suffers from PTSD and borderline personality disorder are likely spot-on, but I"m not really qualified to make that call either.

Thanks again to everyone for your help and a kick in the ass toward the right direction.

Also, I"d vote towards shame rather than fame on this one as well, simply for the unadulterated airing of so much dirty laundry. Besides, the only fame deserved would be FoH"s in this one and visitors would get the wrong idea there by seeing my name by this thread in the HoF.
 
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Zeste said:
Actually yes. Men with Asperger"s syndrome usually are not nearly as interested in physical appearance as normal. In fact, often they overlook it completely.
His choices seem to be lacking in other redeeming qualities that people look for in a mate besides the physical. So I am still at a loss how GV chooses his partners. I am sure his answer is "I see something you all don"t" but that would mean he has a 7th sense that I am glad I dont have.

~ GV glad you are taking all of this as a learning lesson and as a reason to change toward a better path, one which hopefully has a much smaller "net footprint. ~
 

Aychamo BanBan

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GV good to hear that man. I SINCERELY FUCKING HOPE that you put your shit towards good use.

This thread will be revered by retards across the country for years to come.
 

Tuco

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GaliemVaelant said:
In return, FoH has been given what I wish could be played off as a trolling of legendary proportions. Unfortunately, some times reality delivers a train wreck of such proportion that at least most of it must stand to be true, such as in this case.
Hah! Keep truckin, Galiem. Next time you"re feeling down come back to FoH instead of finding a woman.
 

Shelly1989_foh

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I am just going to said this one thing then I am not coming back to this thread. If Jeremy wants to contract me about our son even though I changed my number, he knows how by my old email accounts.
 

Aychamo BanBan

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Shelly1989 said:
I am just going to said this one thing then I am not coming back to this thread. If Jeremy wants to contract me about our son even though I changed my number, he knows how by my old email accounts.
I"d like to contract you to shut your fucking midget retard face.
 

Gravy

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The sad/interesting/amusing-to-a-point part is they really have no idea how many times they"ve been baited.
 

Schezanna_foh

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All good things must come to an end.

This shining beacon of shame will serve to provide hope for years to come. When things feel like life is taking a shit on you, we can come here to remind ourselves what the bottom of the barrel truly looks like.