Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Khane

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a_skeleton_03's definition is the ultimate get out of jail free card. Forget all this "for better or worse" nonsense.

It's like a slogan for a better call saul divorce lawyer.

"Why stay the course? Get a divorce!"
 
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Dear a_skeleton_03,

My wife always loaded the dishwasher when we got married but I had to do it once last week because she didn't feel well. Who should get the kids in the divorce?

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Cad_sl said:
What the fuck is wrong with you
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I am being told that I have to announce my every dark desire to my wife or I am being dishonest. The communication needs to flow like spice and if anything gives me a boner I am being dishonest unless I notify her immediately.

Forget the damage it will cause our relationship I need to tell her that her new coworker with the big tits is exactly who I would pursue if my wife dies in her sleep tonight.

By the way I am this honest with my wife, she knows every fetish I have and I point out any woman that I would be attracted to and what it is about her. She does the same, it's all done in good fun because we know that bottling that up isn't healthy. Almost none of it is not acted upon because it's just not good for a relationship or friendship to be hitting on other women your wife works with first of all. All the rest of the damage it would do to my wife emotionally to seriously contemplate an open relationship would not be good. She would do it. She would go along with it if I asked for any length of time. She would hate every second of it but would not say a word because that is how she is. I know that and even if I seriously thought it would be good for me I wouldn't because it would be just good for me. Just because she would say she is okay with it doesn't mean she would be.
 
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Khane_sl said:
a_skeleton_03's definition is the ultimate get out of jail free card. Forget all this "for better or worse" nonsense.

It's like a slogan for a better call saul divorce lawyer.

"Why stay the course? Get a divorce!"
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Are you staying the course if you aren't maintaining the basic concept of marriage, aka monogamy?
 
Soygen

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a_skeleton_03_sl said:
I am being told that I have to announce my every dark desire to my wife or I am being dishonest. The communication needs to flow like spice and if anything gives me a boner I am being dishonest unless I notify her immediately.
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Nobody is saying any of that. That's just a whole lot of projection. I'm guessing you have some real fucked up dark desires.
 
Khane

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a_skeleton_03_sl said:
By the way I am this honest with my wife, she knows every fetish I have and I point out any woman that I would be attracted to and what it is about her. She does the same, it's all done in good fun because we know that bottling that up isn't healthy. Almost none of it is not acted upon because it's just not good for a relationship or friendship to be hitting on other women your wife works with first of all. All the rest of the damage it would do to my wife emotionally to seriously contemplate an open relationship would not be good. She would do it. She would go along with it if I asked for any length of time. She would hate every second of it but would not say a word because that is how she is. I know that and even if I seriously thought it would be good for me I wouldn't because it would be just good for me. Just because she would say she is okay with it doesn't mean she would be.
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That would be her fault not yours. And you being honest about it doesn't equate to emotional blackmail.
 
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Soygen_sl said:
Nobody is saying any of that. That's just a whole lot of projection. I'm guessing you have some real fucked up dark desires.
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Cad_sl said:
Here's a tip: it's better to be honest and blow up the relationship than to be dishonest and stay in it. On both sides of that coin. If you're hiding your dark desire to do X Y or Z, what kind of marriage is it where you can't tell your wife? She should accept you and your flaws, or not. But it should be out there. By the same token, if you (or she) reveals something and you're totally not ok with it ever, honesty about that is good too.
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Doesn't seem like projecting to me. It's almost like a direct quote.
 
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Khane_sl said:
That would be her fault not yours. And you being honest about it doesn't equate to emotional blackmail.
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I am 100% honest about every desire, if I push her for years though to change her mind ...

When would it become emotional blackmail? At what point is that achieved? Lindz her said it took YEARS to convince her. I think that qualifies quite easily.

If I came to my wife and said "I want to slay other pussy" and she responded with "good, me too" well then that's a different story.
 
Khane

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Telling someone what you like is you being honest and it's perfectly healthy, rational behavior. If they decide to do something they don't want to as a result of that information that's on them, not on you.
 
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Ya know I'd expect rational people to argue whether certain fantasies are healthy to act out... I didn't expect someone to be in here arguing that honesty in a relationship is a bad thing. Lol. It's like goddamn bizzaro world.
 
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a_skeleton_03_sl said:
I am actually more pro cheating than I am this open marriage stuff. You won't find that in the Bible.
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After the whole giving drugs to a prostitute thing, I'm very sure you have spent lots of time trying to justify how cheating fits in with your religious beliefs.
 
Khane

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Cad_sl said:
Ya know I'd expect rational people to argue whether certain fantasies are healthy to act out... I didn't expect someone to be in here arguing that honesty in a relationship is a bad thing. Lol. It's like goddamn bizzaro world.
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Maybe honesty is what Meatloaf was talking about.
 
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