Marriage and the Power of Divorce

lindz said:

Some of us just stick to certain sections for the most part. I rarely post outside here so likely only known by the frequenters of the Grown Up section.

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Ditto, I keep up on a lot of threads, but don't post very often outside of here.

I did end up sitting down with the Ex a couple of weeks ago, it was right before my trip to Denver so I may have forgotten to post. It all went really well, we met for lunch and ended up talking for almost 4 hours. She was super on board with everything, she even started the whole thing off by apologizing for asking me about the food stamps thing. I think she was concerned when I asked her to lunch to talk and didn't tell her about what, other than "Just want to go over some child support stuff, and a couple other things", to be honest.

But yeah, we had everything hashed out in the first hour or so and then just shot the shit for a couple more hours. Just catching up and talking one on one, it went much better than I could have hoped.

Also, on a little side note, shes been talking about moving (just to a new rental) and ended up doing that this last weekend. This is the first time out of her 4 moves that she didn't ask me to help. We stopped by her new place Sunday night to drop my sons Kindle Fire off, and she gave us the tour. I liked her old place just fine, but this one is so much better, super nice yard, big backyard with trees, and she said its the exact same rent as her last place. So anyway, all that made me happy too.

Nothing else exciting happening.

Must be nice to be able to afford a nice place by defrauding the government.

Picasso3 said:

Dinner was served when I had 3 minutes left in a match, 3 minutes proved to be far too long and i'm a total piece of shit that never communicates.

#goingay

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Welcome to my life man

Oh wait I have to cook the food

Yep, story of being married. The souls games not being able to be paused has caused many flash fire fights in our house over the last year because of it.

I just set his dinner on the desk in front of him. He'll get around to it eventually.

She is concerned that we don't do much together, dinner was the one thing etc.

I try not to game on night's we're home together usually, unless i tell her in advance - for instance with the wow expac dropping there will be a few private nights for me.

Sometimes she'll want to read or something and I just play games, it works out fine, but I always try to do stuff together on those nights if that's what she wants.

Soygen said:

Yeah, I've learned that playing Souls games requires nobody to be around me.

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And it's like they have a radar in the same spot of their brain as the sexy time radar, where they won't bother you at all as you are clearing the trash, but as soon as you pop through that boss fog.... they are right there needing instant attention right now!

mkopec said:

I kind of like that my wife does not game. I mean, yeah she plays her scrabble shit on the phone for hours, but im talking like raiding with the crew. I think our house would degrade at that point. I game, my kids game, and if my wife gamed too I dont think anything would get done. Fucking pizza, pop, and mess. I like that my wife does not game because it keeps me in check. I know that I cant just wake up on sat and game all fucking day long because she would get pissed. If she gamed as well we would both be playing all weekend long.

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That very much happens. When we're both playing an MMO - at least in that initial rush while leveling or whatever - life kind of takes a backseat. I feel a little bad for our kids during those weeks, and our house goes to shit. I mean, we both pick up after ourselves, but holy shit if we don't stay on top of the kids stuff...

Since having children I told my wife I would still like to beat at least 1 game a year. This usually occurs around Christmas and I just marathon a game out. I have a shelf full of unopened Ps3 games that I have picked up for next to nothing in the bargain bins.
Like many others my wife seems to only want my attention when she knows I would like to be left alone. she is always late for everything but gets bent out of shape if I am even a little late( I am rarely late so she assumes it must be to prove a point).

Now if it's important to me I either meet her there or verbally say I do not want to be late to this. It's frustrating to be honest because when I act like a dick to something I want we are make it on time but otherwise we are always late.

Soygen said:

Yeah, I've learned that playing Souls games requires nobody to be around me.

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This so much,

I scream "FUCK NOOO" when I died with a boss one hit away for the 5th time and my wife comes running "whats wrong? are you hurt"...nope, monster ate me..

No matter how many monsters eat me, she still comes running to see if I fell down the stairs (again)

She is good.