The fact is that anyway you cut it, in most cases the man has a lot more to lose/risk entering into a marriage than a woman does, bottom line. Until the point is reached that women pay for the engagement ring, wedding, and house-- or just generally earn more than a man so that SHE has more to lose via divorce than he does, a man's view of marriage, particularly post divorce, will at least somewhat mirror Kiruns. Women all fantasize about marriage, but are also responsible for initiating 75% of divorces. This isn't because 75% of men are cheating scumbags or abusive alcoholics, but because a) the fantasy image women have from marriage is quickly shattered when reality sets in b) they have less to lose and more to gain by divorcing and c) a guy has to actively set out to cheat unless he's Brad Pitt, but any half decent looking married chick is getting flirted with on a constant basis. This isn't misogyny, this is a matter of circumstance. If women generally earned more than men, and were subject to the same factors mentioned above that men do, you'd have women on these boards pouting the same mantra Kirun is. Nevertheless, what Kirun states is well documented for both sexes. It isn't misogyny. It's a well know fact that people (men and women) date/marry within their same social strata and "looks" level. When money, power, or looks rating change-- BOTH sexes eyes tend to wander. If the guy gets a 200K raise and is married to a 5, he'll start looking at the 7-8's. If the women feels "undesired", manages to exercise her way from a 6 to an 8, her eyes will wander. The difference is that the guy doesn't need to feel love and will be content with a stable home and a mistress, while the woman needs to "feel love" in her relationship and hence will initiate divorce. Also, a man IF he wants to get divorced will just do it. A woman either due financial circumstances or insecurity generally needs to have her foot in the door somewhere else before filing papers.
