Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Izo said:

Assert dominance, answer and keep going about your business. Saves calls in the long run.

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Also a good excuse to make tucked up noises.

Grunt loudly then whimper. Say, "you ain't the boss of me" and no matter how they reply let them know you were talking to the turd.

First guy I ever fired was done with a text. That was a mistake.

I thought that was the restaurant/bar business?

I thought that was the entertainment industry.

Let's be real. It's practically all industries. Probably not engineering though. That'd be a lot of autistic gay fucking. And that just don't seem right.

Any industry where you work long hours and mainly only hang out with co-workers because of the hours (or travel).

Update:
I now have a good job with good benefits with multiple down the road branching-advancement opportunities.
I'm needed and valued at work. There are times where i feel overqualified and times when i feel under but capable of getting there - which i feel is a good place/level to be at.
I've realized i still have more time to heal, that seven+ years of being belittled chipped away more than i expected and think that this job will give me positive exposure. Outlets.
It's also downtown, so on weeks i don't have child i could eventually explore and socialize and rebuild normal human traits.

Yet, Even though the off weeks are admittedly convenient and money-saving, it bothers me to high end that she's with him.
It's like she killed me, but some alternate universe me time traveled and warned me to get out, thus preventing the murder, but i know the murder happened and yet she has my child and any fucking day she could randomly off him too.

I remember when he was 3 and loved Curious George, fucking loved him, and she told him to hold an electric fence to see him. Oh his tears. I was mowing the lawn and he ran to me and wouldn't let go and fell asleep in my arms at like 4 p.m. and slept the whole night. No remorse. "He had to learn sometime." Were her exact words. Thinking about that bullshit spawned this post infact.

These are his formative years. I should be there always. Fuck he should have two parents. But fuck her. She's not a parent. She's a gd monster. The mother from Hill House.

There is no "forgiving" and moving on like it didn't happen because there is zero, zero, evidence that she has learned anything, that she has adjusted her behavior. And even if she did have moments that seem that way, this is a degenerative medical condition that will only get worse.

But there's nothing i can do in the immediate.
My plan is to make every moment count when i have him, to have that routine, those morals, that figurehead. And get well and advance. And in like 5 years be padded enough to refile for custody.
I just can't think of the bad what ifs. Situation is fucked, don't get caught in that trap but instead blind myself and grind.

Right?

Right.

Make the most of your days with your kid. Im trying to be the example. I can't stop what my X may do, but I can show them another kind of parent.

For months, I just felt guilty anytime I enjoyed my time without them. Still kinna do, but to a lesser extent.

Holidays are coming, so the sting will too.

fris said:

Right.

Make the most of your days with your kid. Im trying to be the example. I can't stop what my X may do, but I can show them another kind of parent.

For months, I just felt guilty anytime I enjoyed my time without them. Still kinna do, but to a lesser extent.

Holidays are coming, so the sting will too.

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Holidays definitely sting. A personal fault of mine is, hard to describe - I don't like "changing gears." I like things to transition smoothly and lead into the next and have drastic changes occur just as drops or spikes in music - just because it's different doesn't mean it's off rhythm. The uncomfortable disruption comes from janky time whelms such as nonsensical work schedules, lines that hang for no reason, and now holidays. - a mild discomfort compared to the rest, but the unnaturalness to it sticks like a funk that modifies other dark feelings at 2 a.m.
My counter tactic has been going to bed early, little or no alcohol, healthy eating, and exercise - but despair is an albatross.

I get married end of next week with the day depending on how I feel. Only took 22 years.

Borzak said:

I get married end of next week with the day depending on how I feel. Only took 22 years.

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congrats!

Borzak said:

I get married end of next week with the day depending on how I feel. Only took 22 years.

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Good man.

Make her wear the dress to bed.

Mr. and Mrs. Borzak now. I got one hell of a wedding present from my wife. Even typing that sounds odd after 20ish years.

Friend got me good. Every women I've ever known called and left a message on the business line today for anyone to hear as I played it back. She got a big kick out of that tho. 20 minutes of messages lol.

The bad news is I'm now the father of 3 children apparently, need to have an AIDS test by 2 women, and one that wants to hunt me down and kill me. Other than, just the normal.

What ever happened to Ms. Confirmed DD's, lindz ?

I haven't seen her since the husband wanted her to fuck everyone that was down. She was fun to read.

She forced him to take FOH in the divorce.

Dunno, she wandered off. There was some drama.