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Come on you know about fertility stats.Meh, most academia over here have kids in their mid 30s. Not really a problem, besides the lower iq potential, more frail health etc.
Come on you know about fertility stats.Meh, most academia over here have kids in their mid 30s. Not really a problem, besides the lower iq potential, more frail health etc.
If shes in her mid 30s kids isn't in the cards for her. If that's what you want go look elsewhere.
Come on you know about fertility stats.
I'll let my kid I had when my wife was 37 know that he's not in the cards.If shes in her mid 30s kids isn't in the cards for her. If that's what you want go look elsewhere.
I hear you and I am happy that your kid is not Corky.I'll let my kid I had when my wife was 37 know that he's not in the cards.
And no, he's not retarded.
Come on you know about fertility stats.
I wasn't supposed to be in the cards. My mother had me at 34 all while only having one ovary.I'll let my kid I had when my wife was 37 know that he's not in the cards.
And no, he's not retarded.
I wasn't supposed to be in the cards. My mother had me at 34 all while only having one ovary.
Reality is pregnancy becomes significantly harder for women past their mid 30s. That's not something to ignore.
Cut your losses and move on. If she won't communicate that's always going to be an issue. If she is really planning to have kids and is in her 30s she needs to be trying hard like right now. Otherwise it probably isn't happening.I don't post here very often but kind of at a loss for my situation and looking for genuine advice.
I've been with this woman since May 2020, she's in her mid 30s. We dated for a small bit, moved in together December 2020, then I moved out/broke up with her in Sept 2021. Talked off and on afterwards, I felt super bad that she was so sad about us breaking up, and kept in contact with her. We started seeing each other again early 2022 and have been spending every weekend with her since.
She's a super nice person, thoughtful, caring, close to her family, successful. When we're together we just watch TV, play video games, hike, or travel. But the one thing that bugs me, and has always bugged me, is that I feel like I can't talk to her. She's not very forward with her feelings or expressive, I always have to pry it out of her and we never really have anything to talk about but just small talk. She holds a lot of her emotions in and she starts to cry when I want to have more serious conversations about us. I told her since the beginning I was interested in having a family and settling down but she never really talks about that, she says she wants to travel before having a family. In the two years I've known her, she's never really expressed any real desire to have a family but said she does want one eventually (at her age I just find that weird).
From what I know about myself is that I find a deeper connection with people that I can converse with, about anything. Whether it's politics, science, mysteries of the universe, or whatever. When we moved in together, I really felt the void in that type of activity and it created resentment on my side that built up until I moved out.
I guess it just feels weird to me to have someone that is ideal, but that you can't really connect and have meaningful conversations with. The company is nice and pleasant, but that's it. I honestly feel selfish for wanting more and keep circling back to there being something wrong with me. I've talked to her about this issue multiple times but she never really has anything to say. I'm at a loss for what to do because I don't want to waste anymore of her time or my time by being together if this something that will certainly be a roadblock in the future, but I also don't want to make a mistake and leave her again if it's ultimately a problem with me that I haven't figured out yet.
Any suggestions?
"More difficult" does not equate to "not in the cards."I wasn't supposed to be in the cards. My mother had me at 34 all while only having one ovary.
Reality is pregnancy becomes significantly harder for women past their mid 30s. That's not something to ignore.
I'm pretty sure the general population is that stupid regardless, so I'm not sure I put too much faith in those stats. They are tracking downs syndrome but the actual retards out there are way more prevalent than that.I hear you and I am happy that your kid is not Corky.
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I honestly thought it was a higher percent than this after 35.
I'm pretty sure the general population is that stupid regardless, so I'm not sure I put too much faith in those stats. They are tracking downs syndrome but the actual retards out there are way more prevalent than that.
It must be very cool to visit the pyramids or the sixteenth chapel, but no one will be a better person for traveling to xyz place.
Couple of things.
It is a the luck of the draw to have a kid with issues. However the odds get higher after a certain age, so you should NOT plan to have kids that late.
She wants to marry and travel the world? Or she just want to travel the world with you as her sex outlet/emotional support, and does not want a family?
I guess you and her have different ideas of what marriage is and what is the role of kids on it. This by itself sounds like an incompatibility.
She wants to travel until what? until she visits every country? What need is she trying to satiate by travelling? It must be very cool to visit the pyramids or the sixteenth chapel, but no one will be a better person for traveling to xyz place.
It reads like a wierd role reversal when the guy is the one finding excuses not to marry, but continuing to get the pussy.
I won't place too much emphasis on the not sharing feelings, maybe she is just wired that way. I would place more emphasis on the incompatibility relationship and what each one of you want out of life. You wants kids, she wants a fully stamped passport.
Don't goWell enough bitching from me, this has been a rewarding experience and thank you to everyone for your advice and support.