Kiroy
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god i'd love to see that wheelchair picture to just paint the picture - maybe blur their faces?
Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Guest, it's time once again for the massively important and exciting FoH Asshat Tournament!
Go here and give us your nominations!Who's been the biggest Asshat in the last year? Give us your worst ones!
god i'd love to see that wheelchair picture to just paint the picture - maybe blur their faces?
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I can not jerk off to this. There are too many retards involved.
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I feel the pain. That's what my wife keeps saying, but I'm like "Nooooo, I was a nerd for a very long time, I have a lot of missed fucking to make up for"
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Onoes
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Its just an issue with being involved in group activities that attract weirdos and social outcasts. My wife and I enjoy going to SCA events (basically Ren fairs) and you end up making friends with the local people who go on all these group camping trips. Well, 70-80% of them are regular people, just geeks and stuff, lots of shared interests and easy to hang out with. Then you have the other 20-30% that basically don't function in normal society. So now you have like 4-6 of these events a year where you interact and sometimes the weirdos see you interacting with them as "Wow, this guy really likes me, finally a true friend!" lol
So yeah, on numerous occasions I've ended up with some random guy or girl literally following me around awkwardly because they think we really hit it off. There was one guy I only met like 3 or 4 times, and every time we interacted it was just me trying to separate and going "Cool man cool, yeah, we'll catch up later.. I really need to go do a thing, but yeah, I'm sure I'll run into you later, take care!". This guy found me on Facebook and sent me an invite, which I ignored. A few months later he sends me a message to let me know he had a son and named him after me because I was someone he really looked up to..... meanwhile I was looking at his facebook trying to figure out who this dude even was. I just ignored the message and Facebook requests and the next time I saw the dude I just played dumb and went "Ohh sorry man, I never check that stuff, I pretty much just have it for family. Anyway, congrats on the kid, I have to be somewhere, later!"
Another guy that everyone secretly called "People Eater" would hunt me down at every event. All of his teeth were black and rotten and he was highhhhly autistic. His actual name was something like "Dunlim" or something, European maybe, beats me. He wandered into our camp one night lost, and I was like "I'll help the guy find his group" and me and another guy walked the dude around for like 2 hours until we found the people he was camping with. He came back to our camp the next day and just followed me around like a lost dog... and the dude is like 10-20 years older than me, but like I said, not a normal human at all. I went to an event a couple of months ago and someone told me that his family had moved to Texas and he was super bummed out about it because their last event was back in Feb or something and I wasn't able to go to that one. Apparently he just spent the whole event looking for me and being upset I wasn't there >_<
But yeah, I'm very aware that my circle of friends comes with a few super fucking weirdos as well, and sometimes seemingly normal people who turn out to be weirdos as well. I'm sure if I was a jerk and told them to fuck off I wouldn't have to deal with it, but meh, it's not really a big deal to me generally, and if it makes these weirdos lives better, who cares.
So yeah, on numerous occasions I've ended up with some random guy or girl literally following me around awkwardly because they think we really hit it off. There was one guy I only met like 3 or 4 times, and every time we interacted it was just me trying to separate and going "Cool man cool, yeah, we'll catch up later.. I really need to go do a thing, but yeah, I'm sure I'll run into you later, take care!". This guy found me on Facebook and sent me an invite, which I ignored. A few months later he sends me a message to let me know he had a son and named him after me because I was someone he really looked up to..... meanwhile I was looking at his facebook trying to figure out who this dude even was. I just ignored the message and Facebook requests and the next time I saw the dude I just played dumb and went "Ohh sorry man, I never check that stuff, I pretty much just have it for family. Anyway, congrats on the kid, I have to be somewhere, later!"
Another guy that everyone secretly called "People Eater" would hunt me down at every event. All of his teeth were black and rotten and he was highhhhly autistic. His actual name was something like "Dunlim" or something, European maybe, beats me. He wandered into our camp one night lost, and I was like "I'll help the guy find his group" and me and another guy walked the dude around for like 2 hours until we found the people he was camping with. He came back to our camp the next day and just followed me around like a lost dog... and the dude is like 10-20 years older than me, but like I said, not a normal human at all. I went to an event a couple of months ago and someone told me that his family had moved to Texas and he was super bummed out about it because their last event was back in Feb or something and I wasn't able to go to that one. Apparently he just spent the whole event looking for me and being upset I wasn't there >_<
But yeah, I'm very aware that my circle of friends comes with a few super fucking weirdos as well, and sometimes seemingly normal people who turn out to be weirdos as well. I'm sure if I was a jerk and told them to fuck off I wouldn't have to deal with it, but meh, it's not really a big deal to me generally, and if it makes these weirdos lives better, who cares.
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Kirun
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You must have some alternate definition of degen. Politicians are the most degenerate of the degens. Followed by the regular pedophiles and animal fuckers. SCA people are more like smellier nerds (because they go outside).
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Yeah, our camp is like 35ish people, but it's something like 14 couples, a few people's kids, and then random 3 or 4 single people. We sit around a fire drinking and telling stories for the most part. Pretty rare we have any degen stuff going on. Hell, my wife and I do a yearly cooking competition and probably our closest friends do a knitting and jewelry making thing. Not real extreme degen behavior lol.
I get what you are saying, it definitely exists... Example- one year we had like a dozen students from NAU ask to camp with us, we said sure and on the first night they start talking about furries and.. turns out they are all members of some college furry club and were looking to fit in. No one brought costumes or anything (that we saw anyway) and we were all like "yeah, this isn't really the place for that..." Followed by lots of eye rolling and jokes about it.
So yeah, I'm sure there are whole groups of degens, but that probably exists in most mass group activities. If you go looking for it, you can probably find it, but our thing is a pretty family friendly group.
I get what you are saying, it definitely exists... Example- one year we had like a dozen students from NAU ask to camp with us, we said sure and on the first night they start talking about furries and.. turns out they are all members of some college furry club and were looking to fit in. No one brought costumes or anything (that we saw anyway) and we were all like "yeah, this isn't really the place for that..." Followed by lots of eye rolling and jokes about it.
So yeah, I'm sure there are whole groups of degens, but that probably exists in most mass group activities. If you go looking for it, you can probably find it, but our thing is a pretty family friendly group.
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So, a change of pace maybe...but some positive updates/news for this thread. Warning, I will probably ramble a bit.
So if anyone remembers waaaaay back to this thread's inception, I went through my first divorce. At the time, I had a 5-year-old boy and a 2-year-old daughter by the time it was finalized (which took a year).
For the next 14 years, I did everything I could to foster a good relationship with my kids. I would call them a few times a week until Facetime became a thing and then I would do that/ I would travel almost 4 hours' distance and see them and have them stay with me a weekend a month. Sometimes I would drive the entire 8-hour round trip twice in a 3 days span, just to be able to bond with them. I would sometimes go stay up where they lived for weekends, sometimes just going up for the day, taking them out to dinner, or a round of bowling or putt-putt and then drive back. Finally, after doing this my ex-father in law became to respect me so much and my effort, he pitched in and met me halfway with them anytime I wanted them. He is a hell of a guy and I can't express the gratitude I have for him to this day because of it.
Well, this last February my oldest son (19 now) asked if he and his GF could move in with me. I said yes under conditions. He would need to go to college or trade school, they would both need to be working, and they would need to pay the electric bill (I work in social services for a non-profit, I'm not cash heavy lol). They agreed and it has went really well. It was a very toxic environment for him at his mother's, he hated his stepdad as well. On top of all that, no one ever cooked or cleaned, and come to find out if he ever wanted to eat he would need to get Mcdonald's or something. A lot of other things were bad for him there and he wanted to be in an environment that was a safe place where he could learn how to be an adult, a direction he lacked at his mother's.
6 months later he is extremely happy, He's learned how to budget money, do minor car repairs, some minor cooking skills, and at his first full-time job he has been promoted to assistant manager in only 5 months' time (he also loves his job). He is enrolled at community college later this fall. While here he has also been seeing a therapist and became really resentful towards his mother because all growing up he was told things were "different" at my place only because he was visiting and after he would go back we went back to "normal" like how it was at his mother's. After being here a few months he realized that was a lie and was really angry about it.
Well now my 16-year-old daughter is visiting she has told her mother she wants to live here as well, and after much back and forth the last week, she has finally agreed. I will begin the enrollment process for her to go to the school down the street from me and her mother is bringing her stuff at the end of the month (two states away from where I live). My daughter cried because she was so relieved at not having to go back and says she feels safe and loves it here.
Reflecting back on the last 14 years, I was told by a few close friends that someday my kids would see the truth. See how hard I tried and how hard I worked to maintain my relationship with them. I never believed it honestly, but strove to be the best father I could be. Even though they lived with their mother, they've both told me all their favorite childhood memories were with me, which I'm so happy to hear as that's what I wanted...to build memories with them even though we were apart so much, and I missed so much. Memories they could have and think back on after I am gone and in the ground.
It stinks it took as long as it did...but I'm so happy right now. I never in a million years thought I would be living this life I am now, with them sleeping under the same roof with me for the foreseeable future.
For any fathers reading this, who are going through, or went through a bad divorce and didn't get custody, know that it can get better. It's a lot of work, a lot of heartaches, and a lot of tears...but damn it, it'll all be worth it in the end. It can all change in an instant. Last Thanksgiving my son came to visit and come February he moved in with me. Yesterday my daughter was just visiting for the month, and this afternoon, she's living with me permanently. I hope that anyone who is reading this and struggling with child custody is given some hope because if this can happen for me, it can happen for you. Keep working, never give up, never talk bad about their mother and just worry about the time you get with your kids and make the most of it. Before you know it, you could be the happiest man on Earth, just like I am this moment as I type this.
So if anyone remembers waaaaay back to this thread's inception, I went through my first divorce. At the time, I had a 5-year-old boy and a 2-year-old daughter by the time it was finalized (which took a year).
For the next 14 years, I did everything I could to foster a good relationship with my kids. I would call them a few times a week until Facetime became a thing and then I would do that/ I would travel almost 4 hours' distance and see them and have them stay with me a weekend a month. Sometimes I would drive the entire 8-hour round trip twice in a 3 days span, just to be able to bond with them. I would sometimes go stay up where they lived for weekends, sometimes just going up for the day, taking them out to dinner, or a round of bowling or putt-putt and then drive back. Finally, after doing this my ex-father in law became to respect me so much and my effort, he pitched in and met me halfway with them anytime I wanted them. He is a hell of a guy and I can't express the gratitude I have for him to this day because of it.
Well, this last February my oldest son (19 now) asked if he and his GF could move in with me. I said yes under conditions. He would need to go to college or trade school, they would both need to be working, and they would need to pay the electric bill (I work in social services for a non-profit, I'm not cash heavy lol). They agreed and it has went really well. It was a very toxic environment for him at his mother's, he hated his stepdad as well. On top of all that, no one ever cooked or cleaned, and come to find out if he ever wanted to eat he would need to get Mcdonald's or something. A lot of other things were bad for him there and he wanted to be in an environment that was a safe place where he could learn how to be an adult, a direction he lacked at his mother's.
6 months later he is extremely happy, He's learned how to budget money, do minor car repairs, some minor cooking skills, and at his first full-time job he has been promoted to assistant manager in only 5 months' time (he also loves his job). He is enrolled at community college later this fall. While here he has also been seeing a therapist and became really resentful towards his mother because all growing up he was told things were "different" at my place only because he was visiting and after he would go back we went back to "normal" like how it was at his mother's. After being here a few months he realized that was a lie and was really angry about it.
Well now my 16-year-old daughter is visiting she has told her mother she wants to live here as well, and after much back and forth the last week, she has finally agreed. I will begin the enrollment process for her to go to the school down the street from me and her mother is bringing her stuff at the end of the month (two states away from where I live). My daughter cried because she was so relieved at not having to go back and says she feels safe and loves it here.
Reflecting back on the last 14 years, I was told by a few close friends that someday my kids would see the truth. See how hard I tried and how hard I worked to maintain my relationship with them. I never believed it honestly, but strove to be the best father I could be. Even though they lived with their mother, they've both told me all their favorite childhood memories were with me, which I'm so happy to hear as that's what I wanted...to build memories with them even though we were apart so much, and I missed so much. Memories they could have and think back on after I am gone and in the ground.
It stinks it took as long as it did...but I'm so happy right now. I never in a million years thought I would be living this life I am now, with them sleeping under the same roof with me for the foreseeable future.
For any fathers reading this, who are going through, or went through a bad divorce and didn't get custody, know that it can get better. It's a lot of work, a lot of heartaches, and a lot of tears...but damn it, it'll all be worth it in the end. It can all change in an instant. Last Thanksgiving my son came to visit and come February he moved in with me. Yesterday my daughter was just visiting for the month, and this afternoon, she's living with me permanently. I hope that anyone who is reading this and struggling with child custody is given some hope because if this can happen for me, it can happen for you. Keep working, never give up, never talk bad about their mother and just worry about the time you get with your kids and make the most of it. Before you know it, you could be the happiest man on Earth, just like I am this moment as I type this.
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Jesus Christ that's so sweet and happy I can't even muster up a snarky comment. Glad things finally came up Milhouse.
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i got ya boo.
I can't believe we give onoes so much shit when tarrant went through multiple divorces right here in this very thread. Does he hold the thread record?
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Tarrant
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Giving Tarrant shit is soooo 2019. 2 seems like a low total for any sort of record, but maybe!
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