"I'm getting married in August.. at first I was really excited but now she's pulling a lot of the "we're married, I'm going to yell at you all day and withhold sex for months" shit. For serious, how to fix? It's getting out of hand. I do want to marry her, that is not the question. But her attitude about all this stuff is depressing."
If its started before you're even married.... what do you want me to tell you, its going to get better?
What is she yelling at you about? "Small shit.. like if I forget to grab the mail, or I sit on the couch wrong, or I move"
Dude, seriously run. If she's all over you about shit like that now it's going to become a living hell once you're married. Don't end up one of those guys that stay late at work because they are afraid to go home. I work with many and it isn't pretty.
Yeah, I'd say just keep dating her and never get married. Because once you do, it will only get worse. Just delay the wedding until you get tired of her shit. Those would be some major red flags.
Take a step back and think about how bad it realize is. If it is as bad as you say, now, with no kids or stress or anything, then break up with her right now and move on. You might think "oh these guys are being assholes because internet" but no, no we aren't.
You might have hope if she continues to work after you're married so that inevitably she has some purpose, and her energy/focus is primarily diverted mostly towards her job.
Just want to make a few points: 1) Noodleface, don't do it. Really. Don't. It is going to get worse before it gets better, if it does get better at all. The first couple of years of marriage are often very tough and if she is already losing respect and affection for you, you are fucked.
First of all she manipulated the fuck out of you. Secondly this response is a major fucking red flag, not just women logic. This bitch is grade A fucking crazy. Period. You need to get the fuck out NOW. You won't of course, but you'll remember this post in 3-7 years and I'll have been right. I promise you. She's going to ruin your fucking life dude, walk away and be your own man. You'll wish you had after its too late.
Noodleface is going to be in this thread professing the woes of his marriage an impending divorce in less than a year. Everyone told him that on FoH.
So, you let her wear the pants? You're in for a world of hurt, my friend. I look forward to your posts in the GWBYHT thread.
Get used to that, it will be the rest of your ill advised life if you go through with this colossal mistake. Won't stop after the wedding either. If its not that its the house. Or constant refurnishing and rennovations. Or the brat's college. Or her vehicle. Or your honey-do list and Home Depot. Or having another baby. Or getting you a a promotion/new position you don't even care about. This is your new life until you get a divorce or one of you fucking dies.
