Doesn't have much in common with men. Feels like he has to wear "devil-horns" to attract attention. Constant need for approval. Complete lack of confidence, especially in social gatherings. Hates confrontation.I don't even have all that many male friends, asI tend not to have much in common with them, and so they end up not having much to offer me in terms of "why would I rather be hanging out with you vs anything else right now?".
I would really like to be in good shape, but I just have no idea how people get themselves to do it. Basically, every single day I go "Well, I'm going to at least do some sit ups and push ups or something today" and every night I go to bed going "Well, I had plenty of chances and never did it... I'll try again tomorrow." REPEAT.As an addendum, I'm pretty sure that a year spent EFFICIENTLY in the gym and a session or two with some type of fashion consultant would elevate most "normal men" to movie-star level of attractiveness. I live in fucking GA and I'm pretty sure that I could hire someone to take me through a couple stores and show me how to dress like a real man easily enough.
He's attractive because he's in shape and well-groomed. His face is garbage man.I believe most of the "He's so hot!" feelings most women have towards some of these actors is mostly from the roles they play. Yes they are very naturally attractive people. In shape and with good bone structure and all that. But then they see this guy play this role in a movie like The Notebook and suddenly they have this emotional attachment to him as well. They see his face and associate all the great things he did in that movie and it compounds the attraction. I'm 99% sure that is why my wife is all about that dude from True Blood who is now dating Sophia Vargara. Forget his name. Dude is jacked up but she also only knows him as this great protector of the woman he loves as well.
Or I could just be making shit up and they are just attracted and thats that
Join a fucking gym, get a decent PT, learn how to deadlift, bench, and squat.I would really like to be in good shape, but I just have no idea how people get themselves to do it. Basically, every single day I go "Well, I'm going to at least do some sit ups and push ups or something today" and every night I go to bed going "Well, I had plenty of chances and never did it... I'll try again tomorrow." REPEAT.
To me I just go "This feels bad, I don't like it, I don't see any immediate change......." and its just really hard to move past that.
I know no one can do anything about that but me, and while I've successfully lost weight this last year through changing my eating habits, I've probably worked out all of 4 times... in a year... that I was telling myself I need to do it.
And yes, I'm sure I would have more confidence if I wasn't chubby. I don't know that that would change everything, but yeah, I'm sure it would be positive.
You can get into decent shape doing prison workouts. A few people at my office have gotten into killer shape doing P90X stuff. I didn't care for it personally but they've lost a ton of weight and have better muscle definition.Join a fucking gym, get a decent PT, learn how to deadlift, bench, and squat.
You don't get in fucking shape by saying "I want to do sit-ups."
Usually how it happens!Never dated the girl
My point was he's not going to get in shape being a dumbass at home doing 20 pushups and 20 crunches. He'd be better off jerking off until his calf cramps.You can get into decent shape doing prison workouts. A few people at my office have gotten into killer shape doing P90X stuff. I didn't care for it personally but they've lost a ton of weight and have better muscle definition.
Apparently my jerking off IS a program....My point was he's not going to get in shape being a dumbass at home doing 20 pushups and 20 crunches. He'd be better off jerking off until his calf cramps.
Get a program, stick to it.
This big time. Literally every one of his stories starts of with "so I was getting a drink with xyz".Not to get ultra personal here, but almost every story you write begins with "I went out for a drink".
How often do you drink?
Maybe it doesn't help that I'm also from LA and that's the culture? But if I go out drinks are involved 90% of the time. These dudes are either some lames or just trying to give him shit because it's ones.Well, I don't know if things are different in some of your's neck of the woods, but usually when I'm with my friends in a social setting, at night, we are drinking. Or in some cases 10 AM like mardi gras in a couple of weeks.
As far as getting into better shape, I know its cliche', but what tenks said. It has to be a lifestyle change. Thinking you can just eat better for a few weeks/couple of months and get into shape is only going to end in failure. Not working out is just no longer an option for me, I look at it like brushing my teeth or taking a shit, its something I've got to do.
Sounds like you have other problems than drinking to worry about. Get professional help instead of selfmedicating booze.I usually have some whisky like ... 5 nights a week to relax before going to bed. I probably shouldn't do it that often but Onoes doesn't drink very much at all according to his drinking schedule.