Yeah, one more Tinder pro-tip. Never let the back and forth messaging drag on-- as soon as she shows interest and you've gotten basic details out of the way, hit her up for her number, particularly after an exchange that elicits a smiley face or positive response.. If you drag the exchange on too long you risk losing her out of either boredom, or because someone else started Tinder messaging her that is more interesting.
I mean ... did you miss the entire conversation on how people use Tinder/Bumble? Match everyone then filter out when mutual matches occur. You got filtered. No need to take it personally its all a game of numbers.
Wombat is giving out really good online dating advice in general here. This isn't exclusive to Tinder from my experiences.
Yeah I suppose, I didn't think of it that way. One did message me, I extended the match and she shot me a response saying she didn't know she had to message me first.
I went back and checked my msg exchanges. I averaged ~25 messages before asking for (and typically receiving) digits. IIRC, my current girlfriend told me she thought I was never going to ask for her damn number. Heh.
Honestly, there's very little risk in asking for it too soon. The worst she'll say is "I prefer to keep talking in this app for now", at which point you reply with something along the lines of "oh, It's probably for the best, my ankle bracelet just started beeping for some reason so it's not the best time to talk". You'll either get her number right after that, or soon after.. Also, the older the woman the more likely she is to cut to the chase and want you to ask for her number asap.. If she's 35 plus you can pretty much ask for it after the initial exchange, especially if you say something like "I'm old fashioned and like to talk on the phone". That's a guaranteed win with the older crowd.
