Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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moonarchia
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Yeah, Denver is a liberal cesspit. Still a good place to make money in telecomm, though.
Xarpolis
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The issue with the late day is that our son came into our room and decided he wanted to sleep there. So my wife moved to the middle of the bed so he could sleep where she was sleeping previously. That's why she didn't feel the alarm vibration.
Xarpolis
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Every time I buy black out curtains, I get the light weight ones instead of what a hotel has that weighs a fucking ton. They never black out. They just heavily dim, but light is still VERY present through them. Any suggestions on a good brand that works great that doesn't weigh 100 lbs?
Ok, nevermind. My wife just complained that I was measuring the curtain opening because she added a small night light to our room in case the kids continue to come in. She's too fucking accommodating of their bullshit.
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Oblio
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Wow was the best reaction I could think of to Indicate "I caught that would reference."
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moonarchia
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Lowe's has some decent blackout blinds options. You still need to get the L part on the sides to get most light blocked out, though. Or be like me and use a sleeping mask.
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My whole house is blackout curtains. Went to Home Depot first and bought some actual garbage ones, was immediately kicking myself. Took them back and got a refund (I lucked out and several were damaged in shipping, so I bitched that they were all trash and wanted a full refund, they normally have a no return policy on custom blinds). I then went to a straight up blinds store and for like $200 more total (about $18 a window) I got waaaaaaay better ones that also came with free installation. They are super light and with the L brackets block like 99% of the light.
Palum
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If you're sensitive to light it won't work. You have to get a mask. There is always light leaking around any window treatment.
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Best part of retiring young was not needing an alarm clock. I haven't used one in a decade.
Oblio
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I used to feel the same way. For years I struggled with falling asleep, then one night I tried a mask with headphones and fell asleep with in 10 minutes. Sometimes it takes a little longer, but usually it is in the first 10-15 minutes that I fall asleep. I set my Audible timer for 30 minutes and most days I only remember the first 5 minutes of what happened in the book. Basically by giving my mind something to focus on, it doesn't run wild with a recap of my day nor my to do list for the next day. Benn getting the best sleep of my life the last few years. The Purple Mattress helps too, best mattress I have ever had.
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Ditto with me for earplugs. I couldn't stand the feeling of something in my ears, and then I moved (thankfully briefly) into a house near a bunch of early morning construction traffic. After a few days getting used to it, I realized my sleep was VASTLY improved.
God, this would be a recipe for me dying of sleep deprivation. It's physically impossible for my brain to relax enough for sleep if there's something in the environment to latch onto. Books, TV, music, people speaking, etc., I'll just be awake forever. I have to shut it all out and create a dark, quiet place.
God, this would be a recipe for me dying of sleep deprivation. It's physically impossible for my brain to relax enough for sleep if there's something in the environment to latch onto. Books, TV, music, people speaking, etc., I'll just be awake forever. I have to shut it all out and create a dark, quiet place.
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Xarpolis
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My issue with wearing inner-ear things is my earwax is very soft. It actually becomes almost like honey when I wear inner-ear headphones. Standing up all day at work, that doesn't bother me, but I'm also a side-sleeper, and having one ear pointed straight up, the ear wax would constantly drip down to my ear drum. And just feeling the motion of that drives me crazy.
ToeMissile
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If I'm having a bit of trouble falling asleep I'll just do 'box breathing' What Is Box Breathing?
Only problem is sometimes I'll focus too much on the counting for each section and I fill my head with '1-2-3-4'. Usually, cutting down to an extra slow 2-count helps, less internal noise.
I've posted it before, but I've founding working on adding these steps help the quality of my sleep and energy through the day. Toolkit for Sleep - Huberman Lab
Only problem is sometimes I'll focus too much on the counting for each section and I fill my head with '1-2-3-4'. Usually, cutting down to an extra slow 2-count helps, less internal noise.
I've posted it before, but I've founding working on adding these steps help the quality of my sleep and energy through the day. Toolkit for Sleep - Huberman Lab
1) View sunlight by going outside within 30-60 minutes of waking. Do that again in the late afternoon, prior to sunset.
2) Wake up at the same time each day and go to sleep when you first start to feel sleepy.
3) Avoid caffeine within 8-10 hours of bedtime.
4) If you have sleep disturbances, insomnia, or anxiety about sleep, try the research-supported protocols on the Reveri app.
5) Avoid viewing bright lights—especially bright overhead lights between 10 pm and 4 am.
6) Limit daytime naps to less than 90 min, or don’t nap at all.
7) If you wake up in the middle of the night (which, by the way, is normal to do once or so each night) but you can’t fall back asleep, consider doing an NSDR protocol when you wake up.
8) You might consider taking (30-60 min before bed): Magnesium Threonate or 200mg Magnesium Bisglycinate, Apigenin, Theanine, Glycine and GABA.
9) Expect to feel really alert ~1 hour before your natural bedtime.
10) Keep the room you sleep in cool and dark and layer on blankets that you can remove.
2) Wake up at the same time each day and go to sleep when you first start to feel sleepy.
3) Avoid caffeine within 8-10 hours of bedtime.
4) If you have sleep disturbances, insomnia, or anxiety about sleep, try the research-supported protocols on the Reveri app.
5) Avoid viewing bright lights—especially bright overhead lights between 10 pm and 4 am.
6) Limit daytime naps to less than 90 min, or don’t nap at all.
7) If you wake up in the middle of the night (which, by the way, is normal to do once or so each night) but you can’t fall back asleep, consider doing an NSDR protocol when you wake up.
8) You might consider taking (30-60 min before bed): Magnesium Threonate or 200mg Magnesium Bisglycinate, Apigenin, Theanine, Glycine and GABA.
9) Expect to feel really alert ~1 hour before your natural bedtime.
10) Keep the room you sleep in cool and dark and layer on blankets that you can remove.
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Kithani
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Some of us actually play a role in society and can't just wake up whenever we want lmao
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Cutlery
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Well, guess we're fucking doing this.
5 years ago I said I wasn't gonna get married again. But I guess the cold hard reality is that when you've got daughters, you need to teach them that they need to find a good man and hitch their wagon to them so they don't end up on Onlyfans. Can't be out here living in sin, doesn't set a good example for them.
She earned it. I don't really see a reason why we won't be together for a very long while. She works her ass off to take care of me and my kids, and doesn't have an attitude about shit. She's agreeable, and fixed her credit issues she had when we got together, and did it by herself. I guess there's no reason not to be married.
Now I gotta figure out how to go thru the process of protecting my shit. I gotta make sure my kids and my house stay my kids and my house. She should obviously be included in anything that happens if I perish, but she is not gonna inherit my tiny empire and leave my kids in the cold like you hear so many stories of.
5 years ago I said I wasn't gonna get married again. But I guess the cold hard reality is that when you've got daughters, you need to teach them that they need to find a good man and hitch their wagon to them so they don't end up on Onlyfans. Can't be out here living in sin, doesn't set a good example for them.
She earned it. I don't really see a reason why we won't be together for a very long while. She works her ass off to take care of me and my kids, and doesn't have an attitude about shit. She's agreeable, and fixed her credit issues she had when we got together, and did it by herself. I guess there's no reason not to be married.
Now I gotta figure out how to go thru the process of protecting my shit. I gotta make sure my kids and my house stay my kids and my house. She should obviously be included in anything that happens if I perish, but she is not gonna inherit my tiny empire and leave my kids in the cold like you hear so many stories of.
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Congrats! My wife and I had a trust established with language such that everything is either already in there or would go in there when I croak. I imagine a pre-nup wouldn't go over very well with your lady, so it's probably the best way to go.
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was waiting for you to come out the other side of grieving for your first marriage and i think your pup passing prolly helped give clarity. be protective of your shit but dont cut yourself off from enjoying a person who actually loves you
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Kithani
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Aldarion
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Some of us don't need an electronic device to remind us we need to get up. I literally havent used one in something like 20 years, and I wake up at exactly the same time every day (5 AM in my case)
Imagine being non-functional, unable to do basic things like get out of bed by yourself, and then thinking you have some kind of grounds for criticizing normal and functional humans.