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Yes, call child services immediately. Poor kid, shit.

If the kid is threatening suicide you could just call the police if you wanted.

Either way, do it immediately.

Calling child services might be the first step to getting that kid out of a neglectful, damaging situation. Could save his life in the long run.

Make the call.

And why the heck do you have to take a test to drive a car, but not to have offspring?

lurkingdirk_sl said:

Calling child services might be the first step to getting that kid out of a neglectful, damaging situation. Could save his life in the long run.

Make the call.

And why the heck do you have to take a test to drive a car, but not to have offspring?

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Because parents have the right to fuck up the lives of their children.

Gavinrad_sl said:

Because parents have the right to fuck up the lives of their children.

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Yeah. Fuck that shit.

By some miracle of jesus we sold our house. Still claiming a loss but basically the neighborhood is doing the happy dance because we put so much into the house that everyone else now gets to use ours a comp. Our realtor actually got calls from people thanking him/us.

Living out of an apartment sucks balls - we close on the next house 30 June.

Kid's first birthday 1 July. Holy shit my life is insane. Somewhere in here we gotta work on number 2. Refreshingly, all of the completely obsessive researching I did into schools and neighborhoods paid off in spades - and is even better than I thought in terms of where we wound up buying. And my kids will be able to walk to middle school and high school. (We're talking less than a block and 2 blocks respectively).


Sooooooooooooooooooooo all you people with one year olds. What did you get your kiddos for their bday? I really want to get my kid the pirate water table thing by little tykes and a wagon.

Our 1 year old Bday part from last week netted:

-Little tikes water table(right now it's just set up inside without water, it's too cool out to play outside this week). Its pretty funny, he's actually using it as a walker indoors, he pushes the bigass thing all over the house, since it's pretty light without water in it.

-One of those musical/play tables that has a little kiddie keyboard, phone, etc on it with tons of buttons to push, It sings songs, teaches basic letters and numbers, etc

-Vtech plastic train/track set(maybe more like a 1.5 year thing, seems a little old for him right now, putting it in the closet for a few months)

-Set of plush cars that you pull back and they go. He's loving these, chases them all over the house, and they're plush so he can bite/chew them when he catches them

-Pottery Barn plush chair with his name on it(http://www.potterybarnkids.com/produ..._-NoMerchRules) He LOVES this, small enough to climb up into(its the only piece of furniture we have that he can actually climb yet) He can also stand in it and just barely look out the window, which he also loves. Plus the chair is basically just a form-fitting slip cover over foam pieces, so it's super easy to take apart and toss the cover in the wash when it gets dirty.

I think that was all the big stuff(tons of assorted books, blocks, etc too). We're going to get him a little inflatable kiddie pool too to put on the back patio this summer, but we're still about a month away here from hot/swimming weather, so we haven't picked that up yet.

We were thinking about a sand box or sand table, but he still tries to eat EVERYTHING, so that might be a next summer thing once he outgrows that phase. Also from friends recommendations, DO NOT get a water + sand combo table, it's apparently the messiest thing on the face of the Earth, you just end up with runny wet sand everywhere.

Saw this on reddit today. Omg is this my life.

One day? We don't even make it an hour... but I can't complain too much because it has helped my two year old with her speech tremendously.

We are having issues potty training my 3 year old, again. She is about to turn 4 and I have just had it, not to mention pullups are expensive as hell and she is using them like diapers. She understands how it works, she can feel when she has to go, she just doesn't want to. She will tell you, "I don't want to use the potty". I tried bribery before, we tried the "bare ass" method, which worked immediately with our oldest girl, but it didn't work at all. So we pretty much just gave up for a while and now I am trying to figure out how to approach it. Everything I read says the same thing, stay positive, don't make it a contest of wills because that further reinforces them. I got some candy maybe to bribe her with. I told her, I'll buy her a fucking car if she just goes in the potty, anything she wants, I don't care. But this time instead of being exhausted with the whole thing I am trying to be super-patient and just not put pressure on her. I don't even know if they will let her in kindergarten if she doesn't get this down so there is a timetable that she is unaware of that she has to meet.Plus, you know, I am tired of changing her ass.

My youngest - I was pretty sure he was going to prom in diapers. It was getting near four before we were done. With some kids, they just have to make the decision themselves, and the always do, of course. The nice thing about that situation is that it is nearly always a sudden "oh, I'm completely done with diapers of all kinds" sort of thing. It's coming, man. Soon. Hang in there, keep encouraging, be firm, let her know there are rules and it's time she's gets it together. I think one major contributing factor with my youngest was preschool. All the other kids were pooping in the toilet. It took very little time there before all day was fine, and almost no time after that when all night was fine, too.

Yup my middle one was almost 4 when we finally potty trained her. We could get nothing to work for almost two years. I'd finally had enough and spent a week doing intensive potty training. Set a timer to go off every thirty minutes for the first day and put her on the potty every thirty minutes. Next day, a bit longer and so on or a week. We didn't go ANYWHERE for those first few days and focused 100% on potty training. It was frustrating as hell, but she got it. I think it was day 3 that she was doing it completely on her own. Night time took longer but she's got that one now too.

If I left it to her, she would have been in diapers for a lot longer. Some kids just won't choose to do it on their own. We bribed: toys, candy, movies, etc. Tried being super patient and not mentioning anything to do with potty for like two months when our doctor told us she just might be ready. She was just stubborn though and I eventually just had to force it.

Get some cloth diapers and after theve done their big business let them play in your garden wearing cloth diapers (during summer temps ofc). Pee and the occuring wind chill will get their cold asses to potty asap.
Doesnt work with pampers and the like, since one use diapers use super absorbers to keep your kids dry.

My daughter turned 2 back in January. My wife is finally taking Breast Feeding off of the table, and at the same time trying to force her into being potty trained. I personally think it's a little much at once, but she doesn't. We began for 3 days ago (potty training. Day 1, we kept her in baby underwear, and she was constantly peeing in them. I guess they remind her of diapers. For day 2 and 3, we kept her in just a t-shirt and nothing on the bottom. It seems to work much better than day 1, except when the TV is on. She would rather piss where she's standing than turn away from it. We learned that yesterday, and have kept the TV off today as a result. No real accidents today, but it's still early in the potty training area to really tell.

Now we need to work on her hitting. Neither her mom or I have ever smacked her, yet she routinely smacks us if we do anything that isn't exactly what she wanted. It's rather frustrating. She'll smack you and you put her in time out, then she'll scream non-stop for what feels like ever. We even take her out of time out after 3-5 minutes, and still she screams. Upwards of 30 minutes. I don't understand it.

With potty training, the most important thing to remember is that the child feels in control. They can control going to the potty or dumping in their underwear. Understanding that it is one of the first things that a child feels they are solely in control of can help. Give them some more responsibility somewhere else and see how they do.

Xarpolis_sl said:

My daughter turned 2 back in January. My wife is finally taking Breast Feeding off of the table, and at the same time trying to force her into being potty trained. I personally think it's a little much at once, but she doesn't. We began for 3 days ago (potty training. Day 1, we kept her in baby underwear, and she was constantly peeing in them. I guess they remind her of diapers. For day 2 and 3, we kept her in just a t-shirt and nothing on the bottom. It seems to work much better than day 1, except when the TV is on. She would rather piss where she's standing than turn away from it. We learned that yesterday, and have kept the TV off today as a result. No real accidents today, but it's still early in the potty training area to really tell.

Now we need to work on her hitting. Neither her mom or I have ever smacked her, yet she routinely smacks us if we do anything that isn't exactly what she wanted. It's rather frustrating. She'll smack you and you put her in time out, then she'll scream non-stop for what feels like ever. We even take her out of time out after 3-5 minutes, and still she screams. Upwards of 30 minutes. I don't understand it.

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She may not understand it either. I'm just guessing but maybe she feels like she's being punished for HOW she feels. A lot of parents immediately jump to a punishment when kids hit because its terrifying as a parent. But the kid is just physically reacting to what she's feeling emotionally. /shrug

Xarpolis_sl said:

My daughter turned 2 back in January. My wife is finally taking Breast Feeding off of the table, and at the same time trying to force her into being potty trained. I personally think it's a little much at once, but she doesn't. We began for 3 days ago (potty training. Day 1, we kept her in baby underwear, and she was constantly peeing in them. I guess they remind her of diapers. For day 2 and 3, we kept her in just a t-shirt and nothing on the bottom. It seems to work much better than day 1, except when the TV is on. She would rather piss where she's standing than turn away from it. We learned that yesterday, and have kept the TV off today as a result. No real accidents today, but it's still early in the potty training area to really tell.

Now we need to work on her hitting. Neither her mom or I have ever smacked her, yet she routinely smacks us if we do anything that isn't exactly what she wanted. It's rather frustrating. She'll smack you and you put her in time out, then she'll scream non-stop for what feels like ever. We even take her out of time out after 3-5 minutes, and still she screams. Upwards of 30 minutes. I don't understand it.

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I tell you what, if my daughter would start hitting either of us at that age, she'll would of gotten a nice slap on the hand or the butt with the lesson not to hit people. I'm not really one to hit my kid but my wife has no problem in that regard. Luckily it has happened at very few instances.

I think my kid is >< to beginning to speak in single word/single syllable words. When does it usually start for most kids? 15/18 months?

Baby's cool new thing is rolling over. He does it in his sleep. All night long. And once he rolls over, he wakes up and starts crying. It's really cool. Haven't slept for longer than 1 hour at a time in the last 4 days. The second I put him down in his crib (asleep), he starts flailing until he's flipped over and awake again.