Parent Thread

lurkingdirk said:

Being snipped is awesome. I have sown my seed. It has done its thing. And now all the boinky-boinky I want without repercussions.

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ToeMissile said:

How old is she? Mine will be 3 early next year. Her latest thing is to spit or pretend to spit on me when she doesn't want to do something or wants me to go away. She did it one time mostly playing around and I made too big a deal of it. So now she knows I don't like it/she isn't supposed to.

The key to effective parenting of a toddler is redirection and distraction.

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AladainAF said:

So I have to rant here. Because I've wanted to express my anger and rage on the internet about something.

So a week ago about 7pm we get some indian people mom, dad, and 2 kids come over and one of the kids has a ripped/cut shirt. The mother jumps on me because she said her son said that my son cut the shirt on the bus and threatened to cut his finger off. Also said that my son often makes fun of him for being indian, his religion, and has on multiple times put his hands down her sons pants and several times the teachers saw it. Yeah right, lady. In my mind I'm like there's NO WAY that a teacher saw this shit go down and I never got contacted. So we smiles, nodded and said okay we'd see what we can do and that we'd call the transportation company, etc. She started to back into a "well its okay, i mean kids will be kids" and I'm like "No, you've made some really, really serious accusations here, I'm going to get down to the bottom of it." By thursday, I already had word from teh school they've gotten no reports from anything, and transportation showed me the video recording from teh bus showing my son doing absolutely nothing wrong, in fact one of the two boys was picking on him on the bus (not the one with the ripped shirt).

We were informed by transportation that they contacted this family, and spoke to them, and told them that nothing occurred. Additionally, the school called them and said no teacher witnessed anything like that. As for the racist stuff, my son is barely in the second grade, he's got no idea of those concepts yet and everyone at the school agrees that would be exceptionally out of character for my son. No one believes it.

So that's fine. We let it go assuming we'll get an apology or something. Nothing. Then, Monday this week (6 days after the first incident) my wife starts getting text messages from a different parent on how my son "hit their son with a water bottle in the shoulder" on the morning bus, and on the afternoon bus "took off his shoes and hit him so hard with them he came home crying and balling with a red mark on his face". We sent a text to this lady very nicely and calmly telling her that she needed to call transportation, they could help her, and they have a video of the bus. Additionally, we told her the red mark could not have been caused by our son because our son only took the morning bus, and not afternoon bus that way. This is confirmed by all logs, and he was present at his taekwando class, whic his who picks him up. There's no question he wasn't on that afternoon bus.

Well, this other parent is a RAVING LUNATIC. She starts being curt with us and telling us we have cold attitudes and amazed we're showing no sympathy for her son. We said we did have empathy for her son, if he had a red mark, something happened and she needed to find out what happened because SOMEONE hit him, but it could not possibly have been my son because he wasn't on the bus. She flat out said "I dont believe you". Well, awesome. So we said nothing more to this crazy lady and called transportation and the school AGAIN, this time on teh second issue, and again like the first, everything was reviewed, on both the morning and logs checked in teh afternoon. He was not on the afternoon bus as we already knew, and on the morning bus, there was a part where my son was twirling around the water bottle and it hit this kid (they were in the same seat), but appeared to be purely accidental and did not even interrupt the group of 4 boys total that were playing I Spy on the way to school.

So yeah, second time in less than a week my son gets accused by two parents who come to us directly on offense about how terrible my son is when in reality my son isn't doing shit. He's even playing with the kid during the second event in the morning. So we go to the school again because this lady said she had spoken to the principal. The school also reviewed everything again and agreed, there's nothing there. My son did nothing wrong.

So what happens, after this parent gets contacted by the school? She fucking runs to facebook and, not naming us or our son, goes on a rant about how there's a bully in the neighborhood beating her son up on teh bus. Of course, all her friends are all like "omg poor you" and "poor kid!" and such. It's astounding, and in the last 2 days, she's been responding to messages on this facebook thread, which has over 100 responses. She's offered to talk to the other parents "in private". We know she's smearing my sons name, btu cannot prove it. The school was then informed of this facebook thread and they said they best they could do would be to ask her to please remove it. She did not, in fact double downed on it, and is talking now about what horrible parents this kid must have.

So yeah. Not much I can do about it, and we're just ignoring it at this point, but we're making sure my son and these other kids in question do not associate in any way. But ho-lee-sheet it is a fucking wakeup call on how horrible and terrible parents are in 2019. You wonder why shit like Kavanaugh accusations exist? It's because of parents like this. This is perhaps one of the worst group of parents I've ever had to deal with.

Edit: I forgot to mention that whomever did hit this ladys kid got away with it because she is DEAD SET that it was my son and completely stands by that it occured on the afternoon bus, despite every single piece of evidence saying otherwise.

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ToeMissile said:

If you're going to confront the other parent , do it with school adminstration present in a scheduled meeting. Anything else and crazy pants is going to acuse you of harassment.

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So what happens, after this parent gets contacted by the school? She fucking runs to facebook and, not naming us or our son, goes on a rant about how there's a bully in the neighborhood beating her son up on teh bus. Of course, all her friends are all like "omg poor you" and "poor kid!" and such. It's astounding, and in the last 2 days, she's been responding to messages on this facebook thread, which has over 100 responses. She's offered to talk to the other parents "in private". We know she's smearing my sons name, btu cannot prove it. The school was then informed of this facebook thread and they said they best they could do would be to ask her to please remove it. She did not, in fact double downed on it, and is talking now about what horrible parents this kid must have.

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So what happens, after this parent gets contacted by the school? She fucking runs to facebook and, not naming us or our son, goes on a rant about how there's a bully in the neighborhood beating her son up on teh bus. Of course, all her friends are all like "omg poor you" and "poor kid!" and such. It's astounding, and in the last 2 days, she's been responding to messages on this facebook thread, which has over 100 responses. She's offered to talk to the other parents "in private". We know she's smearing my sons name, btu cannot prove it. The school was then informed of this facebook thread and they said they best they could do would be to ask her to please remove it. She did not, in fact double downed on it, and is talking now about what horrible parents this kid must have.

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