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yamikazo · May 6, 2020

lurkingdirk said:
Bros, give me advice. My kids are all supposed to have dentist appointments next week. The dentist is open, and the appointments are supposed to go forward. My anxiety level is moderate, but a dentist cleaning is a very close contact thing, and it is with someone who has been seeing people all day long. Am I being ridiculous to consider canceling them for now, and seeing how things are in a few months?

Not worth it.

The risk-reward is seriously skewed. By putting their appointments off for a few months or whatever, you marginally lose nothing. By keeping their appointments, you risk bringing the pandemic that we don't yet fully understand into your household.

Too many unknowns about how dangerous this is, especially to kids, to put them in harm's way for no good reason.

chaos · May 6, 2020

I took my kids to their well checkup. We took basic precautions, the pediatricians office was on top of it, no worries. My oldest has asthma, id rather get her checked out than deal with her getting sick with potentially more serious effects. Plus our pediatrician is all galaxy brain as fuck so we got a chance to get his input on who in our house is at most risk, what those risks look like in reality, what can we do,etc.

The dentist though? We canceled that, or rather it was canceled for us, and we haven't rescheduled. We do need them in there, especially my youngest, she keeps getting cavities and has a thumb sucking problem we are trying to break. But tbh we don't need the dentist for that. Emergency dental we would do, but routine stuff can wait.

Noodleface · May 6, 2020

Also personal anecdote - I have a friend that caught COVID at work (nursing home). A bit heavier than me (I'm 6'3" 230, he's 5'10" 298), but otherwise same lifestyle and everything as me (has the betes), two kids exactly the same age as my two kids. He was in the ICU for a full 30 days - they were doing experimental treatments, throwing literally anything they could at him. Family was prepared for him to die. He suddenly turned around and was released after a month, lost 48 pounds. They actually had to re-hospitalize him twice since he got out because he started getting sick again.

The moral of the story here is he almost died, just working. I ain't taking that risk by going to any medical office unnecessarily

ver_21 · May 6, 2020

lurkingdirk said:
This shit sucks. One of my daughter's colleges is already talking about distance learning in the fall.

With all the spacing requirements being put on restaurants, I really want to hear what the plan is for schools.

Our family dentist is only doing emergency work right now. Our pediatrician is keeping up with regular checkups by phone and drive-in vaccinations.

Arative · May 6, 2020

My kids have dentist appointments the first week of July. My wife and I have discussed cancelling them but we're waiting to see how things shake out with stuff reopening.

Had to take my son to the doctor for an ear infection a few weeks ago. It was pretty locked down. Masks on everyone, checking temps at the door. Only one person allowed with him.

Metalhead · May 6, 2020

Potty Training.

My daughter is two and a half. She will. not. go sit on the big girl potty. I don't want to force her to do something she doesn't want to do or is scared of for whatever reason, but Christ kid cut me some slack. Thing is she knows when she has to pee and poop she just prefers to go in her diaper I guess. I've got all the potty books we read her and shit like that but its like she just has zero interest in doing it like its a waste of her time. I've tried bribery and that didn't even work. Is she still too young?

Quineloe · May 6, 2020

I don't recall exactly how that worked out with our first daughter, but I do remember who I asked for advice and that puts us right there in the 2.5 years. What we ended up doing was just not putting on diapers anymore.

chaos · May 6, 2020

Metalhead said:
Potty Training.

My daughter is two and a half. She will. not. go sit on the big girl potty. I don't want to force her to do something she doesn't want to do or is scared of for whatever reason, but Christ kid cut me some slack. Thing is she knows when she has to pee and poop she just prefers to go in her diaper I guess. I've got all the potty books we read her and shit like that but its like she just has zero interest in doing it like its a waste of her time. I've tried bribery and that didn't even work. Is she still too young?

My first daughter, we just put her in underwear and she taught herself. There were accidents, lots of time sitting on the portable little potty chair in front of the tv, but she did it pretty much herself. With, of course, lots of praise and encouragement and rewards etc. Second daughter, we tried that, didn't work for a variety of reasons, if your kid has any kind of developmental delays that will be a factor, so just know that. Second kid took much longer. Third kid, same as the first pretty much. Something about the feeling of piss soaked cloth against their skin that is more motivating, in my experience, than stickers and shit.

moonarchia · May 6, 2020

chaos said:
My first daughter, we just put her in underwear and she taught herself. There were accidents, lots of time sitting on the portable little potty chair in front of the tv, but she did it pretty much herself. With, of course, lots of praise and encouragement and rewards etc. Second daughter, we tried that, didn't work for a variety of reasons, if your kid has any kind of developmental delays that will be a factor, so just know that. Second kid took much longer. Third kid, same as the first pretty much. Something about the feeling of piss soaked cloth against their skin that is more motivating, in my experience, than stickers and shit.

Stickers and shit in your pants would be more motivating. Just saying.

chaos · May 6, 2020

moonarchia said:
Stickers and shit in your pants would be more motivating. Just saying.

Yeah, do both for sure, but I think the shit/piss int he pants is what does it. The two of mine that were relatively easy to train, they just did it, had a couple of accidents and then just started using the portable toilet.

The transition from the little potty thing to the toilet, that was another whole thing.

Noodleface · May 6, 2020

We waited until our son definitely knew he was gonna go in his diaper (he'd hide) then we took away his diaper. Shitting your pants is a solid (heh) motivator.

chaos · May 6, 2020

Are any of you starting to take any measures to stockpile or otherwise guarantee access to certain resources? I feel stupid even saying that, but the stores here have been pretty fucked up since the end of March and have never recovered. Meat department has been wiped out almost 24/7 and now they're limiting purchases from all across the stores at every local store. idk what to do really, other than stock up when I can.

Pescador · May 6, 2020

Our first daughter was almost completely potty trained by the time she turned 2. We put her on the toilet whenever it seemed like she needed to go, or whenever it had been a while since she'd gone. Then rewarded and praised her for success. Was honestly pretty easy and not that much "work."

Second daughter is almost 2 and the only time we can get her to use the toilet is when we catch her right before she poops and rush to the nearest bathroom, or if we put her on the toilet right after she wakes up. Otherwise, she screams her head off if we try to place her on the toilet. Lots more work, less success.

So, each kid is going to go at their own pace, but I think being consistent and not giving up is the key. I really believe that constant help from parents can shave months (or years!) off potty training. When they are 2-3 you can't really reason with them so it's just a matter of trying until it finally starts to click for them.

It's pretty life-changing to not have to worry about diapers, and all that effort will be worth it!

Noodleface · May 6, 2020

chaos said:
Are any of you starting to take any measures to stockpile or otherwise guarantee access to certain resources? I feel stupid even saying that, but the stores here have been pretty fucked up since the end of March and have never recovered. Meat department has been wiped out almost 24/7 and now they're limiting purchases from all across the stores at every local store. idk what to do really, other than stock up when I can.

We started back in February and are rotating. It's not a massive stock pile but we could last a few weeks on it

Falstaff · May 6, 2020

We are having the hardest time getting my son to poop on the toilet. He is fine peeing but he still asks for pull ups to poop. Every time we tell him no pull up he will just end up shitting himself and crying telling us how sorry he is, so we know he feels shame when it happens. We’ve tried a couple all day sessions where we sit him on the toilet but he just holds it in all day and ends up with horrible diarrhea. My daughter was the exact opposite and similar to many experiences shared above...

Hosix · May 6, 2020

Falstaff said:
We are having the hardest time getting my son to poop on the toilet. He is fine peeing but he still asks for pull ups to poop. Every time we tell him no pull up he will just end up shitting himself and crying telling us how sorry he is, so we know he feels shame when it happens. We’ve tried a couple all day sessions where we sit him on the toilet but he just holds it in all day and ends up with horrible diarrhea. My daughter was the exact opposite and similar to many experiences shared above...

Had same issue with my oldest. He would hold it for 3 days to avoid the toilet. We just stood our ground but were very patient. He eventually got through it but it took a few weeks.

Of course his little brother was fully potty trained by 2 1/2.

Just stick with it and have patience. They figure it out!

Arative · May 6, 2020

Falstaff said:
We are having the hardest time getting my son to poop on the toilet. He is fine peeing but he still asks for pull ups to poop. Every time we tell him no pull up he will just end up shitting himself and crying telling us how sorry he is, so we know he feels shame when it happens. We’ve tried a couple all day sessions where we sit him on the toilet but he just holds it in all day and ends up with horrible diarrhea. My daughter was the exact opposite and similar to many experiences shared above...

Had that issue with my son too. He would pee all day on the toilet but wanted a pull up to poop. We made him sit on the toilet with a pull up to get the sensation of it. Then eventually we cut a hole in the pull up so he pooped in the toilet with a pull up on so he still had a sense of control. That worked once or twice until he started checking the pull up for a hole. Eventually we just started counting down the number of pull ups left and told him we couldn't get any more after these were all gone. We started at 20 I think and just counted down everyday and started making a point of letting him know we were almost done with them. Got to the last one, and made of big deal of it being the last one and after that he just started pooping on the potty.

Ao- · May 7, 2020

we've always maintained a stockpile of some degree, but we're moving and so we're clearing through most of it now while still buying "normal" food.

lurkingdirk · May 11, 2020

Just saw this. Might recreate it next year.

lurkingdirk · May 11, 2020

Also this. For those struggling with eLearning.

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