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Kovaks
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I am wary of baby einstein. Im sure this is either due to bad parenting or existing condition rather than the videos but one of my wifes dumb friends used to put her baby in front of them for hours on end thinking it would make her kid smart (and also she is lazy )... And the kid turned out to have mild autism. No science just a bad correlation in my head.
Joeboo
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I just use it as extra reinforcement, and honestly myself and mom & grandma(his daycare during the day) didn't know baby sign language at all, so we all kind of used it at the start to learn it. Now that his 3 main caretakers know it, we use it all the time with him, the video is just some extra repetition. Babies are all about repetition, the more you can say or do something around them, the quicker they are going to learn it.
I have no doubt that if all you ever did was plunk your kid in front of a video on TV, they probably wouldn't learn jack. 90% of their learning(if not more) is going to come from their interaction with the people that take care of them.
We're actually really lucky that since we had a kid at an older age, my mother is retired and free to take care of him, rather than having to go to daycare. She's a retired English teacher, she had me reading at a 2nd-3rd grade level by the time I started kindergarten when I was a kid. Hopefully she can help do the same with our son. Books are huge in our house.
I have no doubt that if all you ever did was plunk your kid in front of a video on TV, they probably wouldn't learn jack. 90% of their learning(if not more) is going to come from their interaction with the people that take care of them.
We're actually really lucky that since we had a kid at an older age, my mother is retired and free to take care of him, rather than having to go to daycare. She's a retired English teacher, she had me reading at a 2nd-3rd grade level by the time I started kindergarten when I was a kid. Hopefully she can help do the same with our son. Books are huge in our house.
OneofOne
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I concur. We read to our son every single night before bed. He's already got like 40 books or so. Our guest room has 9 large overstuffed bookshelves that holds my wife's and my books. I'm hoping my son finds it to be the treasure trove we think it is.
We didn't always have much disposable income when I was a kid, but one thing my mother ALWAYS could scrounge a few bucks for was books, when they sent home those Scholastic catalogs with us. I think it made a large difference, and I want to do the same with my son.
Oh, and for extra nerdyness (though my son is too young still), George RR Martin has a kids book out.
We didn't always have much disposable income when I was a kid, but one thing my mother ALWAYS could scrounge a few bucks for was books, when they sent home those Scholastic catalogs with us. I think it made a large difference, and I want to do the same with my son.
Oh, and for extra nerdyness (though my son is too young still), George RR Martin has a kids book out.
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My former mother in law was a 1st grade teacher for decades, and when she retired she gave me all her books for my kids. I've got reading books for ages 3 - 12. Hundreds of them. My kids read a lot themselves, but they also get read to a lot. We recently read The Hobbit as a family, now we've just started the Narnia books. We read a chapter together after dinner most nights.
It's amazing how many parents do NOT read with their kids. I think that's a game changer.
It's amazing how many parents do NOT read with their kids. I think that's a game changer.
Vepil
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Feel good parent moment. We live in Dallas, GA just outside of Marietta. Georgia is covered in ice fuck the snow its the ice under neath causing the problem. I left the office yesterday at 2 and took till 11 PM to get to my two year old's daycare. I had to walk the last 3.5 miles just google earth the path (ugg) in the shitty elements but when he laid his little head on my chest and fell asleep I was in heaven.
BTW people can say North Face is shit and it maybe compared to previous generations but for the south it freaking rocks. Chest head feet and hands were great, my legs well they were blue by the time I got to him. Everything is good we just got home about 2 hours ago and he is napping.
Also I agree we read with him at least 3 books a day and he has only books for the potty. Since we slept in his "classroom" at Primrose he asked me read all 6 "teacher only" books to him this morning. The smile and reactions to the books makes the 30 mins it took well worth it.
BTW people can say North Face is shit and it maybe compared to previous generations but for the south it freaking rocks. Chest head feet and hands were great, my legs well they were blue by the time I got to him. Everything is good we just got home about 2 hours ago and he is napping.
Also I agree we read with him at least 3 books a day and he has only books for the potty. Since we slept in his "classroom" at Primrose he asked me read all 6 "teacher only" books to him this morning. The smile and reactions to the books makes the 30 mins it took well worth it.
Thengel
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Baby born 1/7/2014. I feel so bad for my wife trying to feed him. At the 3 week appointment we were told he's under weight and not eating enough, which of course made the wife feed horrible. We've been to lactation consultants and the dr. and what not, but really, it just flat out sucks - and there's not a thing I can do to help. We're now on a plan of feeding and pumping both, feeding bottles to top him off. The pumping is pretty mixed results - worried we are going to have a time when we just can't keep up with the demand. Everyone makes you feel pretty flat out terrible if you ever use formula (or use a bottle at all, but we're past that now).
Next big hurdle - she's going back to work in May. Luckily we booked a daycare ahead of time, in October or November. Yesterday they called and said whoever they thought was leaving in May is not leaving, and they no longer have an opening. So much for planning ahead!
Next big hurdle - she's going back to work in May. Luckily we booked a daycare ahead of time, in October or November. Yesterday they called and said whoever they thought was leaving in May is not leaving, and they no longer have an opening. So much for planning ahead!
Joeboo
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Did they put you guys on any extra calorie supplement? Our kid was a preemie and had to take at least 2 bottles a day(pumped breast milk) so we could add powdered calorie supplement to them. We did that for about the first 2 months he was home and out of the hospital, he caught up to where he should be pretty fast.
Thengel
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No they didn't, although I should say I don't think it was a very serious problem. He was born at 7lb 14oz and at 20 days he was 8lb 0oz. The lactation people said to feed him 10 min. each side, then pump and feed him a bottle (from the last pumping).
Just feeding him pumped out of a bottle the last few days has been a big difference now that we can control how much he's eating - he's less fussy, sleeps better, all around nicer guy.
Now we are just worried the supply won't keep up - right now it's just barely keeping pace, she's not really able to pump anything 'extra' to stock up.
Just feeding him pumped out of a bottle the last few days has been a big difference now that we can control how much he's eating - he's less fussy, sleeps better, all around nicer guy.
Now we are just worried the supply won't keep up - right now it's just barely keeping pace, she's not really able to pump anything 'extra' to stock up.
opiate82
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Just make sure to reassure her that she is doing great and she can't beat herself up over it. My wife working in L&D and she will tell you that in her experience it is more likely a Mom is going to experience issues than not. Sometimes it is just that the milk doesn't come in fully (or is slow to do so) and sometimes the baby never really figures out the whole latching on thing. It isn't the end of the world if you have to supplement with some formula, wasn't that long ago when formula was the norm and breast feeding was looked down upon, those kids all survived.
I know some people who had three kids, the first and third kid were breastfed no problem the middle one flat out refused to latch on no matter how much they tried and worked with the lactation specialist. My good friends who just had a kid had to supplement with formula for a couple of weeks because her milk was slow to come in. What can you do? /shrug
I know some people who had three kids, the first and third kid were breastfed no problem the middle one flat out refused to latch on no matter how much they tried and worked with the lactation specialist. My good friends who just had a kid had to supplement with formula for a couple of weeks because her milk was slow to come in. What can you do? /shrug
opiate82
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Yup, that was the other thing that was funny about my friends situation I explained above. He read the company policy which said that men can use their PTO for paternity leave, but when he went to apply for it he was informed that only applied to the companies international employees. US employees were under a different set of guidelines which didn't permit PTO for men for paternity.
Falstaff
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Our situation was pretty identical. She was born the same weight and went down to 7lb 1 oz four days later at her first appointment, so the doctor immediately had us supplementing. Well my wife's milk never really came in even after she saw a lactation consultant and did basically every trick in the book to get those tits to produce milk. No one gave us shit for having to supplement... everyone was super comforting and telling us its no big deal because it isn't. Give the kid what little breast milk you can but yeah, your wife is going to be beating herself up over this for awhile. Took at least 4 months for my wife to finally "forgive" herself for not being able to solely sustain our kid on breast milk.
tl;dr supplementing is no big deal. stay off hippie message boards.
Joeboo
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While having several months off sure is nice, who the heck works at a job where you can take half a year off and it doesn't cause a major problem? A while back I read that there was 1 European country(Germany maybe?) that allowed a full year for maternity leave. How would an employer deal with that, they'd have to actually hire someone to fill positions while people were gone on maternity leave, that's nuts. Unless you're like a fry cook at McDonalds or something, most people can't disappear for a year and step right back in like nothing happened.
Izo
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That's precisely what we do in Denmark. Hire temps. Few are non-expendable. Work force is highly educated. Temps may gain a foothold as well. It's all good.
Eomer
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Often times, smaller companies are exempted from those types of requirements, because they're far less able to absorb losing a key staff member than a larger company.
Thengel
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I wouldn't say anyone has really given us shit if we use formula, it's kinda the opposite. Everyone pushes breastfeeding so hard and talks about all the benefits etc. that it just makes you feel like that's what you have to do. We did bust out the first bottle of formula last night, because what she had pumped wasn't enough and baby was still hungry. I think she has finally given up on breastfeeding entirely, it's just too painful. All pumping & formula from here out.
The lactation people keep saying it's "toungue-tie" and want to clip his frenulum. I don't doubt that's a real issue in some babies but our pediatrician says the lactation consultants really over-push this and actual tongue-tie is much more rare. I'm fairly certain we would go in, feel bad about getting him clipped, and it'd be somewhat better but in a week she'd still be torturing herself and give up on breastfeeding anyhow.
Kovaks
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Not necessarily a critical position. We Hired a temp when our assistant went out for 5 months she worked out well enough that we offered her another position when her time was over. For the more critical or specialized positions though we don't have that option it just means more work for us, when the portfolio mamager was out i added that to my normal workload until she got back.
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We had our son's frenulum clipped as well to help with breastfeeding. Didn't help one bit. He takes to bottles much better than breasts. Breastfeeding and work, even though there's laws about it, is still a huge pain in the ass, so he's on formula now. Hope there's no drawback to getting that frenulum clipped.