Pregnancy Thread

Eyashusa_sl said:

I had friends who wanted to adopt a healthy white baby (aka impossible) and didn't want any other race. They paid through the nose for marketing and shit. Then they ended up connected to some girl through their church and adopted her son and guess what... the kid is black.

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WAIT. Were they expecting a white baby? Are they upset now? I hope not...
People think they know what they want. I have an aunt and uncle who live in backwoods AL and their families are good ol' bama rednecks, racial slur slinging, yee haw.
They couldn't get pregnant and tried for years. They finally started fostering kids. They got a brother and sister toddlers who were mixed race. And guess what. They fell in love with them and adopted them. Surprisingly, their whole redneck family accept and love these kids.
These are the same relatives who used to lovingly refer to me as high-yellar and little American Inventor when I was a kid b/c of my dark skin+blonde afro. :/

TragedyAnn_sl said:

These are the same relatives who used to lovingly refer to me as high-yellar and little American Inventor when I was a kid b/c of my dark skin+blonde afro. :/

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Pics or it didn't happen.

TragedyAnn_sl said:

WAIT. Were they expecting a white baby? Are they upset now? I hope not...
People think they know what they want. I have an aunt and uncle who live in backwoods AL and their families are good ol' bama rednecks, racial slur slinging, yee haw.
They couldn't get pregnant and tried for years. They finally started fostering kids. They got a brother and sister toddlers who were mixed race. And guess what. They fell in love with them and adopted them. Surprisingly, their whole redneck family accept and love these kids.
These are the same relatives who used to lovingly refer to me as high-yellar and little American Inventor when I was a kid b/c of my dark skin+blonde afro. :/

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No they are very happy, but they were expecting and wanted a white baby. The birth mom is native american and mexican or something and she said the birth father was white. But the kid is straight up black. He is blacker than our friends baby who has a white father and a black mother.

Eyashusa_sl said:

No they are very happy, but they were expecting and wanted a white baby. The birth mom is native american and mexican or something and she said the birth father was white. But the kid is straight up black. He is blacker than our friends baby who has a white father and a black mother.

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That's a great story. I swear, 99% of the time, baby trumps all and makes everyone forget their BS.

Eyashusa_sl said:

No they are very happy, but they were expecting and wanted a white baby. The birth mom is native american and mexican or something and she said the birth father was white. But the kid is straight up black. He is blacker than our friends baby who has a white father and a black mother.

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That's a made for Maury story right there.

Little bit of a resurrection.
We had are next IVF transfer today. Pregnancy test will be in a week from Monday. Quick recap we are doing IVF with PGD (preimplantation genetic diagnosis) in hopes of filtering out a genetic disorder (Gardner's Syndrome) that I have. The first cycle of IVF out of I think 9 or 10 embryos only 2 didn't have the mutation. Turned those 2 embryos were not of optimal quality and the best embryos of that batch had the mutation. This cycle we had 6 embryos 3 mutations, 2 without mutation and 1 that didn't return a result that we may have them retest depending if the quality of growth is good over the next couple days. We will freeze that one. The 2 mutation free embryos were very good quality. The total opposite of the first cycle. Two of the bad embryos were low quality and the other was complete shit quality. So fingers crossed things go well this time.
BTW PIO shots are the fucking worse. Having to give those every night is the pits and she gets pregnant they continue for quite a while too.

Man, that is brutal that you have to stress about the genetic disorder on top of the normal IVF stuff. We ended up with 3 useable embryos out of 19 eggs harvested. Apparently that is a little low of a number, would not be fun having to worry about them getting through genetic screening as well. Keeping my fingers crossed for you as well. I am assuming that means you are transferring two embryos? That is what we did but were willing to accept the risk of twins.

As far as the PIO, after we got back our positive result they switched us to a weekly dose. It actually took us a while to get it because it kept crystallizing during shipping (middle of winter) but you might ask your doctors about that option.

Yes we transferred 2 embryos earlier today. After 5 IUI's and 1 IVF cycle so far I'll take the risk of twins also haha.
If we get a positive next week I think we will discuss some options for the progesterone shots. She did the suppository ones the first time around but our doctor didn't feel she absorbed the progesterone good enough with that setup. I just can't imagine having to administer these shots for another couple months but fuck if I gotta, I gotta.

Ouch Tred, not heard of your condition - sounds even more important than mine to screen for (oculodigitaldental dysplasia) - and after hearing all of the costs involved I decided to give up on any hopes of kids with the wife personally. Out of curiosity what's the motivation to go through that level of hell for one? She really motivated or something? Because being in a similar although IMO not as bad boat (no chance of ODDD being terminal - just costly and annoying/lesser QoL) it's a huge investment of time and effort to deal with plus the pain and heartache of failures - not to mention all the money. [My geneticist was quoting to expect a non-ODDD child with all the testing and treatment etc that we'd be looking at $50k minimum to guarantee a healthy baby if it took first batch and something around $250-500k was closer to the norm - and of course an ODDD child would cost $200-300k of corrective surgeries on the hands alone...]

My wife's insurance covers 2 ivf with PGD cycles. If these 2 don't work we will evaluate our options at that point. We would either use donor sperm, try to appeal for another cycle, or take the 50/50 chance the disease does or doesnt get passed on and try naturally.

Tred_sl said:

My wife's insurance covers 2 ivf with PGD cycles. If these 2 don't work we will evaluate our options at that point. We would either use donor sperm, try to appeal for another cycle, or take the 50/50 chance the disease does or doesnt get passed on and try naturally.

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PGD = The genetic screening stuff? That's amazingly awesome that your insurance covers that if so.

Yes it's Pre-Implantation Genetic Diagnosis. They only cover the PGD for certain things and what I have is one of them. It's more cost effective for them to pony up the $4000 for the test than have to pay out many times more than that over the life time of our child. It's a win win for everyone! lol
And tomorrow is the Big Day we will find out of this cycle worked. Wife is going bonkers. Business as usual for me ha. She has been crampy and a little queasy so we're hoping those are good signs.

Good luck! My wife was freaking out about the crampy while we were waiting. Even had a small amount of bleeding but it was pretty obvious it was implantation bleeding. After 4 years of trying I couldn't blame her for thinking the worst though. Even after a positive test I bet the "bonkers" won't go away. It finally got better for us after we got past the 1st trimester.

We have our anatomy scan on Wednesday for ours. I hope the baby cooperates as I don't want to have to pay for additional ultra-sounds to find out.

opiate82_sl said:

Good luck! My wife was freaking out about the crampy while we were waiting. Even had a small amount of bleeding but it was pretty obvious it was implantation bleeding. After 4 years of trying I couldn't blame her for thinking the worst though. Even after a positive test I bet the "bonkers" won't go away. It finally got better for us after we got past the 1st trimester.

We have our anatomy scan on Wednesday for ours. I hope the baby cooperates as I don't want to have to pay for additional ultra-sounds to find out.

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Cheapskate. You're the ones with bad physiology G'luck

Tred_sl said:

Yes it's Pre-Implantation Genetic Diagnosis. They only cover the PGD for certain things and what I have is one of them. It's more cost effective for them to pony up the $4000 for the test than have to pay out many times more than that over the life time of our child. It's a win win for everyone! lol
And tomorrow is the Big Day we will find out of this cycle worked. Wife is going bonkers. Business as usual for me ha. She has been crampy and a little queasy so we're hoping those are good signs.

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Hmm... interesting, maybe it's worth discussing it with someone on the phone over at the insurance if the wife changes her tune on things again. Being that my condition is one of the rarest ones on the planet (our diagnosing physician said it was THE rarest back in 1982 or so when she diagnosed us - about 1400 cases worldwide estimated with 400 confirmed or some such - pretty sure I've seen some conditions mentioned as rarer but not many), I know for SSDI they actually had to make a new category for me when they were doing my claim.

Perhaps her insurers do cover it, but since they didn't see (or recognize) the condition they just assumed the minute corner case didn't apply to her. Because the "cost of care over life" argument is a huge one with ODDD. [Seriously, counting the insurance portion - I had over $200k in surgery (in 1970-era dollars probably a half a mill now) on my hands alone ($10-20k per with 18 separate surgeries) - and from what I've gathered there's MORE preventative stuff that's recommended for the condition now....]

I'm glad I asked to make sure and that you elaborated, perhaps if the wife muses a kid again it's a remote chance of not draining us financially to do so. [And being that she's just started obsessing over the niece - I've got a feeling it's coming... heck, she just had a pregnancy "scare" recently that she sounded disappointed to get a negative result on after the fact (technically not from a test though - literally bought a testing kit that AM, and that evening when I was reminding her to use it she got her cycle... still going to test to be absolute once it passes though...)]

So test results back and her HCG levels are at 54. More blood work Thursday should confirm if she is indeed pregnant or not but so far so good.

Definitely look into it Vac. It sounds like something worth pursuing.